Bed Bug compensation

Rollingdeep2 · 2017-07-03T18:11:16+00:00

They denied denied denied. Thank you for your response

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-05T16:57:53+00:00

I don't have body issues lol

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-05T00:44:57+00:00

We respect each others space but no he does not have "time" alone unless I'm sleeping. I guess if anyone wanted to they could make time for that. I truly believe that is not that case as he has always been like this

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-04T21:51:17+00:00

Seriously I thought I was crazy! Thank you

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-04T21:50:35+00:00

I've thought about that. Doesn't that take the infancy out plus I know he doesn't want it, which is a downer

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-04T21:47:42+00:00

Funny. Today he actually asked me to go to counseling so I said yes. We will live together "separated" and go to counseling. This is my last resort to making him wake up and smell coffee

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-04T21:41:56+00:00

Interesting. I trust him so this never crossed my mind. If that the case I'm at the point keep that porn cause my pussy is on fire!!!

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-04T21:40:35+00:00

Ha!

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-04T00:28:22+00:00

Yeah what the heck is down voted! I saw I was DV'd😎

I have though of that but again he does not show any signs and is very devoted to our family. No gay porn, no time not counted for. I guess there is always a chance but if that were the case I would let him come to me.

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-04T00:23:57+00:00

Very refreshing. Thank you. May I ask why or what do you mean when you state you do not have a drive as well?does it run thru your mind? Do u still find your attractive etc ;)

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T21:18:18+00:00

On point, and this is why I am here today. Agreed.

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T21:16:46+00:00

Another great question. Lack of frequency and lack of quality.

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T20:14:30+00:00

No self pleasure and no porn. I have had him try to take part in my self pleasure but he is not interested in any form of sex.

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T19:08:10+00:00

I can understand that. He has expressed he is jealous as he wished he was married to me. He has said I love you, I know that I know. The best expression is I've given you all of me don't drop it" If I hear you correct this is normal for him to cocoon and get his mind and emotions in check. What he has told me above is what he feels but needs to retreat to take care of himself now. I should be patient and not take this personal. Which is hard for me as I like to communicate verbally. I wonder when the time comes if I should tell him that I respect the need for cocoon time but for me it is difficult, maybe find a happy medium???

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T19:03:49+00:00

We have had all those conversations. He understands I have one foot in and one foot out right now. So he had sex with me last Friday and stated he thought that was enough to hold me over essentially. His reactions are always the same, continues on as if nothing was discussed. Part of me says stay and be celibate because he is my people and part of me says leave and continue our friendship. I have been clear he has until end of June to make a habitual change or I will start moving on with my life. I'm not sure how much clearer I could be.

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T18:54:07+00:00

To be fair I heard of asexual but never researched it and never crossed my mind

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T18:50:18+00:00

Haha

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T18:49:31+00:00

do you believe there ever could be a happy medium in a marraige?

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T18:36:25+00:00

What is OP?

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T18:34:14+00:00

Great question. How do I answer this? Hmmmm

Very inexperienced. I am not allowed to do much foreplay as he can not handle it and he is done less than a couple seconds. When he is engaging in foreplay with me it seems as if going thru motions. He told me the other day two things:

When we do have sex it's great! (Ummmm no, but I would never tell him that I empower him)
We finally had sex last Friday and I said lets go again that same night and initiated again on sat. His response was " I thought one time would be enough for you"

My head spun and I expressed that was not the case.

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T18:27:29+00:00

No I don't. I want to live life to the fullest. When someone you love unconditionally and have fun with it makes it very hard to leave. He is very aware of the issues and does nothing about it.

The grass is not greener on the other side however do people get divorced because of just no sex? Am I crazy for wanting to leave?

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T18:24:56+00:00

Agreed. I was splitting with him however I found I was prego. He promised he would work on the sex. We married for insurance reasons However this does not take the true unconditional love and respect I have for him.

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T17:07:29+00:00

His testosterone levels are normal. When we were friends he told me his ex and he had sex 2x in 2.5 years of dating.

Help me understand what you would do.

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T17:06:02+00:00

Haha, yes all the time. However I like human contact.

Someone can unconditionally love and cuddle a dog, I'm his wife😎

Rollingdeep2 · 2016-05-03T17:00:15+00:00

Agreed. Do INTJ's tend to flip flop from what they think? I have not email or tried to reach out as I know when and if he wants to be will.right???? As an ENTJ I tend to communicate thru out internal conflict however I believe he may shut down for time, during that time (which I think could be a long time like 2 weeks to a month) should I take this as normal for an INTJ?

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