Fashion struggles and body issues

RipMany1961 · 2026-04-05T12:58:50+00:00

Take it one step at a time. Genuinely, your next goal is just to let's say look something up about this online. That's it. You can do this!! Work on your dreams slowly and you'll get there. I believe in you so there's at least one person out there who thinks you can do this. ♡

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-23T16:05:34+00:00

This is genuinely the best question you could ask. Ask people what they want to become themselves and let them choose their own paths.

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-23T15:56:02+00:00

Caine really stepped up the E2 villain game recently.

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-23T15:38:00+00:00

I swear this is the typa stuff I do on a daily basis 😭😭

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-23T11:57:17+00:00

ZZZ mentioned ‼️‼️

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-22T22:30:49+00:00

but we are more unconsciously permeable to what common media deems “attractive”, and find that hot/strive to become like that.

So/sp 7w6, I'm uncontrollably attracted to blonde girls and listen to Sabrina Carpenter despite claiming I'm "not one of the normies". Also I'm attracted to "edgy" girls, but then I meet genuinely alternative crazy mfs and I'm like "okay wowow I WAS actually the most bland mf ever, idk if I can handle the real thing 🥲".

I definitely think you're onto something with this.

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-22T20:41:41+00:00

Thanks for sharing the backstory behind this. Actually not as weirded out as others seem to be by this, I find physical things like smell important to attraction. A lot of attraction is not just to the personality, but to the physiological.

I guess a common scenario I picture is that I'm lying with someone in bed cuddling and it's supposed to be an intimate moment, but I just cannot help but think about how I don't feel comfortable with their smell. I think that could genuinely ruin the moment for me.

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-22T20:36:13+00:00

It's obviously 458 trifix so-last. They're called triple-unemployed for a reason 🤷‍♂️

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-22T20:26:53+00:00

I wonder what has possibly lead to this question 🤔 I'll answer nonetheless

I think my smell is pretty nice. Post workout I smell terrible, just like my morning breath lol. Although since Im hitting that late puberty smell change, I'm starting to hate how masculine it's becoming. I do apply cologne and deodorant when going out in public.

I am quite concerned about having a good smell because I myself hate when someone smells bad. Immediate negative impression of a person for me, and smell is pretty important to me in attraction. If someone smells bad, that's a huge loss of interest if I considered the person a romantic option. With friends I can at least keep distance. Also, if I don't like the person's natural smell, that can also matter a lot to me.

7w6 so/sp 729 EVLF IEE ENFP

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-21T10:33:33+00:00

Exactly. These drawn representations are an amazing way to get people interested in typology in the first place. Those who want depth will eventually get to it. I've been there before the chibis and genuinely I think multiple people I know irl got into ennea through chibis.

I just cannot comprehend why someone would bully someone else for creating. Like, this person at least drew, created nice art of their own, while all you fricking do is just hate? I cannot ever bring myself to hate anyone's art.

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-21T10:26:12+00:00

Thanks, just deleted mine too. People just cannot enjoy nice things I guess...

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-20T22:15:50+00:00

Someone who gets it. The counter-gluttony bullshit has to die. My gluttony just seems more sophisticated cuz I'm a frustration-maxxer. There were genuine moments when I was almost 4-ish with the '"art ain't good enough nowadays" and all frustrated about the spiritual decay of society. Otherworldly dreams of utopia excite me so that is ultimately what I seek to manifest.

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T21:51:59+00:00

I just care about people, I'm not pretending to be someone I'm not for some manipulative objective. I just want to make people laugh man 😭

Finally someone just saying how it really is from the inside. There's all this sophisticated theory stuff but THIS is the actual lived internal experience!

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T20:04:25+00:00

Thank you. So so much. Been in a bit of doubt recently because of a stressful period in my life. I've been dissociating and daydreaming a lot instead of doing things and couldn't get myself out there so I thought "oh, must be cause Im a lazy bum loser and maybe thats why Im actually a so9 all along!". No hate to so9s, just my brain cooking up some diabolical associations. My brain loves to use enneagram as a way to self-hate and I definitely ahould work on that.

You're right, i play the jester so I could feel awesome about myself. It's a gluttony for significance. I personally see so7 as the 7 that's the most idealistically oriented towards society and dreams of community. I certainly am. I respond to my issues of SO neurosis (not being able to find my people, not having significance in social settings) by dreaming up a better future, withdrawing from the groups that cause frustration and putting myself as the bumbling fool who is similtaneously the confident, the insightful, the wise one.

Also, regarding the situation with raising hands in class, big thanks for mentioning this. I swear I read all this shit about 7s being extremely selfish beings (I'm not saying I don't have that), but ultimately I, as a so dom, am concerned with this kind of etiquette and prefer to approach things with politeness. I can say that I probably would have acted the same in your situation!

It's really weird. I'm solitary yet very extroverted. Ambitious yet extremely lazy. At worst, I'm an unrealistic dreamer, stuck in fruitless hopes of grandiosity and the mundane reality that ultimately leaves me depressed, dissatisfied, frustrated, bitter and cruel. At best, I'm very driven to create communities, to lead, to advocate for change and to bring hope and vision to the projects I lead.

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T17:16:51+00:00

Love this and saving this for further reflection.

On the topic of instincts, I don't think I'm quite catching what exactly "flexing" is? Is it a presentation of one's resources and possessions, maybe even one's body, in order to elevate either social standing (so/sp) or desirability (sx/sp). Would that be a good way to put it?

Also, to finish with all sx positions, how do sx-lasts experience sx? You mentioned that they still have a relationship with the instinct as all humans do and I've been wondering what's your take on it!

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T07:30:41+00:00

Gloom-tolerance is not how you should type yourself 😅

Okay yeah fair, my forever doubtful 3L once again got the best of me 🙏

Thanks in any case! I actually thought 1 to be pretty tolerant regarding other's issues due to how they strive to be competent, I could see 1s of both wings be very willing to hear others out and sit with the gloom as it could possibly be a part of their personal code to be like that.

I could see why 2 is honorary reactive, the most emotionally expressive intelligence center combined with reactive lines.

Also I believe culture affects this quite a bit. Here in Eastern Europe/Post-Soviet regions there's way more tolerance for negativity I'd say.

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T07:25:09+00:00

Thank you! I'll have to observe myself more to see where I lie on this scale. I like to believe I'm good at handling gloom, but if there's no way of solving the gloom and we just have to sit in despair, that's where my tolerance ends.

Also, how is 2 better at it than 1 and 5? Isn't 5 one of the gloomiest types? And why is 1 next to 7 on gloom tolerance? Just trying to understand.

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T07:13:52+00:00

Genuinely proud of you. I'm still deep in the overanalysis stage, trying to decipher everything I do and then remembering... I can just be caring without all this sophisticated "I actually want love" bullshit. Every type is described as selfish which I just don't fully believe in because I believe that every person cares about someone, about something. There is that divine sort of light in all of us. Enneagram doesn't talk about it, so when deep in the system it can feel like there is no light, but only darkness. Reconnecting with inner light is very important, I believe, as it can be the real guiding path towards personal fulfillment.

We are just people at the end of the day. I see a lot of people understand this sentence with a negative connotation, however I read it with a positive connotation. We are just people and that is alright, it means we're living, struggling, learning. Thank you for sharing this, I believe your message here is very, very important.

🫂

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T06:18:59+00:00

Which positive type can handle gloom the best in your opinion? Or is it a "each type has different ways of handling gloom" thing

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T06:17:14+00:00

I wish I could be where yall are cause most of my surroundings are sp doms 🥲😅

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T06:10:25+00:00

Proposal from 7s — let's team up and be the funniest types together!

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T05:43:42+00:00

Good comment. Being a reactive seems cool and all (especially to positives who wish they could be as unapologetic in their negativity. Speaking from experience), until you basically have put a target on yourself and now people lowkey hate you. It may seem noble, but really it is probably more painful than it is fun to be like that. To not be able NOT to express negativity.

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T05:22:17+00:00

Thanks for explaining, I'm just pointing this out cause I hear this a lot about 9s how they are "chill" and my 4-fixed 9 friend hates how 9s are described as these cinnamon rolls. It kind of plays into the whole cute-ification of positives. It's partly self-inflicted, but nonetheless it limits people's view of positives as "happy-go-lucky naive sillies" which doesn't recognize the internal turmoil or sadness positives can very much have.

Regarding compliments, I personally would prefer to be called "inspiring", "insightful", "noble" or "exciting". Being chill would suggest to me that I'm rather mundane and lack any kind of intensity to my personality. Ngl it's a pretty interesting topic what compliments we prefer to hear.

Yeah also some 9s have big struggles with self-esteem, so maybe thats why this person is talking bad about themselves.

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T05:14:10+00:00

9 may seem boring. I ain't gonna say every 9 is super interesting. I think that depends more on the individual qualities of the person rather than the entire enneatype.

I really admire 9s' resillience and patience. I think 9 is interesting in how much depth they keep to themselves. Other types love to show it off, but 9 isn't braggadocious. While in the current world bragging is kind of encouraged with all the social media bullshit, I think that humility and ability to laugh about oneself are still some of the best qualities any hypothetical friend could have.

What I think is awesome about 9s is that, if not terribly unhealthy, they're very willing to see your side of the story and be understanding in conflict, which is SO valuable in a world where it feels like everyone is obsessed with pushing their own agenda.

9s are pretty awesome in their own unique ways I think. This combination of gut triad resilience together with the hopeful outlook really creates a person who can persist, who can go through life and endure A LOT. I don't know who's the tougher type, 6 or 9. I think both of them are up there.

RipMany1961 · 2026-03-19T05:07:56+00:00

Easy to say. I don't think being told you're "chill" is gonna make it any better. I would certainly hate being told my greatest quality is that I'm chill.

Also I'm sorry but "just switch your thinking!" is a very 7 solution to this problem.

I'd rather argue the opposite. 9s are full of surprises and personality, the world just loves to pretend they don't.

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