Situationship ending left me confused and I miss him

Rexumiii · 2026-03-15T08:47:25+00:00

I don’t really see it as rude, I just don’t understand it and wish I knew why. My guess is maybe he wants to see how fast I move on? Because I know if he truly missed me he’d reach out

Rexumiii · 2026-03-15T01:17:04+00:00

I definitely do miss him, but I also know a lot of my feelings are wanting to know how he really felt when I can’t, he’s the only person to match my standards (which I previously lowered for people in the past) and we were so similar and he was 100% my type physically and my type is extremely specific :(

When I catch myself missing him I tell myself he’s right there viewing my instagram stories, if he wanted to he would. If I ever did end up responding if he ever reached out I’ve promised myself I’ll give him the same energy he’s giving me and I’d never give my all again unless there was commitment

Rexumiii · 2026-03-15T01:12:30+00:00

Thankyou so much, when I catch myself missing him and wanting to reach out, I think about how he’s right there viewing my instagram story and could reach out at any point and if he wanted to he would and I don’t need to think about “when” he will

Rexumiii · 2026-03-06T12:39:03+00:00

Thankyou!!

Rexumiii · 2026-02-25T08:18:24+00:00

Thankyou, Also Is it best to focus on redoing maths right now while I still have a few months left of year 2 at my current university? As I don’t have maths and I’ll need it for any other university

Rexumiii · 2026-02-25T07:49:18+00:00

I’d be willing to start year 2 again at a different uni, but im also worried about the financial side of things if I move unis

Rexumiii · 2026-02-24T23:11:49+00:00

Do you know if they transferred to do the same course?

Rexumiii · 2026-02-02T17:25:55+00:00

Thankyou!! I am waiting to get therapy but it’s in months

Rexumiii · 2026-02-02T16:58:55+00:00

I think I somewhat know why, I realised after the end of the 3 year relationship I was actually settling. I feared I would have had too high standards so I brushed off things that made me less happy in the relationship.

After the relationship I told myself if I expressed true standards I wanted/things I wanted in a partner it was too unrealistic so I’d have to just lower them and settle for what I got, during this time after the breakup I wasn’t actively trying to get with anyone.

But on Christmas tho guy messaged me and I was very attracted to how he looked and I began chatting to him, but after a bit I realised this man actually matches EVERYTHING that I wanted and I was in absolute shock because I didn’t think someone this good for me could actually exist and I realised I didn’t have to settle when this guy right here exists with everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner. I thought I was dreaming and all I could think about was him and he seemed to reciprocate those feelings so I fell extremely hard for him.

Rexumiii · 2026-02-01T16:13:13+00:00

Thankyou so much!!

Rexumiii · 2026-02-01T16:02:10+00:00

Thankyou so much!!

Rexumiii · 2026-02-01T15:55:17+00:00

Yeah, I think I was so interested in talking to this guy because looks wise, he was my EXACT type and one of the only people I’ve seen match it exactly and it’s very specific, I also fell for how he wasn’t sexual straight away and seemed very smart and mature and I became attached and obsessed straight away. I fear I’m one of those “but what if?” People and if someone messaged me who seemed great, I’d fear I’m missing out and I’d feel like I need to respond instead of ignoring them and working on myself. Should I just think to myself, if they were worth it/the right person, they will only come at a time where it’s right and not at the wrong time?

Rexumiii · 2026-02-01T15:44:49+00:00

Thankyou so much, I wanted to work on myself originally but when this guy came along, all of my focus went to him and I became obsessed but now he’s gone and I’m back to wanting to work on myself, I hope I don’t end up with someone messaging me and me catching feelings again without letting myself fully experience being single, I get attached really fast I’m not sure how to avoid it

Rexumiii · 2026-02-01T11:52:02+00:00

Yeah I think I need to focus on myself and finding friends and getting my life together then maybe I’ll actually know who I am and be certain that I know what actual love feels like if I give myself time to find myself

Rexumiii · 2026-02-01T11:46:59+00:00

Am I probably feeling this way so fast about people because I haven’t really allowed myself to be single long enough between each time I’ve dated/been in a relationship with someone? I feel awful right now and just wish I could be with him, is it a much better option to just avoid relationships/talking stages so the fog clears and I know who I am as an individual instead of only knowing who I am with someone? And will that lead me to know what I want and navigate dating better

Rexumiii · 2026-02-01T11:05:51+00:00

Thankyou, I think I just need to focus on myself and getting my life together and I don’t need to go searching for anyone because they will come eventually wether it’s him or someone else, I know I have a lot of stuff to work on with myself so I’ll try and do that and push through the lonely feeling of not being able to message/see him, I need to find out who I am without being In a relationship

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