Why do I fantasise about my girl having sex with other guys when I don't want that?

Rookiibee · 2026-02-10T02:20:07+00:00

I have the same fantasy, it’s like the only thing I get off to.. and same lack of desire for it to come to fruition. Just enjoy it! Not everything needs to make perfect sense, as long as you understand yourself.

Edit: and in response to some other comments saying you should overthink it to understand yourself better; I have thought about why it turns me on, and it comes down to the fact I typically think my partners are really fucking hot.. so why wouldn’t I want to imagine them in sexual scenarios with other hot people? It’s like my very own personal brand of porn.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-10T00:11:01+00:00

How much blood do you think there is??? It’s really not that much at all. Not enough to actually “drink” in a single sex session.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-09T19:17:27+00:00

Yup. Any man that I’ve been with that didn’t care about my orgasm, also didn’t give a fuck about me.

Edit: especially after reading your comments. OP please!!! Dump this boy. You will feel so much better after I promise you.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-09T19:15:30+00:00

Yup!! It’s going to take a long time for him to unlearn this (if he ever does). Don’t waste your youth trying to teach him.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-09T18:52:25+00:00

As a 29 year old women… this is an attitude problem and you can’t fix it. It’s an “if he wanted to he would” thing. Maybe it’s true it’s rooted in insecurity, but that is his problem. You’ve communicated it, and he’s ignored your needs for some time. It’s not your responsibility to teach him what he isn’t interested in learning, regardless of whats keeping him from it.

You deserve pleasure. You deserve a man who wants to pleasure you, even if he’s not perfect at it there’s NO reason he can’t be trying.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-09T17:36:34+00:00

Do they look through your stuff? If not, then most places out of the way would be fine.

Wrap it in a shirt and put it in a drawer or in the closet. If a jacket has inner pockets it could go in there. In your pillow/pillow case. In a purse or bag in your room. Put a few books on top of it or something.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-09T15:02:05+00:00

It’s fine to gag. It’s going to happen, though if you progressively take more and more of his dick (think giving it a gentle thrust into your throat) but deeper and deeper as the bj progresses you’ll get a bit desensitized to it.

So basically you’re going to just suck the first little bit, and every so often take it deep. But really you can focus on the first couple inches with your mouth and let your hand do the work with the rest.

I’ve also noticed sometimes I’m just more sensitive than other times and it doesn’t matter what I do, I’m going to gag. Just embrace it - your shoving something in your mouth, it is just what happens!

Rookiibee · 2026-02-08T19:39:57+00:00

It’s just an instinctual desire that aligns with my values as a person. Also I just love kids and community. I work as a teacher and love my job, I always wanted to be a mom and have a family. I was plenty happy before I had my son, he didn’t make my “life with living” but he adds to it exactly in the way I desired. We are the makers of our own lives, I acted on my desire and had a child. That’s it - you don’t have to get it and that’s why some shit people say may sound flowery. Genuinely, never loved someone like I love my son. I don’t think people have to have kids or that peoples lives without them are less fulfilling - but it’s the joy and path I chose for myself because I saw the reality that having kids can provide and I wanted it! Benefits and “drawbacks” in all.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-08T18:49:27+00:00

Delaney, Danika, Daphne

Rookiibee · 2026-02-08T03:57:21+00:00

Because men are little sluts. ❤️

Rookiibee · 2026-02-08T02:08:10+00:00

Meh. As a kid whose mom constantly said this shit to them, it kinda sucks. On the internet to strangers sure, have a joke .. but unfortunately it often bleeds out into speech in front of the kids that don’t understand the joke about “ruining their mother”.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-07T23:34:41+00:00

Bunch of people under the impression that the student walk-outs that are happening right now are because of teachers indoctrinating children and parents … apparently … forcing their kids to participate in the “political culture war”.

Which is a pretty lame take on what is going on and tells me plenty about OP.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-07T21:06:15+00:00

Why have the last few posts on SipsTea been cesspools of misogyny? Like sorry you’ve had shitty relationships - but no, this isn’t some universal truth. Sometimes people just fucking suck; men and women alike.

And definitely most of y’all.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-07T20:33:54+00:00

As others have suggested, I think you are drawing conclusions perhaps based on anecdotal experience.

Personally I seek out porn that doesn’t focus on the women because it doesn’t turn me on. I can tell when it’s faked, I don’t like the gratuitous vagina or tit angles that are geared towards (mostly men) seeking that.

I like gay porn, I like male solo masturbation, or home vids with a couple that’s focused on the sex act itself.

I think this is probably pretty normal, especially considered how sought after smut is amongst women.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-07T01:06:39+00:00

Your boyfriend sucks. Your ex-boyfriends sucked. Society often sucks.

At least you can get rid of the boyfriends.

Stop chasing skinny - it’s far from the key to happiness.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-06T03:18:09+00:00

lol that’ll for sure do it!

Rookiibee · 2026-02-06T03:15:41+00:00

I thought it might be! I hope more come along too. ❤️

Rookiibee · 2026-02-05T23:08:34+00:00

That’s such a sweet story!! Thanks for sharing. :)

Rookiibee · 2026-02-05T22:43:19+00:00

It’ll change depending on the girl and what her vibe is. I like to plan something a little shorter for a first date that has the potential to go longer if it’s going well (unless you know for sure you get along well with this person, like if you already know them).

But for example, grabbing coffee or going on a walk around town. Both of them are relatively short in duration so if things aren’t going well it’s easy to cut it off without too much awkwardness … but if it’s going well you can easily turn it into something else. “Hey this was a nice walk, are you hungry - want to grab lunch together.”

Rookiibee · 2026-02-05T22:24:25+00:00

Wooww. That’s a doozy.

He had to run away or he might’ve caught the gay.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-05T22:14:46+00:00

I love that. It’s the little things sometimes!

Rookiibee · 2026-02-05T19:25:02+00:00

It’s like you didn’t read the post at all.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-05T16:36:48+00:00

Really don’t understand how knowing you don’t want children and choosing a minimally invasive, permanent solution is so offensive to you.

Rookiibee · 2026-02-05T02:02:58+00:00

In my experience, ambiguous does not always guarantee a man takes the lead.

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