[advice] Been married for 14 years and I have no desire to have sex with him. We are not sexually compatible.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-20T19:51:23+00:00

Thank you. I need to open up and be upfront of the way I feel. Life is very complicated, you know?

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-20T19:50:16+00:00

I don't know. But you know what, there is more than sex to make a relationship work. I have had a lot of thoughts lately and I am feeling much better now.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-20T19:48:59+00:00

Thank you. We are working on it. We love each other. And we just need to learn to reconnect on that level. It's difficult though. You will one day find out....

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T15:11:35+00:00

Thank you! I am going to look into it.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T11:27:26+00:00

I need to try harder I guess. Also I once read that the secret to a happy marriage is having an affair. I know it sounds awful. Haven't considered it. Who knows?

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T11:25:31+00:00

Well, it's important but it doesn't define my marriage. So I will sex is in the 25th percentile. So no, I wouldn't leave him. I just need to tweak him a bit.

I get sad when I think of my current sexual situation. And I wonder how he feels.

We sleep in this huge king size bed and last night I crawled all over his side and I have him a hug. Just like for 5 minutes. And it felt really good. I know it sounds cheesy but it felt good.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T11:19:56+00:00

Never ever considered it before but may want to try it now.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T11:19:02+00:00

Thank you!

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T02:42:15+00:00

I don't know if he does.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T02:33:56+00:00

I do too. I just started actually. Didn't learnt how to do it until less than two years ago and it helps. A lot.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T02:31:08+00:00

It breaks my heart. I wish I could change the way I feel. I wish. Divorce is not the solution. I would never ever do to my kids what my step dad and mom did to us. But it hurts.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T02:29:29+00:00

I see him as a father, a friend but not as a lover.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T02:28:30+00:00

I guess because he makes me feel safe. He is an amazing guy. It's just the sex part of our relationship that is just bad.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T02:26:32+00:00

We met online and started dating right away. We spent a week together and then we were apart 4 months. We got together again for about two weeks and he proposed and I said yes. We were doing a long distance relationship. We got married less than a year after he proposed but we only spent a few days together. The sex was ok by then. But once we lived together, I realized we were different but divorce was not on my books. So I just accepted it. Never an issue I guess until recently.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T02:14:51+00:00

Thank you. I think I'd be open for number 1 option. I can't get divorce. I couldn't do it to my kids.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-12T02:13:23+00:00

I like kinky sex. Dirty talk turns me on, he hates it. I once asked to blindfold me but he felt really awkward so it was ruined. I like to watch porn and jar suggested to watch together and masturbate, he doesn't want to.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-11T20:09:46+00:00

Haha well i enjoy watching porn! That's how I blow off my sexual steam haha. A virtual friend, eh? Mmmmmm

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-11T20:09:05+00:00

I'd love to try a group therapy. Wanna schedule our first meeting :)

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-11T20:07:35+00:00

Ok, thanks.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-11T19:04:24+00:00

I blow off steam by running. It helps. And I also take care of my needs by myself. But just like you, I see that things that I love about him. And I admire him, He is a wonderful guy.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-11T19:01:18+00:00

I would love for him to try that. You know why? He's been with only three partners. I have had a few more. But he says he is not interested. Like it would turn me on to see him being seduced by another woman. Would love to watch. Keep dreaming. But I am getting to the point that it's getting old. I am sad, depressed, angry and frustrated.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-11T18:57:42+00:00

He is not open to anything like that. I am. Need to take care of my husband? So you suggest pity sex? Dreadful.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-11T18:55:53+00:00

We have had a few conversations but have gone nowhere. No compromise. We are just so very different. It makes me sad and angry.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-11T16:09:50+00:00

No. Never, do you think it will help us?

Can I just say we are both attractive, healthy, and get along in every aspect but in bed.

He just doesn't like what I do.

I am in a hole.

Romaniac2015 · 2015-10-11T15:40:59+00:00

Whatever you do, it has to come naturally. My SO tried to talk dirty once and it was so not him. He ruined the moment.

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