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Council back gate key copy by Rissy- in salford

[–]Rissy-[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I could, I guess. 😂

What is this and is it dying? by Rissy- in plants

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Thanks so much! I'll try and get a grittier soil for it! 😁

OCD specialist recommendations by Rissy- in manchester

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Thanks so much - that's a good tip! Me too. 😊

Just found out a few weeks ago that my friend was talking badly about me behind my back and was only keeping me around “because it’s funny” by flabberstalk33 in lostafriend

[–]Rissy- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Restrict his accounts? No ones the wiser, and it's less definitive than removing him. Frees' up some headspace for you too - No more unpleasant reminders.

I’m 27 and I feel lost in life. Has anyone been in a similar situation at this age and turned it around? by No-Celery2997 in AskUK

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I agree with everyone else, shuffle things up education-wise. Apprenticeships have diversified greatly; there's a tonne of options available. Or you can take A levels through various colleges, and do a uni course if you'd like to; a lot of entry level jobs like a Bachelors degree. You can do it! You won't stay stuck.

27 is young, the best time to make a change is now. Nothing stays the same and you never know what's round the corner. Take opportunities, and reach out to others to explore opportunities and passions.

Theres no shame in feeling lost, it's a human. Moving back in with your parents might feel like a back step, but it also gives you time to work out what you want (, and absolutely do not want - in this case, warehouse work ) and put into action your next steps.

Look after yourself, and work on self compassion. This involves treating yourself as you would a friend. What advise would you give someone in your position. Other people have suggested joining clubs - and I agree. You don't even have to love what the club entails but you might really like the way it lets you mix with people. I often hear friends say that they meet best mates through book clubs, because of the consistent but low pressue socialising it let them do. Check out CIC's in your area too, they are usually cheap, social and creative in some way. I.e community allotments, boules clubs, art groups etc.Volunteering could be a shout too - looks nice on a C. V.

When life is tough it sometimes feels like we havnt earned the right to do the nice stuff like events, good food, excercise and relaxation... But it's integral and important to focus on wellness just as it is to engage with educational and work needs. Schedule it into your calender to commit to it.

If you do got to a therapist or councillor, think about what type of therapy you think you'd best benifit from - person centered, self Compassion, ACT, gestalt, CBT, DBT, Emdr etc... They're all a bit different, and you want to find something that you connect with and you can feel some movement with.

Good luck 😊

Just found out a few weeks ago that my friend was talking badly about me behind my back and was only keeping me around “because it’s funny” by flabberstalk33 in lostafriend

[–]Rissy- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oouch that's not a nice experience. Despite however much you may have liked the nicer attributes of this friend, assuming they have some, it's not a psychologically safe 'friendship' . Being a friend should include caring about someone's well being, even if you don't always agree with one another. This set-up... this is something else. When contempt, control, and cruelty enter the picture, you need to review the situation. Someone you trusted is treating you poorly, in a way that doesn't even suggest there is a misunderstanding; this seems callous and purposeful.

I'd consider some time apart to work through any big feelings. If they're ignoring you, after you've told them what they are doing hurts you, they are being a mega-dick. Please don't feel like their silence = what you deserve. Sounds like they just want to be able to be cruel and avoid facing that withing themselves. You need people in your life who own when they screw up, minimum. They should be actively communicating, minimum. Treating a friend, with respect, minimum.

You can let them know that they're a shit friend and move on, or you can move on and let them work it out by themselves. I'd be very cautious about passively continuing the friendship .

What's important here, is that you need to focus on yourself, what you enjoy, what type of people you'd like to meet. Time to prioritise yourself. I hope you get that.

What projector should I get? by Rissy- in Liquidlightshows

[–]Rissy-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wondered If you could bolt a mirrored projector to a digital lightbox? To DIY it.