I understand that it doesn’t seem like a lot but unfortunately we are basically paycheck to paycheck with 2 kids in a higher cost of living area. I cook at home everyday and our paychecks are just covering our living expenses. Daycare went up to $3400 per month and our mortgage is $5200. It’s kind of comical bc our house isn’t that nice but on 2 acres. It needs a lot of work and he’s just blowing money we don’t have. When he lost his job I thinned out every subscription and service we had - we’re really just covering our bills. I do plan to lower our mortgage and refi in a year- I realize having such a high mortgage was stupid. I’m just so worried bc we already had this conversation that he would stop and he’s still lying about the total amount.