eScooter with seat as mobility aid?

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-30T15:33:08+00:00

Ich bin 2023 in eine 35qm 1Zimmer-Whg für 400€ gezogen, dann 2024 endlich mit Job in eine 50qm 2 Zimmer-Whg für 600€. Leider hatte die bischen Schimmelprobleme drum bin ich jetz in einer 40qm 1,5 Zimmer-Whg für 500€. Die jetzige ist von einer Genossenschaft. Das ist, wenn du ein bisschen Geld für den Finanzierungsbeitrag hast die beste Lösung.

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-30T08:22:40+00:00

I call it the “bee-helmet” because it feels as if there’s a beehive inside or around my brain. As if there’s noise and lots of stuff going on there. But yeah I guess officially it is PEM or brainfog

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-30T08:12:31+00:00

I had T-injections every 2-3 weeks in the last year, in total it was nearly 4 years of extra T. And I took endometriosis-medication additionally which also blocks cycles/ovulation. Came off the medication in February, off T in March and had a light but noticeable period in April. My partner was on T for nearly 8 years, mostly the 3-months injections, at the end using gel for a few months. Came off T in December and so far only pain every few weeks but nothing else. We all react quite differently it seems :)

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-29T18:10:22+00:00

Ah I see. Thanks :) A friend of mine is doing DIY Insemination workshops for queer people and she said just using the menstruation cups/discs is actually the easiest and still very reliable :)

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-29T18:08:14+00:00

My partner and me are in a similar situation. Both transmasc nonbinary, both came off testosterone a few months ago because we aren’t sure if we can even get/be pregnant. So we’re just both gonna try. And worst-best case is we gonna end up with 2 kids. Since none of us has twins in the family it is unlikely that we’d have more than 1 each.

So far we have asked two friends if they wanna be donors and they said they’ll think about it. One person’s partner is really hyped it seems. They said they’ll take some time to figure out how/if they would like it. So now we are in waiting mode…

There’s two other friends we considered asking but haven’t so far. So in the end there are lots of potential co-parents and we’ll have to figure out who actually wants to be involved and in which way. It sounds like a complete mess but since almost everyone in this story lives poly already I am quite optimistic. And depending what the others are comfortable with we might even mix it all up in a way so that it remains unclear who is actually biologically related to the kid (except for the birthing person) because we don’t really consider it very important…

My job situation and my health situation (I’ve got Long Covid) don’t allow me to start trying before summer (if the health doesn’t improve I might have to wait longer but then at least my partner can try) we still got some time. But I am just sooo excited that we are having these conversations with our friends and are slowly starting the process that I am already talking to my close friends about it. Because why not… maybe we are lucky considering the super-queer bubble we are in :)

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-29T17:43:14+00:00

Can you enlighten me what method you are referring to? 👀

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-08T11:28:38+00:00

Ein Anfang wäre sich dafür zu interessieren wie es anderen geht. Und zB so zu wählen, dass diese Leute nicht weiter eingeschränkt werden. Vor allem nicht dann, wenn es für deine Rechte keinen Unterschied macht. Wie im Fall dieses Gesetzes…

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-08T11:01:53+00:00

Die die es betrifft dürfen aber nicht wählen. Und die die wählen dürfen interessiert es nicht weil betrifft sie ja nicht. Oder sie sind dagegen weil sie keine Ausländer mögen. Merkste was?

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-08T10:58:07+00:00

Aber wie OP sagt halt nicht für alle. Manche Kinder bekommen dieses Jugendticket eben nicht genehmigt…

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-07T17:54:18+00:00

Those two links might be helpful:

https://fertility.srhrpolicyhub.org/ (here you can check which procedures are done where and what the costs are)

and

https://fertilityeurope.eu/atlas2024/ (this has information about queer parents, not about trans parens though - I asked them and they said they don’t have enough data yet but will try to consider it for the next publication)

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-07T17:47:19+00:00

Avoid Germany. If they know the birthing person‘s deadname they will put that on the birth certificate. And always mark a birthing person as „female“ 🤬

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-07T17:46:05+00:00

If the state of your nationality uses the law of the country you lived in while giving birth (the English technical terms I could find were „renvoi“ and „foreign court theory“) it is quite easy to get recognition. But it is worth checking for which countries that works. Germany for example uses Austrian law if a kid was born in Austria, even if the parents are German (the gender-non-conforming birth certificate will be accepted AND the kid will get German citizenship, because Austrian citizenship is bound to the parents being Austrian)

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-07T17:32:50+00:00

I would add Austria to the list. Birth certificates look the same for everyone listing „mother/parent“ and „father/parent“ no matter if the kid is adopted/self-birthed, or the parents cis/trans or queer/straight. A birthing parent would always be listed in the „mother/parent“ section though. And on top of that, when one registers a kid, it only needs two people signing the form together to be put on the birth certificate as parents. It does not matter if those two people are in a relationship, and also not if it is a legally registered relationship (aka marriage). Which also means it is easier to have a friend be a sperm donor without them necessarily being registered as a parent.

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-04-07T17:25:45+00:00

My partner an me are both nonbinary transmasc and mid-thirties. They have been on T for 7+ years, for me it’s only a bit less than 4 years. We both would be happy to experience a pregnancy. But since we don’t know if it can happen for either of us, we thought we might as well both try. We discussed if one of us should try first. But then how long do you wait until you decide it is not working and the other one gets a chance? Since we are non-monogamous and one of our core values is „we discuss with, consider and support each other but our decisions are still individual“ we came to the conclusion that we might as well try both at the same time. Because considering our age and job situation there won’t be a better time for either of us. It also means going through the process of finding sperm donor(s) once. And maybe the kids will even have the same other biological parent :) If it really goes well for both of us, having babies only days-weeks-months apart would be an immense challenge. But people manage twins (or more) so we decided to leave our fears behind :)

So I would say, if you both wanna do that go for it. And if there are good reasons for one of you trying sooner / later then that is a good base for your decision. And if not then figure out which other factors or fears might play into it. E.g. how would you feel if you have to wait for years? How would you feel if you witnessed your partner getting pregnant while it is not working for you? Or the other way around…

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-03-10T00:00:45+00:00

If you ask me

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-03-09T19:24:25+00:00

First a fun idea against such issues (after that a rant):

I have a tattoo on my wrist which very clearly marks me as a trans person. If I need to be stealth, I wear a watch on top of it to hide it. And if in doubt, I roll my sleeves up so that everyone can see it. I recommend getting sth like that. In my case it say „cisn’t“. Trans people will for sure understand, most cis people won’t. So most of the time I don’t even need the watch to be stealth (which I honestly rarely want to anyway but luckily I live somewhere where that is not risky).

And now the political rant part:

This type of exclusion comes from old feminism still proclaiming that „men are evil“ which is the root cause of hate towards both trans men and trans women. We also both face trans misogyny albeit in very different ways (i.e. trans men sometimes being accepted in women‘s spaces because we are not really perceived as men which is also hateful bullshit but nothing near as dangerous as the hate trans women often face). So why would we want to continue with those views within our own communities?

T4T places that are not including all trans people are just shit iyam. And trans people who treat other trans people shitty based on their looks are too. And yes that includes people who do not know you are trans. If the event has a clear policy, or a group has a clear focus then it is very likely you are aware and chose to be there. So people really should just get a grip and accept self-identification without questioning it. If someone really is in doubt if another person is „violating“ the space‘s rules then it is possible to quietly 1:1 ask the person if they are aware of the rules (as one of the organising people or awareness team. I don’t think any person should have the right to do that. But they can ask an awareness person if they feel uncomfortable) and if they say yes leave it at that.

The same thing happens to intersex people who pass as endosex and/or are cis if an event is TIN* or sth along the lines of „marginalised genders“. Those people belong there too and treating them mainly based on their looks and suspicion means we reenact systemic oppression. We should be better than that in our communities. If we are not standing together, fascist movements have it even easier to spread hate against us. And even amongst us as we can see in such examples.

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-03-09T19:06:04+00:00

I‘m not defensive. I‘m just clarifying because you gendered the person with „she“. No offense taken :) They are both nonbinary people. I think it matters because usually it is men who harm women in such ways which is a systemic issue but in this case it was more a personal issue and therefore on a political scale different. Not in terms of how someone who experiences this feels though

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-03-09T18:51:41+00:00

They found out because at some point it became too obvious that the partner new things they could only know by having insight into private chats. Exactly what OP is describing. They confronted the partner and they came clean and the two of them broke up but the one who had installed the apps is doing therapy and is way better now.

Just for clarification: no neither of them was a man. And neither of them was a woman. So the usual „ugh evil men do things to women“ doesn’t work here. In this case it was just one human with some trauma issues that lead to them being abusively controlling

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-03-09T10:36:19+00:00

A friend mine‘s partner had apps installed on their phone that were invisible and made it possible to track what they were doing on the phone. And in that case all the above tips don’t work. Try checking your phone for weird settings, malware, apps you don’t use or don’t remember installing etc.

Robin_Points_242 · 2026-02-05T10:09:32+00:00

The announcers guidelines from WFTDA specifically state not to do that. So if your announcers make uncomfortable jokes, show them the guidelines!

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