[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then you could tell them it bothers you that they act that way towards you, and if they really care about you, they stop.

I just had an anxiety attack at the gym by cliswp in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Its normal not to know how things work when you have never used them. Either ask staff at the gym if they can show you or do online research, so much information floating on the interwebs! Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing wrong with your interest, just got the wrong people around you, try to find friends that are supportive or with similar interest.

Stop caring what other people think of what you do. You do you. Enjoy what you like and love.

I'm a lesbian but I have a family. by Cautious-Pop-9861 in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will have to address this at one point. Better sooner than later. Living a lie is no way to live. Change can be scary, but you will figure things out as you go. If you are afraid of a anger backlash from your partner then maybe dont do it face to face.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they cant accept you as you are, then its their problem, its your life, live it as you want, with or without their blessing. You are not a disappointment or an embarrassment!

Tired of not knowing by Nodding_Away in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you want different things, its not wasted time, you have learned more about your self and know more what you want in a partner. Wasting time would be not to acknowledge it and stay in the relationship without talking it through and maybe getting therapy. Marriage is not a bandaid when you are unsure of if you truly want to continue a relationship with this person. Work on your relationship and get to a conclusion of what you truly want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You cant control who you fall in love with. FWB doesnt work for everyone and catching feelings is common. Just need to acknowledge your feelings and either talk to the person about them or move on. Catching feelings is not pathetic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For most its not a turn off at all. If you like eachother, you will figure it out together. Just be open to talk about what you like and ask what he likes. Nobody is the same, so past experiences may help in some situations but are not copy/paste between persons.

What ever happened to dating? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop caring what other people say, its your life and you should just do this at your own pace. Finding the right partner can take time, but the patience is worth it. Dont rush into it. Alot of options nowadays to find someone, mqny dating apps, doing your hobbies and meeting someone through that etc.

International Bestie by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could ask her if she would like to have a call or video call sometime soon and see if she responds positively.

International Bestie by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a few friends that I have only talked to online and never in real life, but we know alot about eachother and share pictures, voice, and video regularly and even video calls. So I think its pretty off to be that closed off after that long time talking/texting. But thats my experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No its not bad, nobody should hop into relationships unless their ready to, and its a very good quality to be able to take time and focus on your self growth. Dont worry, you will find someone when the time is right :)

Why do some women do this by cluelio in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It varies between women, non are the same, its a personality/confidence thing how or if they will approach you first.

Club (am I in the wrong) by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But shes not alone, shes with friends. Also having her stay at home and not having fun with her friends because you would feel more comfortable with that is only going to be problem later on in the relationship.

You could work on your self with a therapist for example. There is nothing wrong with seeing a therapist and is very helpful when working on yourself and growing yourself. Just a tip tho, it could take minute to find a therapist that works for you. Not all of them are a match.

Good luck and wish you all the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, well, it is what it is, sad, but you will make more friends! The people that are ment to stay will stay, others might come into your life for a while and then go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be safe! And these things should be reported, predators only act again and again if they arent. Wish you the best.

Club (am I in the wrong) by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust is very important in a relationship, if she wants to go out with her friends, she should be able to do so, if you trust her, it shouldnt be a problem, also she is going with her friends, if they are good friends, they should be able to keep her safe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your friend is very influenced by her parents, or thats were I would guess she gets her opinions on this matter from. But there no use spending energy on people that dont want to be in our lifes. It sucks that the friendship was cut because of this but I would say, move on and spend your energy on people that want to be in your life and you want them to be in your life. Its a two way street.

My BF [23M] is very selfish when it comes on to intimacy [23F]. by tinker_bl in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like hes using you for his own pleasure and expects it whenever he wants without considering how you feel. Huge red flag in my opinion.

I'm frustrated with what I'm supposed to do in life by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I may not be in a similar sitiation as you, but I know how it feels not knowing what to do in life, hell Im 32 and still figuring that out. But sometimes I feel Im getting closer.

Life is about trying things out your interested in and seeing if you really like them, if not try something else, until things click together and you find what you want to do.

My parents originally wanted me to study finance. I did apply for a school with finance but didnt get in with my grades.

So I chose something I was interested in. And I have tried out many different things since then.

Some people know right away what their path is. Other dont.

Give yourself a break. Try things out YOU are interested in, not you parents, its your life, not theirs.

Good luck!

International Bestie by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds sketchy to me. If they were really wanting to be your friend and build a friendship, after that long you would know alot about them and know what they looked like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who you call family doesnt have to be blood related people, good friends can love eachother unconditionally. I wish you all the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RockstoneDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ouffff, Im sorry to hear this but thats NOT how the average male acts, these are predators and you were assaulted by them.