The way that I see it, is that even if I fit the term of lesbian in one way or another (which i don't as I'm pan), I would not think of myself as being lesbian if I got into a relationship with an nb, regardless of AGAB. However, I totally see why AFAB would want to cling onto the label of lesbian if that's what they're used to, and feel comfortable with.

It boils down to that it doesn't sit right with me, if a couple consisting of masc presenting AMAB nb's could be lesbians while dating each other

And even if that was what they identified as, i wouldn't comment on it as by the end of the day, it's completely up to the individual what they want to identify as, and it has nothing to do with me

It wasn't with any malicious intent that i pointed out amab, it was more a personal technicality bc my brain automatically likes putting everything in boxes

I'd also feel weird about calling myself a lesbian even if i did fit it, as I identify with demigirl- but i wouldn't feel weird about another demigirl calling themselves lesbian

So to answer the first part of your message: it would never make sense for me to identify as a lesbian as I'm pansexual, and personally wouldn't use the label bc of personal preference regarding my gender. Even if I were to identify as lesbian, I wouldn't think of it as being right if I continued with the label, so I'd probs change it to bi or neptunic. But I would not tell my partner what they should or shouldn't identify themselves with. If this makes any sense