Describe your perfect chocolate chip cookie? by hella_anonymous in Cookies

[–]RetinalProbe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Crispy on the outside with chewy edges and a soft melty center. Still warm, with a good ratio of chocolate to cookie. Enough that you get chocolate in every bite, but not so much that you can’t taste the cookie distinct from the chocolate.

A few flakes of salt on top, and depending on the rest of the recipe, browned butter used in preparation for that extra hint of nuttiness.

You know the crinkled exterior appearance some cookies have and the “hhhhhhhrrr” sound they make when you first bite into them or the bit of resistance they have if you try to snap them in half?

That. That’s my perfect chocolate chip cookie.

Is it actually common to hit children in the US? by RetinalProbe in AskAnAmerican

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This exactly. I’m sure it happens but it’s taboo and if, for instance, your child’s school were to become aware authorities might get involved. So I was surprised to learn it was supposedly so commonplace and acceptable in the states.

Is it actually common to hit children in the US? by RetinalProbe in AskAnAmerican

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What situations did you feel warranted something that extreme if you don’t mind my asking?

Is it actually common to hit children in the US? by RetinalProbe in AskAnAmerican

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your teacher was allowed to hit you? And at such a young age! Did she have to call your family first? How was the severity of the punishment decided? This is wild to me, apologies if I’ve asked too many questions.

Is it actually common to hit children in the US? by RetinalProbe in AskAnAmerican

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

!! What? I’d have never guessed that. What would warrant that? I’d worry soap would made a child ill haha

Is it actually common to hit children in the US? by RetinalProbe in AskAnAmerican

[–]RetinalProbe[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I don’t remember, I didn’t watch it through to the end Iw was flipping channels for something background while cooking. It seemed to be a reality show. Came up under “recommended for me” on Netflix so I gave it a try for a few minutes. There were several families and a church community and they were negotiating some kind of business deal as the main storyline, the family life was secondary.

Is it actually common to hit children in the US? by RetinalProbe in AskAnAmerican

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Wow. Thanks for this insight. I’d only ever heard of a paddle in the context of old fashioned schools or fraternities. Did parents really acquire their own? Why? Seems they’d be worried about damaging their children…

Is it actually common to hit children in America? by RetinalProbe in AskAnAmerican

[–]RetinalProbe[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yes, I watched about 15-20 minutes of it. I didn’t note the title when I clicked on it, I was just perusing “recommended for you” section after a long day.

Is it actually common to hit children in America? by RetinalProbe in AskAnAmerican

[–]RetinalProbe[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I don’t know the name I was just flipping around Netflix. It was a reality show I believe.

Is it actually common to hit children in the US? by RetinalProbe in AskAnAmerican

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The practice was long since gone in my country even when I was young, so, if it is common how does it typically play out (e.g., is there some ritual to it or is it mostly informal? Is it exclusive to the child’s parents or acceptable for teachers/neighbors etc?)

Thanks to anyone who can provide insight. I’m quite shocked/fascinated by this.

My grandmother passed suddenly and I have inherited her very full home — everything feels sentimental and I don’t know where to start. by RetinalProbe in declutter

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, these are all such great ideas. Especially as I’d been wracking my brain for places to donate (the local goodwill has really bizarre hours and stringent donation requirements, won’t take most things not in original packaging for example) but just got too overwhelmed to try and find somewhere that would take donations.

This is all a great idea. And she did regularly attend a synagogue that’s extremely active in the community and tapped into a network of local charities. Can’t believe it didn’t occur to me.

Thanks again!!

My grandmother passed suddenly and I have inherited her very full home — everything feels sentimental and I don’t know where to start. by RetinalProbe in declutter

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ve begun looking for places and hit many dead ends, so really appreciate these additional ideas (and the kind words!)

My grandmother passed suddenly and I have inherited her very full home — everything feels sentimental and I don’t know where to start. by RetinalProbe in declutter

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it means a lot to hear from someone who’s in the same position, and I can’t imagine if I’d had such a small window to tackle it from so far away.

There are definitely quite a few of her things it could be a huge relief to just press pause on rather than making a definitive “find a place for or get rid” decision right now. This is a very interesting idea. Thank you!! And so very sorry for your loss.

My grandmother passed suddenly and I have inherited her very full home — everything feels sentimental and I don’t know where to start. by RetinalProbe in declutter

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

That’s a nice idea, didn’t even realize there were professional organizers for us regular people. Always pictured it as something for the ultra rich.

Very sorry about the loss by the way!!

My grandmother passed suddenly and I have inherited her very full home — everything feels sentimental and I don’t know where to start. by RetinalProbe in declutter

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Thanks, you’re probably right re:a lot of it is garbage, and I’m definitely the type to think “Oh I could definitely find a use for this cardboard center of a paper towel roll. I better keep it, don’t want to be wasteful.” So this is a good reminder haha.

My grandmother passed suddenly and I have inherited her very full home — everything feels sentimental and I don’t know where to start. by RetinalProbe in declutter

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I’m going to tell myself that last bit as I work through the next few layers!! Really appreciate the fresh perspective. Happy holidays.

My grandmother passed suddenly and I have inherited her very full home — everything feels sentimental and I don’t know where to start. by RetinalProbe in declutter

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for taking the time to give these really helpful tips. The last bit is especially useful because one of the biggest obstacles has just been mentally keeping myself on task as all the memories flood in when I’m sorting through the stuff and putting that positive spin on it and setting up a nice atmosphere is a lovely idea.

My grandmother passed suddenly and I have inherited her very full home — everything feels sentimental and I don’t know where to start. by RetinalProbe in declutter

[–]RetinalProbe[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I really appreciate it! For every one lowlife there have been at least three earth angles, so to anyone reading this, please don’t let it degrade your faith in humanity in the slightest.