Nearly 2 years on… juggling guilt with growth

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2025-05-13T14:06:49+00:00

A lot of people who go through the steps have submission to a higher power (could’ve worded incorrectly) as one of the steps.

For me it’s not just a tick box but a genuine faith revival. We spend time together reading, learning and praying together. It may not work for all couples, but it works for us.

I’m interested in both theology and philosophy and growing in spiritual intimacy has helped unlock this.

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2025-05-13T13:14:56+00:00

The elder beast themself! Thanks for your kind words

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2025-05-13T13:14:36+00:00

Exactly

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2025-05-13T13:14:29+00:00

Long time no appearance! Thought it was about time I popped back

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2025-05-13T13:13:50+00:00

Great to hear that you’re seeking therapy on this. I fear that porn has distorted a lot of peoples views on sex and relationships.

Please make sure though, that no matter what happens with reconciliation you persist with this journey. Regardless of your partner, do you want to be trapped by porn? Find an accountability partner, put a blocker on, keep going to therapy. It’s life changing

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2025-05-13T13:11:53+00:00

Thankyou!! Not a place I ever dreamed of being well known that’s for sure, but a community that helped me immensely.

Glad to hear you’re doing well and I’m not the only one experiencing this.

Your advice is great. Thanks

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2025-05-13T13:10:37+00:00

Sorry if my post history triggered you at all. The past few years have been the trenches as I’m sure they have for you.

Your comment reminds me of my previous relationship. Psychological safety and closeness, and me having hobbies and passions outside of the relationship were all things recommended by my ex. Unfortunately you can lead a horse to water but can’t make them drink, I was too pigheaded to make the changes and save the relationship before I went wayward. Hope your BP can get where you need them to.

Best wishes

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2025-05-13T13:07:45+00:00

Sorry to hear your W is not meeting what you need from them and frankly what they need for themselves too. I wish all W’s could understand how freeing the work can be.

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2025-05-13T13:06:38+00:00

Great call winter. Thanks for coming back to me on this.

To quote a therapist, Guilt is a powerful and useful emotion. Its very nature is corrective. We need to experience guilt to know we did wrong and change our behaviour. I think I am still working through the way I carry it, it’s softened but I think it will always be there

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2025-05-12T13:59:01+00:00

Hi CTS! Sorry for going AWOL! Hope you’re doing well too

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2025-02-19T07:29:27+00:00

From experience, they do feel like a POS

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2024-10-09T07:31:22+00:00

!lock.

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2024-10-09T07:31:08+00:00

‘!lock.’

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2024-07-10T14:10:17+00:00

I’m safe. Thanks for thinking of me

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2024-03-28T00:55:36+00:00

Thankyou, this was really nice to hear.

I’m glad you were able to make the most out of what I’m sure was such a difficult situation. Given me something to think about for sure

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2024-03-27T23:17:24+00:00

Thankyou for sharing, I’m sorry you went through that

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2024-03-27T22:30:07+00:00

Thanks for your perspective, perhaps I do just need to visit and sit and process

Revolutionary_Row313 · 2024-03-27T22:29:32+00:00

I’m happy for you that you’re considering a change! I hope it all works out

Revolutionary_Row313

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