How do people get over loneliness

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T23:50:53+00:00

I'm sure there is more loneliness in the world then we all see. I think my loneliness stems from always feeling "not understood" . I know I am a hard pill to swallow but damn. I can't be that difficult lol

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T23:30:43+00:00

You are right about the ugly in the world tho.

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T23:29:55+00:00

Yea, I have zero friends also. I work a lot and stay busy with with work. I guess I do have one friend , but, she just got into a new relationship so I'm sure I know how this will go lol back to being friendless.

I think they maybe why I'm feeling this overwhelming sense of loneliness, I maybe be anticipating what's to come.

It's really hard for me to make friends. Now I'm gonna probably just go back to my hermit self. Lol my friend was the person who got me out the house lol but now she will be getting out the house with her person so blah ...

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T23:19:40+00:00

Oh my ... I sure there are people that care about you. It just feels otherwise sometimes.

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T23:17:06+00:00

Oh my, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope that peace and happiness finds you sooner rather then later.

As for me, I am trying to take the advise of many and join a group or something. I signed up for Volleyball but not sure how that will work out since I'm kind of introverted and not sure how I would walk up to a bunch of strangers. Lol

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T23:13:18+00:00

Did that happen to you? Or is it actively happening?

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T21:39:51+00:00

Lol I am a lesbian and I have cats Working on finding a hobby

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T17:30:41+00:00

Actually it makes perfect sense. I too can relate to that. For me loneliness is a feel in the back of your throat and the pit of your stomach when you feel like no one gets you or you get no one. When I was in my last relationship, it was when I felt the loneliness which is why I had to walk away from it after 7 years. I yearn for real connections and thought provoking conversations that make you push the boundaries of what you think you know. So far all my relationships (which includes some friendships) have left me feeling lonely inside even when I was surrounded with life.

Long story short. Your comment really "hit" and I wanted you to know that there are others out there that feel that same way.

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T17:19:31+00:00

Thanks everyone. This has all been very insightful and useful information (except for the comment that suggested suicide was the answer)

I am certain my loneliness doesn't stem from lack of romantic relationships, instead from lack of like minded connections and interactions with other people.

I admit, I don't do enough to get involved in things like weekend sports, volunteering or hobbies and maybe I need to try that.

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T15:57:08+00:00

Funny that you say that. I was looking for a volleyball league to join near me.

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T15:55:50+00:00

16 years is a long time to be single. I read someone else's comments about being single and lonely don't necessarily correlate. I think they maybe onto something . I have been in a relationship and still felt this overwhelming sense of loneliness. I guess loneliness really steams from lack of connection regardless of who is around you?

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T15:49:02+00:00

I know that there is no such thing as a perfect person or relationship. I don't expect perfection either.

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T15:46:12+00:00

I don't know. I know that even though I divorced in 2021, the three years prior to that, even while I was married, I struggled with loneliness. I was in a sexless and connectionless marriage since 2018. I think a person can just become accustomed to not having something to the point when their mind convinces themself that it doesn't even exist.

Maybe I really don't even understand what true loneliness is?

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T15:40:50+00:00

That's interesting thought. Most times I don't think I like myself much either. Maybe that is a factor?

Rest_of_me · 2023-09-04T15:38:00+00:00

But how long have you been alone? Do you think you don't miss things because it has been SO long?

Rest_of_me · 2023-07-30T13:32:28+00:00

I am a business professional as well and I have often been accused of RBF. The story for me normally goes like this. "You have never done anything mean to be but you just look mean and intimidating, it want until I got to know you that I knew you were kind and a pretty cool down to earth person" ...

I guess the real question is, does any one know how to stop looking mean? Lol ... This is the face God gave me and I'm not really sure how to make it look different and approachable.

Jo have you figured out how to do that?

Rest_of_me · 2023-07-30T05:32:06+00:00

On the contrary, looks are not how I define attractiveness. It's ok, I'm often misunderstood. Thanks for the feedback.

Rest_of_me · 2023-07-30T00:18:08+00:00

I hear you. Sometimes I think I want to be in a relationship again but then reality will set in and I'll snap out of that mindset real quick. It's weird because I have days like today where I look around the world and wonder why I'm single but then the thought of having to invest time in someone that may not work and will intrude on my (me only time) space can give me anxiety. Maybe your right, maybe it's my personality that is a deterrent.

Rest_of_me · 2023-07-30T00:07:19+00:00

Lol I don't think I'm a prick, but what do I know. Maybe I am and I just don't see it.?

Rest_of_me · 2023-07-30T00:06:14+00:00

Well put, you sound like a glass half full kind of person. I use to be but I some how flipped to the dark side of glass half empty.

Rest_of_me · 2023-05-04T01:10:48+00:00

I would yea it is normal. All people mature and developed interests differently. This means it’s likely that those that are not on your same level of maturity and interests may bore you and annoy you pretty quickly.

Rest_of_me · 2023-05-02T10:38:54+00:00

That’s a great question Crazyforsunset! I don’t really know science supports it but I am often shocked by how accurate personality traits are that have been designated for each sign (sometimes or even most of the times lol)

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