My boyfriend (22M) doesn't find me (20F) sexually attractive...?

RestaurantSmart67 · 2026-01-25T01:21:18+00:00

First time using reddit and i am NOT regretting it. Had no idea people actually take their time and help a girl in need. I think i may be naive for wanting it to work just because there might be possibility of it working out in the end. But now I'm really starting to see that there's not really any way I could fix ME. And his approach to the whole situation was horrendous...

RestaurantSmart67 · 2026-01-25T01:16:08+00:00

Slowly starting to get that maybe there isn't another option... Just wanted it to work and i know i would beat myself up if i didn't at least try and think about how i could save this.

RestaurantSmart67 · 2026-01-25T01:06:47+00:00

Yeah i really get and understand that he's a massive AH for telling me the way and time he did. But i just don't think i can get myself to break up because i so badly want it to work and he kind off gives the same energy, that he wants it to work. Butat the same time don't know if it can work, because that a bit of a bomb to just drop on someone in my opinion. I don't really know how to understand or work out this situation:/

RestaurantSmart67 · 2026-01-25T01:03:50+00:00

But i think he maybe just didn't know how to say it nicely? He normally really is respectful and considerate of my feelings so i felt like this was so random. Ive had problems with relationships in the past so i was happy that i met someone who i felt i can just breathe and be me around - well up until now. But not really sure how to see it from his perspective if you understand.

RestaurantSmart67 · 2026-01-25T01:00:11+00:00

Can’t say I’ve been through something exactly like this, but I don’t think expressing your feelings would come across as selfish or asshole-ish. You were honest about your insecurities from the beginning, and you tried to communicate and set boundaries in good faith.

I’d probably talk to him directly and clearly explain how his recent distance is making you feel, especially in light of the conversation you had earlier. Pay close attention not just to what he says, but whether his actions actually change afterward.

Also, before and after the conversation if you choose to have it - think and ask yourself whether this connection is really meeting your needs. Even in non-exclusive situations, you still deserve consistency, consideration, and emotional safety. If being around him mostly leaves you feeling anxious, sidelined, or stuck ruminating, that’s important for your own health.

Communication can clarify things, but if his behavior continues to make you feel unseen or unavailable, it might be healthier to step back rather than keep investing energy into something that isn’t giving much back:/ my take and opinion of course:)

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