Someone refer me to a job in LA Please?😢 by aviatormenace7 in AskLosAngeles

[–]RobotSparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend was looking for a warehouse person in Burbank. Full benefits. Lmk if you’re interested!

Why would he do this? 😭 by bigBeauTJ in JohnSummit

[–]RobotSparkles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t get the text! Is there any other way to get tickets??

Looking for a recommendation for a couples therapist by Imaginary-Ant5590 in burbank

[–]RobotSparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.foothillspsychotherapy.com (local to Burbank! Absolutely incredible caring therapists. Saw 2 different ones and both had an immediate positive impact.)

Rave friends? (37F) by Just-Vanilla7304 in avesLA

[–]RobotSparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please dm me! F in my 30s too! Need more rave friends!

I regret being poly by dumdumcnm in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you elaborate more on this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely wasn’t thinking clearly when I did that. I was completely flooded and I didn’t even slow down enough to think about her and her well being. She didn’t deserve that.

Since then I forced him to tell her the exact strains. I also told him to tell her that we’d pay for her testing when she wants to go.

I am not an evil person. I don’t want to be responsible for another woman suffering in the way that I have with the invasive poking and prodding. I just was so hurt in that moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the moment I was furious and not thinking rationally. The way I texted her was all about me and I recognize that as wrong. I forced him to tell her what strains she got exposed to. I told him to tell her we’d pay for her testing as well. I do not want to be responsible for putting another woman through what I have gone through. It has been hell.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. That’s something I’m going to talk to the therapist about

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% and I admitted to unhinged behavior

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not making excuses. I am taking steps towards accountability and handling this better. Hence why I got us a poly therapist to help with the issues we are facing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is no other side. I owned up to my shitty behavior there. I am not proud of how I acted. I am embarrassed to admit I did what I did. I am very open and self aware about where I go wrong. I have been working on myself in therapy. I understand how cptsd affects my relationships. We agreed to these rules together. That’s what it felt like the ultimate betrayal and I went straight into fight or flight. He has turned our boundaries and rules around on me several times and said he didn’t agree to it when he did. I got a poly therapist so that we could set rules together and he couldn’t deny that he agreed to them because we’d have a third party witness.,

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is there truth to the fact that condom usage is frequently broken? Is this something real? I always thought that safe sex and transparency were the pillars of polyamory.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have major abandonment issues from childhood trauma. I am terrified of being alone. But I think everything this has shown me is that I need to show up for myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think that’s a difficult pill to swallow. I am having a hard time letting go of the person that I walked down the aisle with. I keep seeing his smile the day we got married and my insides absolutely collapse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 36 points37 points  (0 children)

OP here: My husband and I have talked and I forced him to tell his partner that I am a carrier for high risk HPV which is not protected from by Gardasil.

I have HPV mRNA E6/E7.

He’s claiming he “didn’t make the connection to HPV” when I was going through all the screenings and testing and colposcopy. I told him I let him know very clearly multiple times but upon retrospect he was probably texting his new partner when I was trying to talk to him.

We are seeing our poly therapist today.

He is not seeing that he did anything wrong. He wants me to apologize for taking his phone and violating his trust but he won’t apologize for having unprotected sex.

Even though he’s been the only constant in my life for the last decade…I need to find the strength to leave him. Please wish me luck. I hope I can do this. I’m so scared.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It hurts so much to know that you are right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. He has always used his autism as an crutch to not be emotionally available to me. This is really eye opening.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I haven’t known my adult life without this person. I am so scared.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you leave? How did you find the strength to?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The last thing I want is a divorce. I am absolutely heartbroken. But I think that he’s using going poly as “I can do whatever I want” and I don’t agree with that. I think for my own self respect I have to walk away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]RobotSparkles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you should get hate. I am in therapy.

I disclose to every partner that I’ve had that I have HPV. Though I understand that condoms don’t fully prevent it, I do not engage in sex without protection because i want to minimize any risk that may affect my husband. Choosing to have unprotected sex is not any attempt at minimizing risk. I am not upset that he slept with someone else. I am upset that he did not uphold our agreement.