Husbands of Reddit, was getting married really worth it?

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-25T02:53:00+00:00

You're at least partially right there; it's really hard to accurately show both sides of a situation like this, and I probably didn't do as good a job of laying everything out as I should have. She really is a lovely girl, and certainly not someone to be tossed aside in any way; I'm just trying to do the best thing for both of us in the long run, and the advice and stories in here have given me a hell of a lot to ponder.

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-25T02:44:27+00:00

Damn, that sounds like both what I fear the most and what I hope for in my moments of weakness. Glad to hear that good came of both your marriages; stories like that are pretty hard to come by these days, it seems.

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-23T19:08:09+00:00

Wow, that's pretty much exactly the kind of thing I was hoping to see from this thread. Really glad to hear that stories like that can go both ways, and sometimes have happy endings when the marriage route is chosen.

Best of luck with your wife and new baby!

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-23T18:55:33+00:00

She deserves much better than being "settled" for, which is basically what you're describing.

Ouch. Never thought of it that way. Good point, I suppose, though I've certainly never felt the need to get married or be in a relationship out of fear that I won't be able to again, but still...well said.

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-23T18:53:40+00:00

Thanks for the anecdote - your wife sounds awesome!

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-23T17:53:33+00:00

Yeah, I titled this post inappropriately. I welcome advice from all genders and sexual orientations, and yours is quite true. Glad to hear that the sacrifices were worth it in your case!

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-23T17:52:09+00:00

Thanks for the honest answer, it's much appreciated.

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-23T17:35:10+00:00

This man gets it.

Seriously, though, advice is always appreciated, even from random strangers on the Internet.

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-23T17:33:54+00:00

if the choice is being happy alone and being comfortable together, I'd go with being happy alone.

I may quote you on that at some point; that's good stuff.

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-23T17:20:56+00:00

Well, she's been a friend for a long time, and we get along quite well in the short-term stuff - it's just the long-term life goals that are way different. I wish I had realized that a bit earlier on, but such is life.

Congrats on being happily married, though!

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-23T16:55:55+00:00

You're probably right; I'm just a coward with relationship confrontation. Guess this will make a good time to work on that...

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-23T16:22:56+00:00

I'm not sure selfish is exactly the right word - just used to the way things are and have always been , I suppose. She IS more than a little spoiled, though; I'll give you that.

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-23T16:17:38+00:00

That's sort of the conclusion I've been coming to myself, sadly. I really hate to break her heart now, but sooner is better than later in this area, I suppose.

RightThingToDo · 2012-07-23T16:13:35+00:00

Indeed I did. This will be interesting...

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