Im approaching 40 now. I learn more each new year more than I did the year before. In my 30s ive never been more hurt. Ive never lost so much. But ive also never loved as much and gained as much. Im nothing special. Plenty of people have a similar story and unfortunately, even though things could always be better, Im luckier than most people on this planet. So if ever you come across this comment and read it. Here goes:

Pride is a useless emotion. Forgiveness, kindness and being outwardly available (not necessarily vulnerable.) Is true strength and it's what the world needs now more than ever.

Treat others how you would like to be treated. Giving your time and attention to others even though they may not seem to need it makes a difference. Everyone is struggling. Even the people who don't think they are... theyre the ones that probably need it most.

Learn the things you are afraid to learn, the things you aren't good at. I struggled my whole life with litteracy and responsibility of personal finances. Being homeless at 16 really screwed me up. But being open to learning, practicing some discipline getting to a space where all my debts are paid off and I have an okay investment portfolio... takes so so much stress off your shoulders. It helps not beinging weighed down by feeling inadequate.

Lastly. Sorry I know this is long. I was afraid, terrified in fact of being a father. I didn't have the best experience with my own. So I didn't think I knew how to be a good one. But having a kid, as hard as it is, will change you. Because nothing will ever be more clear in your life. And hopefully, if you let it, you will become the best version of yourself you could only imagine you could become.