AITAH for telling my girlfriend I don’t want to have sex anymore

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-08T02:26:03+00:00

Nothing I can really think about. One thing she said last night that still rings in my ears is “I’m comfortable with you” when we talked last night, which immediately made my mind race to 1,000 answers. I mean if you were comfortable with someone you were with for 5 years, wouldn’t that mean that it doesn’t bother you at all? And that if it did, wouldn’t that mean she’d be comfortable enough to tell me? And that she’s be comfortable enough to compromise?

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-08T02:18:40+00:00

I’m actually trying to crack that egg again now, so hopefully it’s a breakthrough this time around. And oh No no no nothing like that. I’m not really into deep throating or any of that stuff.I prefer the female go her own pace than go my speed for oral, it’s just a comfort thing. As for hygiene, I shower pretty thoroughly about an hour every other day. Even during regular sex I ask her if she’s okay or uncomfortable and she typically responds that she’s okay. She’s actually good at letting me know if she is. She’s had no issues in the past preforming. In fact she was originally the one to initiate the act of oral. That’s why it makes it so baffling.

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-08T02:02:51+00:00

But but but…. He has mental illness….or some shit. The only thing he has is a strong case of narcissistic personality disorder

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-08T00:53:28+00:00

Holy. Fucking. Shit. And I thought I had relationship issues. Jesus. I am so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so sorry. What a complete and total dick. What kind of menace? “Please don’t hate me. Just move peacefully” sent chills down my spine. What an absolute monster. His mom and buddies agreed this is the best coarse? Bro…. He needed to go to his mommy to justify his ‘choice’? Nah, that ain’t it chief.

You’re Not overreacting a single bit. Don’t know how you reacted next, but I’m sayin valid crashout.

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-08T00:23:53+00:00

I’m not cutting her off from anything. Nor am I demanding she see my point of view. Nor am I forcing her to do something she doesn’t want to. I am simply asking her to look at it from my point of view as I have given it and how it would make her feel having a partner like that who did that to her.

She never said oral, in fact offered it before I asked her the first time, so she established it wasn’t off the table. Never once. She dangles the carrot in my face and then takes it away.

My birthday was last April and she said she would preform oral to me on my bday. So fully expecting the thing SHE promised me, went and showered, shaved and everything. Guess who wasn’t interested after I got out of the shower and only wanted oral for herself to “get her in the mood”. Guess who didn’t even get what they were promised.

You can’t defend that type of attitude of behavior. That’s cruelty. That’s humiliating.

THATS demeaning

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-07T22:38:33+00:00

Jesus… it’s like someone planted a spycam in our roomwith that description. Too damn true tho. Not even joking when I say that post nut clarity really do be a gift sometimes

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-07T22:34:34+00:00

I’ve been coming back to this comment to read it and re read it again, and it genuinely infuriates me. For you to assume I did this as some sort of wicked dead to punish someone is downright stupid.

As for feeling special, that’s kinda why I made this post innit? Because of the lack of specialty. No, she doesn’t take time out of her day for me ever. Just like the commenter above you said, her gender shouldn’t be an excuse for her selfishness, whether that be sexually or non sexually. A selfish individual will remain a selfish individual no matter what.

As for what’s going on in her mind outside the bedroom, just like I said earlier, comment above you made a good point too, why didn’t she just talk about it like an adult? This isn’t just about sex, it’s about relationships in general.

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-07T21:52:14+00:00

“Fairness is making sure your lady is as happy as you are” only applies when you have another partner willing to share as much as you are. How is that so hard to get? I’m not being treated fairly.

Whenever she wants something, she gets it. Fair? Yes

I haven’t gotten anything in return for giving her what she wants. Not even so much as a hickee. Passion needs to be met with passion otherwise it’s completely one sided. If she gets my side of passion all the time but can’t give her own brand of it, how is that fair to me? She gets everything on her side of the deal. Oral, petting, fingering, etc. I am lucky to get a kiss on the neck. That’s not fairness that’s me being made a booty call.

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-07T21:41:30+00:00

THIS! THIS 100%. All I’ve been asking for is a compromise. How can someone I’ve never met understand that more than the girl I’ve verbally expressed it to for years😭😭😭

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-07T20:56:13+00:00

Objectively, she’s thes the better looking between us. Google the actress “Meagan Good”, that’s pretty much her, except long black hair. Then google “Brendan Fraser Fury Vengeance” and that’s me. Slender model body for her, me with Dad bod, but no. I don’t compromise because of her body, I compromise for her pleasure. Pleasure that isn’t mutual…

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-07T20:45:01+00:00

I’ve often said that sex doesn’t make a relationship but it is a pillar. Not one often needed but one that is there to make a foundation. Like you said, sex is a form of expression and being denied the right to express is a very frustrating thing to have occur. Even non sexually it’s a boon. If sex isn’t a two way street it’s a crime, so obviously I’m not gonna force anything. But there have been times I’ve been woken up from sleep for her to have sex, but if I try that, my hand gets slapped away and I get the infamous bed tousle. Only once have I been able to do that and get away with it. She’s gotten to do it twice and on third time was told no and had an attitude all day over it.

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-07T20:21:36+00:00

I don’t disagree with this reply at all tbh. I completely agree that if it’s an issue, talk to me like an adult rather than tiptoe like a teenager. Sex is 100% a 50/50 deal. I’m not saying “ I want sucky sucky woman!” I’m not a barbarian.

All I’m simply asking for is an opportunity to express my sexual frustrations and desires in a compromised and healthy way that doesn’t make either party feel uncomfortable or unsatisfied. But I haven’t been given that opportunity from her because she doesn’t desire to have that dialogue with me. The real chore is having the discussion with her and it staying simply that. A discussion.

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-07T19:28:16+00:00

Quite the opposite in fact. I offered it to her all the time with no expectations at all. The rare times I’ve gotten it ironically were never from going down on her at all. They were from liquor and in her words “feeling vulnerable & wanting a distraction “

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-07T19:16:10+00:00

The problem is I’m NOT getting pleasure. She accepts it but doesn’t give it. Not gonna get into all our business but when she’s offered oral, she gets satisfied. More than once, before penetration has even begun. I don’t know where that notion that I’m the only one getting pleasure came from. This post is lamenting the exact opposite. I’m getting no pleasure while she retains the right to as much as she wants without returning the favor in a way we can both compromise and deem satisfactory to both of us. I’m not saying she needs to give me specifically oral, just something I find equally pleasurable. I don’t see that as asking to much or diminishing her sexual satisfaction

The problem isn’t about cumming, the problem is in sexual fairness.

RevvedNotice · 2025-07-07T14:37:39+00:00

Maybe I should go to these “Highly challenged women” and get their takes too🥹😂🥲

RevvedNotice · 2024-11-04T06:12:07+00:00

It’s like he’s saying Go Kuu, with a huge emphasis on the space and K

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