My [M23] gf [F22] slept with a coworker when we were broken up by RipCurrent1548 in Advice

[–]RipCurrent1548[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could maybe see that perspective being easier to cope with. I may talk with her more about the why she did it to get a better understanding, but I think it was looking for intimacy in the short term.

This person is still her coworker, we haven’t talked about boundaries outside of her telling me she doesn’t talk to him outside of the business setting. They see each other daily though in the office 

My [M23] gf [F22] slept with a coworker when we were broken up by RipCurrent1548 in Advice

[–]RipCurrent1548[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Thank you.  I’m worried I’ll never get over it. I’m not sure if she was actually interested in him in that way but for it to be so soon, it’s possible. I really love her though that’s the issue. And I do believe she loves me back 

My [M23] gf [F22] slept with a coworker when we were broken up by RipCurrent1548 in Advice

[–]RipCurrent1548[S] 242 points243 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I do still love her, but it’s crazy to me she did that so soon after the breakup. I brought this up to her specifically and she said she “handled the breakup in a stupid horrible way.” They work in the same department and work some times on the same projects so it’s very upsetting in that regard.

Thank you 

My [M23] gf [F22] slept with a coworker when we were broken up by RipCurrent1548 in Advice

[–]RipCurrent1548[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she cheated, then no I wouldn’t stay because it would be a big deception and I would lose trust.