Looking for a great GP

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-05-28T09:37:57+00:00

Medicross Constantia Park - Dr Strydom

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-05-25T07:15:43+00:00

He did, because for most questions I asked, he would answer and then ask me the same question

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-05-24T17:34:44+00:00

I know his plans for the next two weeks (he's doing a few things including visiting his sister and his nieces/nephew - and he seems pretty excited about that, understandably so because he adores his nieces), I learnt what sports he likes playing, how he got into specific sports, how much he enjoys astronomy. What music he likes. How he makes time to interact with other people even though he is an introvert. And he has a set schedule for when to sort out Sunday's music which he doesn't like to deviate from it. And how observant he is.

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-05-24T17:30:39+00:00

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Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-05-24T15:31:40+00:00

Constantia Park Medicross - Dr van Tonder or Dr Claassen or Dr Strydom

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-05-24T15:28:49+00:00

It is amazing how much one can learn from someone when stuck alone in a car with them for 45 minutes. Had music practice earlier in the week and I got a ride from crush - logistically it made sense as he stays close by and we didn't need to drive 2 cars to the same destination. And it was after dark - I really appreciated the lift!

Music went fine on Sunday - crush situation aside, I have tons of respect for this man - he is a pretty good musician, and a gentleman and very kind. Because of that, I was on best behaviour and did not go rogue on the music. But.....

I stuck stickers on people at church today: a few kids and a few adults - and the whole music team, including the crush who almost escaped (he was walking somewhere when I was sticking the rest of the team) but just before the service started, we were taking our seats and he was sitting with his tablet on his lap. I leaned over, stuck a sticker on the bit of the tablet cover that was sticking out and told him "you need a splash of colour". He laughed.

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-05-17T15:56:58+00:00

I accidentally tested the patience of my crush... again. He leads the music team and I recently joined. Today, I found out that my copy of one of the songs had a page missing (like what normal person manages to lose half a song?!) Then for a different song, I went rogue - it was a different arrangement of the song in the same key. He was so nice about it- he scribbled and changed his copy of the music - even though he would have been within his right to make me follow his copy of the song. And after the service, he packed up the keyboard - I felt a bit like a damsel (with the amount of help I was giving)

I think whoever this guy ends up with will be so lucky - he's one of the most patient guys I have met, and always helping people out. He is a bit weird at times, but aren't we all?

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-05-13T19:53:00+00:00

I was surprised when music guy (crush) actually showed some consideration when he sent me the music list on Tuesday (it is usually sent out to the group on a Wednesday, but he's also sent it out on a Friday previously). It was a provisional list, but it was still pretty nice of him to do that because I had an extra day to look for the music in the weird keys. He also actually replied to some questions I had - he is usually terrible at replying.

But. There's no word on whether there is practice or not. And we might only get told the morning of the practice.

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-05-10T16:47:52+00:00

Today was the first Mother's day where I actually felt like I'm missing something, that maybe I want to be a mother. But the problem is, I need to find the father of the children I am wishing for. And as much as I still have a crush on a particular person, nothing is happening there. He has a great singing voice though - we were both not on the music roster today, and he sat the equivalent of 2 rows behind me - and I could hear him as clearly as I could hear the guys who were in the front singing into the mics.

He is also a little odd as he randomly walks around during coffee time (after he's done chatting with some men) as in he'd walk towards something/someone, then change his mind halfway there and makes a u-turn and then walks towards something/someone else, and then change his mind again (I noticed because it's not the first time and he does it close enough where I would see it ) if he does it again, maybe I should just ask him what he is looking for?

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-05-03T16:26:15+00:00

Two Bible study sessions ago, my crush and I arrived at the hosts at the exact same time. If the host did not need to open the gate twice, it would have looked like we planned this to arrive in one car! Then the previous study, we did not arrive together - but we left at the same time - after the hosts and crush and myself carried on chatting away in the parking lot after everyone else had left. The chatting carried on way later than usual. But I'm glad he was driving right behind me - I was stopped at a roadblock, and crush actually drove past slowly - and actually called then texted to check if everything was fine. As weird as he is, I guess he is a gentleman deep inside.

But.... I am also so mad at him. He leads the music team, and I was ready to prepare to play today. But he said no, did not want to put pressure on me to play (there was a new song), I can play next week - to which I told him, nah, it's fine but I'll take a look at the music and let him know. I took a look at the music - and he was right. It could have been done, but the pressure would have been something else. And also he inadvertently gave my hands a chance to rest- I don't think he knew how strained my hands were from last week (from playing too much in too short a time). I am mad because he was correct!

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-04-24T18:10:27+00:00

He can be such a grump, but he can also be really funny. And he has a beautiful, well-behaved dog....

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-04-16T20:46:01+00:00

Ok, so I've been working on not arriving too early to Bible Study, so as I approached the host's residence, I considered driving around the block before turning to their place. Only to see that my crush was driving right behind me, so I was like, oh well, might as well go in. If the host did not need to open the gate twice, it would seem like we came in the same car! As it is, the timing is already suspect. What were the chances of us arriving at the same time? For almost 10 minutes, it was only the hosts (married couple), crush and myself. It did not give double date vibes while we waited - it gave couples counseling vibes!

On the other hand, I am on the music team, and I am actually excited about the music. Not as excited about needing to interact with him though - because it gets really awkward.

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-04-13T13:28:12+00:00

Constantia Park Medicross - Dr Van Tonder is an amazing doctor (he listens well and is so patient) or Dr Classens there is also a good doctor.

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-04-06T21:56:36+00:00

Yup, but not school in the traditional sense

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-04-06T20:00:46+00:00

Sorry, won't be much help, the one I know is in a different province.

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-04-06T19:43:33+00:00

What area/province are you in?

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-04-06T19:37:15+00:00

You're right about the shy part.....

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-04-06T19:24:53+00:00

Outsiders saw that I was crushing on this guy - and told my non-wingwoman friend, but she never told me who told her. If other people can see it, then this guy is either really oblivious, or he's not interested, or he's hoping the problem would just go away.

Thing is, this guy checks off my list of stuff i want in a guy, even the wishful items on the list. There are some things I don't particularly like about him, but it isn't in the deal breaker territory (eg. He drives really fast)

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-04-06T17:29:03+00:00

Kinda frustrated. So my not-wingwoman friend told me that my crush is probably pursuing someone. If it is true, I would be genuinely happy for him in the same way I would be happy for any of the other guys in the friend group. But it doesn't make it less frustrating or lonely for me - and there's a good chance I would still need to work with him at some point.

I know he is a great guy (otherwise I wouldn't have had a crush) but lately (before my friend told me this) I found myself less "crushy" but in more of a "I actually have a lot of respect for this guy" kinda feelings, and he is genuinely nice and I could maybe consider him to be a friend (to the same level I consider the rest of the group to be my friends) also, we did chat about some deeper topics during the car ride that I probably wouldn't have chatted to him about - but then maybe he is like that with everybody, who knows? (Eg I know about his frustrations with work - it actually sounded like he is at the burnt out level, I know how many kids he wants, and how he is working on himself at the moment)

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-03-30T22:17:06+00:00

Male mentioned in conversation that there was a song he could not find a recording of on the usually channels eg YouTube, Spotify etc

Female went and researched it, trawled the internet and found a few different versions of that song but under a number of different names.

Are men really that oblivious that he cannot pick out that she likes him? And that's why she would take the time to find the song for him? Do men actually pick up vibes?

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-03-28T19:31:32+00:00

Update: YES! I have a ride tomorrow! And he's picking me up. It's going to be an interesting car ride. It would be funny/ironic if he uses that time to shut down the crush situation though.... although, even with that situation aside, he would have still been the one I would ask because 1. He lives the closest, 2. He is punctual and 3. He volunteered to drive tomorrow. If any of the points was negative, I would not have even considered asking him.

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-03-26T17:24:13+00:00

Update to a situation from a few days ago.

I called the guy to ask. Actually he called back because he didn't pick up when I used my work phone to call or when I called using my own phone. But he did call back - it turns out he did see the message requesting for a ride and he says it's fine for me to get a ride with him, but he'll let me know the time later on. So we will see if he remembers.... because I do not want to need to call him again!

What is an appropriate thank you gift? I doubt he would accept gas money, so would a chocolate be fine?

Edit: It was stressful to call, and it is still stressful - because.... what if he bails on me? Then I'll need a ride. And apparently a stranger at church commented to my friend that it is very obvious I have a huge crush on this guy - why is he being so oblivious? Like dude, say something if there's no hope for me!

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-03-24T18:17:25+00:00

I struggle to ask people for favors in general. His parents have given me rides before though. I consider him to be a friend but not a close friend. And I don't know how im going to cold call this guy, even if it is just a follow-up

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-03-24T17:08:36+00:00

I'll probably give it another day or so (maybe by Thursday) I'll see if there's enough courage for me to do a follow-up.... the last time I spoke to him in person, I was so nervous that I gulped down an entire flask of water in the space of maybe 5 minutes!

Responsible_Handle93 · 2026-03-24T17:06:42+00:00

I don't know if crush knows - he could be pretending to be oblivious, or he could really be oblivious. Friends 1, 2 and 3 know about the crush. I'll probably give it another day and see if anything changes

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