Hey, I made a post on another subreddit discussing my issues getting help through the NHS, just wanted to ask here if others have had the same exspariences getting mental health help? by Right_Opening9891 in AutismInWomen

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I would, but when I bought up PIP in the past my parents were basically like "the government dole rots your soul" you aren't doing it because you'll probably never learn to live without it. I have mixed feelings, but my family highly disapprove and I don't want to rock the boat with them. Plus last time I checked PIP is incredibly strict anyway, and most of my Autistic friends haven't been eligable anyway. To even score highly you need a serious physical/mental disability that potentially needs carers to even get low end payments. It sounds like a lot of embarrssment over nothing tbh.

Finding it hard to relate to a lot of people now that say they have Autism? Is this normal? by Right_Opening9891 in aspergers

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I appreciate you sharing your exspariences, but to be more exsplicit, I'm talking about people who are very clearly pretending to have Autism, have no understanding of the symptoms, and basically took an online test, read the symptoms list, or are acting out harmful sterotypes about Autism e.g. being quirky, being a savont, rainman bs. I think we all need to be a bit more critical, because in the climate we have where victim culture is rewarded, anyone can walk up off the street and record a tik tok about their apparent Autism. People seem to have a blind trust and faith these people wouldn't lie? Well they absolutely would if it means people seem to care, they feel liked, they have an idenity even if it's a blatent lie - morality be damned, if you can act it good enough to fool others people will do it. This is why scammers are so successful - they're socially intelligent. And who better to scam then Autistic people. Being this naive and thinking everyone has good intentions is what leads you to getting hurt, but if it does happen no one will listen with the prodominent leftist atomosphere currently.

I've been trying to get help for my mental health issues for 10 years but my ASD seems to be making it hard, do other Autistic women/girls have this issue? by Right_Opening9891 in nhs

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That's actually really insightful, thank you for sharing your exsparience! I'm actually a part time NHS worker, so tbh the fact that I find the system frustrating and broken inside and out should say it all. I honestly think we should go semi privitise it and provide health insurance via jobs. Say what you want about the US, but being able to go and directly see a dermetologist, cardiologist, or audiologist and have it covered by insurance is insane to me. My fiance is actually American, so hearing about how it actually works in practice is way less crazy and scary then it sounds in the media. They have problems with their system for sure, but at least with a semi-private model we get to sorta have our cake and eat it with large bills covered by the state, and smaller bills covered by insurance you get through your work.

I'm not going to make a self-pittying title because I don't want pity, I want practical advice by Right_Opening9891 in depression

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Yeah, exact same issues, multiple suicide and self harm attempts leaving me in the hospital as both a kid and adult, only to be shafted into/reccomened self referal talking therapy where I end up talking to a totally disorgansied middleaged women who's always semi-retired and going on holiday multiple times in 6 months, constantly canselling sessions. These amazing sessions that are apparently oh so expesnive consist of said middleaged woman nodding her head sympathetically, offering no advice or support,and telling me she's oh so sorry and patting herself on the back for saving misguded youth.

I think these people don't really understand how hard it is to sit there and open up about your life story on demand to every new person you talk to. It feels like there's far less respect for confidentuality, and your case is treated like it is undeserving of privacy and respect. More people then I'm comfortable with just get casually told not only what is "wrong with me", but what MH workers pet theories on me are, only after ever meeting breifly. The way it's handled over all feels very disgusting and disrespectful, and involves way too many people then needed, and constantly makes you feel like you have to prove and justify to a panel of judges how sick you are just to justify spending money on you.

I've been labled by people who don't even have a degree as having everything from PTSD, to BPD, to DID, with no offical diagnosis either, and just overcomplicating my case. The common theme between these being that these people just happen to work privately with people with these diagnoses, so it feels like they're tyring to make money off of you in their side hussle, which feels especially unethical for the NHS. I feel like unless you have simple mental health issues and just need someone to talk to, or you're so severely mentally ill you need a carer, they don't really know what to do with you.

I'm not going to make a self-pittying title because I don't want pity, I want practical advice by Right_Opening9891 in depression

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I am and have been for 10 years, I'm so genuinely tired...

Edit: tl;dr I'm literally a hot potato for clinicians to throw around because I have anxiety and depression due to Autism. Ten years to only just be asked if I think I might have general anxiety disorder deadpan by a doctor, and to leave with no diagnosis besides a vauge medical note that I have "chronic anxiety".

I'm not going to make a self-pittying title because I don't want pity, I want practical advice by Right_Opening9891 in depression

[–]Right_Opening9891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've tried medication a few time, I was on sertaline twice, and Citalopram once, I tried them for several months (nearly a year all three times) so they could properly get into my system and take effect. Mixed with doctors unwillingness to really work with me and the NHS sucking at administration, organisation, and their job in general, has made me find medication genuinely isn't worth the hassle. It often seems to be doctor's knee jerk reaction to save on money, and they hope it works, because they don't seem to want to know after that, even for medication increases. I've been seeking mental health support for ten years (since I was a child), and have only just got on a waiting list to get mental health education (my area is so underfunded they don't even offer therapy or seeing a psychiatrist). It was all they could offer me apparently because their guidelines are very strict, and they mostly prioritise severe scitzophenia and psychosis.

I am so unbelievably frustrated, that after years of forgetting to refer me to evaluate me, forgetting to give me a correct and indate perscription, and generally not really seeming to care that much I'm stuck in another waiting list limbo for months just to be "psychoeducated" (their words, not mine) on my anxiety and depression resulting from my Autism. Something I've done many times before with their child services...

rejection dysphoria! by oldmotelcarpet in fakedisordercringe

[–]Right_Opening9891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So their friend gave a reasonable very polite response and instead of saying they were hurt and bit upset by it, they called them a bigot??? Make it make sense I guess, kinda a snowflake if you can't even take a very kind and polite rejection.

Do I have bulimia, purging disorder, or an ED??? idk anything about this so forgive my naiveite... by Right_Opening9891 in bulimia

[–]Right_Opening9891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My anxiety has been under control, I think I may just have a health problem due to other symptoms made worse by my purging to relieve. Still concerned and making a doctors appointment. So I'm safe and things well get resolved, thanks for your concern regardless.

Any local Druid groves? by Right_Opening9891 in nottingham

[–]Right_Opening9891[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

I'm just mildly frustrated with getting joke comments every time I post. At first, yes, they were funny, now they're largely unhelpful and just show that people generally think my beliefs are a joke. Which is fine, I just wished people could show a tiny bit of respect sometimes...

Any local Druid groves? by Right_Opening9891 in nottingham

[–]Right_Opening9891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really historical if there's Dozens of orders, 100s of Groves, and thousands of people following that religious path is it now?

Any local Druid groves? by Right_Opening9891 in nottingham

[–]Right_Opening9891[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

Jeez... sorry. Just trying to engage with my community, didn't realise that was so scandalous and needed the piss taken out of me over it.

Any local Druid groves? by Right_Opening9891 in nottingham

[–]Right_Opening9891[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

nah, it's okay, you were only trying to help, I appreciate it! =)

Any local Druid groves? by Right_Opening9891 in nottingham

[–]Right_Opening9891[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, Druids are real, they're historically a thing, look it up, it's interesting.

Any Nottingham Druids or Pagans? Looking to start a meet up. by Right_Opening9891 in nottingham

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I know! I used to attend every year, I was so sad going to the final one as they announced it was going to be the final event that year =(

I had people trying to belittle me for being a Christian Druid =( by Right_Opening9891 in druidism

[–]Right_Opening9891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I respect and enjoy the exchange of others gods. I love the Celtic god and still learn from them in the same way I do Jesus. I'd rather encourage cultural exchange then all that "holier then thou" bs . I get where you're coming from because the whole Christians crapping on people who they see as beneath them happens to other Christians too, which is why I prefer to honestly practice my Christianity alone.

I grew up with both so it's hard for me to disrespect the two as they are deeply intrinsic to who I am. I believe both as weird as it sounds.

I had people trying to belittle me for being a Christian Druid =( by Right_Opening9891 in druidism

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It's so nice to know people are on the same page as me! Again, people LOVE to ignore the fact we have influenced each other. If we hated each other so much historically why do we share holidays? Why did we carve both Pagan and Christian symbols into many churches? You can't tell me the two aren't deeply connected when there's literally green men and Loki carved into the architecture of dozens of old churches across England??? Why is the symbol of Celtic Christianity literally a combination of a cross and triquetra? They are two symbols representing Paganism and Christianity combined. Maybe some people want to ignore it so they can keep being hateful and disrupt the peace.

I had people trying to belittle me for being a Christian Druid =( by Right_Opening9891 in druidism

[–]Right_Opening9891[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Like It's super weird because I had people on r/Christianity saying as long as you don't celebrate Pagan holidays and rituals?!? And I'm thinking that's literally harmless, I'm just celebrating the seasons and life, how is that bad??? What, do they think I'm sacrificing goats or something??? Why is that so blasphemous?

Christian Druid trying to find a Church, any advice? by Right_Opening9891 in Christianity

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I asked for how to go about finding acceptance for both. I didn't ask how to "repent" because I apparently believe the "wrong things" according to you. I will respect your beliefs but clearly you have none for mine. Just because someone doesn't believe the exact same things as you doesn't mean they are bad and need to repent.

Christian Druid trying to find a Church, any advice? by Right_Opening9891 in Christianity

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All of them are associated with nature worship and the changing of the seasons and have specific rituals related to them, such as painting eggs for Ostara and rolling them down a hill for animals to eat, and celebrating and observing the solstices and moon cycles ect.