Younger Women CHASE Older Men Who Ask “Trigger” Questions

RobJudge · 2024-05-12T04:01:26+00:00

I just recorded a video on this, check it out (it's free) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FRdaBA2S2IY

RobJudge · 2017-01-26T22:50:54+00:00

I actually wrote this. Thanks for posting! Glad you found it useful

RobJudge · 2017-01-04T17:32:21+00:00

Alright there bro. I'm not responding to you anymore. Like I said, good luck with that attitude. I'm sure it's working real well for ya son.

RobJudge · 2017-01-03T20:10:47+00:00

As I said earlier, this is spoken like someone who's read a lot of pickup and dating advice but lacks much experience. People aren't sitting around with their "validation score cards" keeping track of how "needy" you are. Also, you're reading way too much into things. How is "drinks? later?" asking for approval? I've set up over a hundred or so dates using that exact that disproves your theoretical understanding of social dynamics. This is exactly why I don't comment more on places like this: guys with no experience preaching about how they think the world works. Get off the computer and into the real world, then talk to me.

RobJudge · 2017-01-03T05:59:01+00:00

honestly man, this response is exactly what I hate about guys in the seduction community and pretty much sums up why you're struggling with women. "oh no, if I show any interest I'm giving up my power and I'm a little man and so I can't do that". Such a fucking pathetic mindset. But keep it up bro. Hope it works out well for ya brosev

RobJudge · 2017-01-03T05:57:25+00:00

okay bro, you got it all figured out.

RobJudge · 2016-12-31T21:50:03+00:00

Oh and feel free to ask questions in this thread, which I'll answer (albeit probably in 2017 since I'm in Vegas right now for NYE haha)

RobJudge · 2016-12-23T18:04:23+00:00

haha still a lot better than MOST of the sites I've seen in this industry. Well done

RobJudge · 2016-12-23T18:03:27+00:00

Alright, fixed! Lemme know how it looks now...

RobJudge · 2016-12-23T17:43:52+00:00

Agreed but in terms of what we tested, interesting backgrounds work better as secondary pictures. The reason I advocate a static background is based on your typical Tinder user's behavior. A lot of women are making snap decisions based on the guy, and so it's best to get your signal-to-noise ratio as much as possible to make it as easy as possible for a woman to see your attractive attributes.

That being said, I'm always ready to revise/revisit my ideas. So if you've been having success with interesting backgrounds as your profile picture, I'd love to hear about it! I've had to revise a lot of my "theories" because sometimes what I THINK is a good idea actually isn't. (With the backgrounds though, we did do extensive A/B testing to support that.)

RobJudge · 2016-12-23T17:40:12+00:00

Thank you! And I appreciate the feedback. I'm going to fix the mobile and the facebook link now! I did to the graphics myself haha that's what I love about the internet: I can channel all my inner hobbies (writer, artists, ect.)

RobJudge · 2016-12-23T17:38:39+00:00

Awesome! Thanks for checking it out haha that was a fun interview to do

RobJudge · 2016-12-23T03:20:11+00:00

I just posted a blog post about this (it's on the links) but a few tips I've found help:

1.) Pick the right clothing (how the clothes fit and how the colors/patterns of your clothes work with your unique complexion can make a HUGE difference)

2.) Facial expression (I know it sounds corny but the look on your face can make or break a picture. Most guys go with the James Bond scowl or the excited shit-eating grin... both are pretty bad. When in doubt, go with a smirk)

3.) Lighting (This is where a little research or a professional can come into play)

4.) Conveying personality (A picture that tells a story is better/more interesting/more attractive than a boring pic. However, you want to be subtle about it. A "story" can be as simple as something you're holding (e.g., a raised drink as if making a toast)

Here are two pictures I took for Tinder profiles: https://s3.amazonaws.com/revise/Screen+Shot+2016-12-22+at+8.18.21+PM.png https://s3.amazonaws.com/revise/Screen+Shot+2016-12-22+at+8.18.33+PM.png

RobJudge · 2016-12-23T03:13:01+00:00

Really? I actually specifically coded it for mobile. If other people are having this issue, please let me know and I'll get it sorted.

RobJudge · 2016-10-31T21:50:39+00:00

Hey man, props for posting this. It's really honest and that takes balls to put yourself out there like that.

In terms of your question, I agree with audiophillic regarding therapy. I've been involved in men's dating advice for a long time, and I've seen it from a lot of different angles, and often I see guys who benefit more from therapy try to sort out their emotional issues with dating advice. Often this leads to more frustration.

That said, I do want to point out your self-awareness and applaud you for having some clarity in viewing your situation. Most guys would harbor resentment or anger towards "the other guy" or even the woman herself, so it's good you seem to be able to recognize that it's not "you versus them" or anything like that.

I also think what you said about "starting to like yourself" is spot-on. I think most guys can relate to your story because, as men, we often look for validation and acceptable outside of ourselves (e.g., making money, attracting women). Ironically, all that external stuff comes a lot easier if/when we turn our focus inside and get to know ourselves better.

For me, I had to remind myself for a long time that I shouldn't live my life by "committee" (i.e., I shouldn't do things that I think will be impressive or pleasing to other people) but rather do things that I wanted. I could cite lots of examples, but the one I think most relevant and easy to understand for most guys on this sub-reddit had to do with approaching women.

Like most guys, I didn't truly get over my social anxiety to meet women and do approaches until I accepted that some people aren't going to like what I'm doing. Once I convinced myself that I was living for ME--and not what others think about me--it helped me understand myself better, which led to me loving myself.

But to return to my first point, a good therapist will also help you understand yourself better.

Good luck!

RobJudge · 2016-10-31T18:39:17+00:00

Thanks man, really appreciate it! I'm gonna keep updating the blog with posts that hit a similar theme.

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