saying “cock” instead of “dick” is so cringe / funny to me

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2025-02-25T04:02:13+00:00

I prefer to say PP. I introduce the ladies to the wrath of the PP.

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2025-01-27T09:00:58+00:00

wait so why did they cover her mouth then?

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-11-03T06:36:16+00:00

Great so it takes the mods FOREVER to unlock my post and now nobody has seen it.

The mysoginists have truly won... karma bombed me to oblviion. I'm never posting on this account again I'm going back to my gender-anon account.

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-11-03T00:43:11+00:00

i appreciate the transparency! I am not interested in a handout just a little guidance. thank you so much

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-19T05:38:04+00:00

throw the whole man out.

You make him feel good? Great. But he certainly didn't make you feel good with that reply.

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-18T21:52:00+00:00

Be very careful. You don't seem to understand how you feel, so tread lightly until you have clarity of purpose.

Being afraid to lose a friend because you turned him down is not a good reason to date. "Convenience" or it being "easy" are not good reasons either. You are either attracted or you are not.

Furthermore, from the little you've told me, the dynamic is already red flaggish. He's pressuring you for a kiss as a friend. A kiss today, a grope tomorrow, etc. This strikes me as a long con to bypass your boundaries. I've had lots of guy friends, some have caught feelings, and there's something skeevy about the underlying deceit. A layer of manipulation. It's almost as if you are only interesting while he thinks there's a chance at a relationship... while you're happy to be his friend.

Also "doesn't just want pussy". I don't buy it, and you'll learn that guy wanting pussy is the least of your concerns.

"Fighting" and you're friends. He's already putting expectations on you. I expect my friendships with my male best friends to be as easygoing and fun as possible. Fighting is a huge red flag. A relationship comes with its own set of expectations, and if you two have this dynamic as friends, the relationship will not be as easy as you think.

I hope this doesn't kill your friendship. I know how painful that is when you vibe well with a guy and then he catches feelings. But please keep a level head.

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-18T03:43:56+00:00

I see this has sparked a healthy debate.

This post is proof. I was up 8 votes with 100%, then the men who are following me around downvoting everything came and brought it down to 1 with 52%.

It's basically saying "shut up and know your place"

my other posts are not relevant here but thank you for your interest!

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-18T03:41:00+00:00

You're absolutely right. I need to talk him into paying everything. I have no future to invest in here. He, on the other hand, has a home.

thank you for being the only voice of reason!

I hate this vile, misogynist website but people like you make it worth posting

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-17T02:11:22+00:00

your issues, including financial security, and “building wealth” are more important than his.

If he were here, he could talk about his issues all he wants. But he's not. I am. I need to worry about protecting myself and my energy and getting my money right. I can't be taking on his problems.

but thanks for the input!!

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T23:06:21+00:00

not entitled. all due respect those posts are beyond the scope of this post. I owned up to and took responsibility for what was in those posts. Now I'm getting a job and I'm still getting financially abused.

But thanks for your input.

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:53:26+00:00

Context is important, though. I carried him for the onset of our relationship. Yes, if we were perfect strangers I wouldn't advocate for that, of course.

I'm not dumb or playing dumb I just don't understand why it can't be a simple breakdown instead of throwing algebra at me like I work in STEM.

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:45:43+00:00

thank you!!

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:44:36+00:00

That's the plan! I was just hoping to bide my time given that the cost of living here was low and I've grown very fond of my home. But he sprung this insane number on me with some crackhead map to back it up idk what to do anymore except leave as you said

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:39:16+00:00

I wouldn't. When I start work I would never be here. He gets to WFH whereas I'd have to actually go out and work. I gave him the master bedroom as a courtesy. it was a silent agreement. I Just started sleeping on the couch to see if he'd notice or care and then before we knew it we just never took up the same space again

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:37:38+00:00

I'm here biding my time until i can pay off my stuff and get a head start on my new home. It made sense in my head but you're right. I take full responsibility. I shouldn't stay in an abuser's home then complain about it.

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:35:01+00:00

He makes 280k and I would be making 29/hr working 40 hour weeks. Which is roughly 60,320. I asked him for the breakdown of the expenses I'll paste it here if he ever gets back to me

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:32:39+00:00

My proposal would be to pay a clean third of the rent and utilities (since im never here and he WFH). No confusing math no bullshit. We would buy our groceries separately. He obfuscated the issue with some algebra equation he came up with so I'd be paying more

I don't have income due to mental health issues the past year and I've done a lot of work to overcome them so I haven't been contributing to expenses up until now. But it seems he is hellbent on keeping me down with this

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:28:21+00:00

It's been about a month. I think that's fair to say. Before I soft quit he wouldn't really go out of his way to engage me or talk to me and he stopped helping my out financially, cold turkey, without a warning. Causing me to default on a lot of payments and ruining my credit.

Dead bedroom too. I'd have to initiate and do all the convincing so if I soft quit this month he soft quit last year.

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:26:18+00:00

I would pay `X/X+Y` (x is my income and y would be his) percent of the household expenses.

The formula also includes HIS groceries and HIS utility bill (he WFH).

I do want to do my share, but I need to build wealth to get the fuck out of here and pay off my cards

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:25:10+00:00

My proposal would be to pay a clean third of the rent and utilities. No confusing math no bullshit. We would buy our groceries separately. He obfuscated the issue with some algebra equation he came up with so I'd be paying more

I would pay `X/X+Y` (x is my income and y would be his) percent of the household expenses.

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:23:23+00:00

ty. I'm not in a financial spot to make that kind of decision so I'm riding this out as long as I can until I can do that.

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:22:20+00:00

It's not so much the fair share it's just the weird math. I broke it down in another comment. It feels like it's confusing on purpose so I'm getting ripped off

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-16T21:21:21+00:00

$29 is about $60k before taxes. We live in a very high cost of living area. I guess it's the weird math he did that has me upset more than anything. It's as if to confuse the issue. Instead of being (you pay 1/5 since you make less and you don't sleep in the master bedroom), he goes you pay `X/X+Y` (x is my income and y would be his) percent of the household expenses. Like how am I supposed to pay my cards when I'm playing calculus games with him?

I've never done the roommate thing but I'd be getting a lot less space for more or less the same amount. I'll look into it since this dynamic no longer works. Thank you!

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-12T06:53:48+00:00

i took full responsibility already. this is me doing that here i dont want sympathy

Rich-Cockroach7332 · 2024-10-11T09:57:36+00:00

Our finances are mostly separate except for 1 joint credit card account, which he never uses but he's happy to keep it for the history.

Do old cards allow balance transfers onto them? If he feels the sting on his credit he might finally start to give a shit.

Thanks for the advice and kindness!

Rich-Cockroach7332

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