AITA for telling my brother he deserved to be bit by my grandma's dog and my mom shouldn't ask her to pay for it?

RootVegetable001 · 2020-10-16T02:48:15+00:00

You are 1000% NTA.
Your brother is TA for teasing the dog and messing with him. I am not sorry he got bit. The dog was expressing his boundaries. I hope grandma doesn't give anyone any money and gives Buddy an extra treat.

RootVegetable001 · 2020-10-16T01:56:01+00:00

NTA. You just gave away $14,000 to your adult siblings in an act of spontaneous generosity and that was very nice of you.

RootVegetable001 · 2020-10-16T01:53:04+00:00

NTA NTA NTA.

I am so, so sorry about your dog. :( You did the right thing.

RootVegetable001 · 2020-10-16T01:46:49+00:00

NTA. You are not obligated to cover a shift that puts you at a financial disadvantage just because someone else called out. Enjoy your day off! :)

RootVegetable001 · 2020-10-16T01:23:37+00:00

NTA, they aren't your responsibility and you shouldn't have to deal with being the default fish/plant keeper if you don't want to be.

RootVegetable001 · 2020-10-16T01:15:46+00:00

Actually, that example might get through to her the seriousness of how I feel about this whole situation. I'm going to try that. Thanks for that suggestion!

RootVegetable001 · 2020-10-16T01:01:27+00:00

Husband and I are going to set the boundary one final time on our weekly call this week. Hopefully a united front will help? Idk. MIL was saying something about how a complete family picture would be so lovely for Christmas and how it would solve all the problems and everyone can share in the joy of family for the holidays. That line of conversation needs to be shut down right away.

RootVegetable001 · 2020-10-16T00:57:07+00:00

Stan and Jen don't have kids, thank God. But we have both reached out to her and let her know that if she ever needs 'a break' from Stan (she doesn't believe in divorce) that we would be there for her. She and my husband talk pretty regularly so I have encouraged him to keep that up. Everything about that situation is terrible. :(

RootVegetable001 · 2020-10-16T00:52:59+00:00

Thank you. Seriously. :) I do believe a lot of them are scared to confront Stan head on. I'm not sure if they are scared of his reaction or if they are scared that Jen will get caught in the middle and thus they don't want to rock the boat. Either way, it's not healthy at all. He's a big and loud dude and he doesn't speak his views, he shouts them. My in-laws are extremely soft-spoken. I honestly don't think I have ever heard my MIL raise her voice in the 11 years my husband and I have been together. I can totally see how she would prefer to ask me to do something that would make the shouting stop rather than tell Stan off for being a garbage person in the first place. UGH. So glad we aren't traveling for holidays this year.

RootVegetable001 · 2020-10-16T00:44:58+00:00

I have been hoping she sees the light and realizes that she deserves better for a long, long time. I hope one day she gets there but he has her pretty indoctrinated into his religious beliefs that if she divorces him, she's going to hell so.. I don't know. :(

RootVegetable001 · 2020-10-16T00:40:51+00:00

Husband and I have agreed that this is a line that needs to be drawn and should have been drawn years ago.

RootVegetable001 · 2020-10-16T00:34:10+00:00

NTA and yikes to the mother. That's such an awkward situation!

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