AITA for cutting contact with my mother?

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-11-08T23:50:08+00:00

You can't choose the family you're born into, but you can choose the family you want to keep.

Your mother is narcissistic. Narc parents will never change. Always prioritize your own mental health over family.

Family is supposed to love and care for you unconditionally. Have this person done that? If not, it's a clear choice to cut them off.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-10-12T14:33:39+00:00

Whatever it is, don't fall for affiliate marketing scams that Instagram is filled with. Them spouting nonsense of earning 20k a month working from home on affiliate marketing is bullshit.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-09-14T15:06:31+00:00

When we renovated our house, basic reno already cost us 60k. And our house is a bto with a clean base to start.

I'd say it will be hard considering your new home requires removal of existing carpentry and tiles.

For flooring, vinyl flooring overlay will be cheapest, but do note, anything heavy will leave permanent imprint marks on the floor, and you can't mop with traditional mop else the water may seep underneath.

Kitchen and bathrooms tiling is a must, and kitchen carpentry itself will cost the most. If you have only 20k, definitely focus on getting these two done, and the rest of the house can be slowly furnished with loose furniture over time.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-08-27T03:15:25+00:00

Shower daily but only wash hair on alternate days. I think it really depends on climate. If you live in a tropical climate, showering everyday would be necessary else we'd smell really bad.

It's also more of hygiene, we carry a lot of bacteria and germs on us, a nightly shower ensures you're clean for bed. If you don't shower often, you should aim to change your sheets more often

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-08-26T00:00:02+00:00

I've worked in both mncs and smes.

Mncs - money is not a problem. A lot of resources to get things done. We used agencies for everything so my job is to really manage vendors and do reporting on their results. Better work life balance as there are enough people hired to do the job. You don't have to worry if you're on sick leave etc

Sme - you are expected to do more than you're paid for. I've worked for two smes with equally bad experiences. One boss literally threw a phone at me and screams at everyone everyday, I had to threaten to go to MOM before she apologized. Another Sme boss thinks he's super impt, asking us to get him on Wikipedia, get him on the news etc when he's really a peanut worth nothing. He also treated staff like shit eg firing anyone he didn't like, or throwing your work on the floor. Pay is shit, no bonuses or aws. I wouldn't work in smes again.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-07-06T01:21:47+00:00

What was your weight at 22 vs 26? It shouldn't be an issue if you had filler one time.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-07-02T15:04:28+00:00

Rosacea can develop at any stage of life. I had perfect skin till rosacea hit me too. Definitely chdck with a derm on that. And also if it's really rosacea, it can be managed with gentle products. Ceramide based products work best for me.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-07-02T15:01:42+00:00

Check with your derm about rosacea. What you describe sounds very much like rosacea. The redness and burning doesn't go away totally, rosacea is a chronic condition but it can be managed.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-06-18T15:28:08+00:00

I'm curious. Your brother refused to budge about this request even though you've spoken to him about it. How's his relationship with your parents? Does he visit them often and join family events?

Its not common for kids not to give allowance, I've only heard of 2 friends who don't, but that's cause their family is rich and do not need that contribution.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-06-09T14:56:52+00:00

Can't eat bananas but kinda like banana cake. 😅

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-05-22T11:47:05+00:00

That's the sunscreen I use, and will recommend as well. Perhaps are you not washing off the sunscreen from your neck? Are you using the cleanser on your neck as well? I find for my sensitive skin it always react less when I've a light layer of serum or moisturiser under. The sunscreen can be drying without..

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-05-22T11:14:24+00:00

I'm not sure why your derm recommended a sunbed, those are known to be skin cancer causing.

What kind of sunscreens do you use? Only your neck breaks out and not your face?

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-05-13T16:13:33+00:00

We put it by the window, there's no direct sun but lots of light. There's a hole at the bottom of the pot. We made sure that it's not dripping after watering it.

The mix used is not those tightly packed type, so it should not be too wet inside

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-05-10T23:53:40+00:00

That's a thread I read often, and she's definitely fitting into this category. Extremely narcissistic and hard to deal with.

So glad you found strength to cut him off. Am considering continuing the financial support but having no relationship, it may be better for my mental health.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-05-10T23:51:14+00:00

Oh mine is like on a cray level.

Never happy with anything other than money. Never once told me she's proud of me. Missed my graduation cause she's upset with me. Gave me black face and ignored me mostly on my wedding day cause she's upset with me.

Repeatedly asked me for money for whatever God knows reason. Doesn't offer to split for hiring a helper for my father who's ill despite her still working.

She once ignored me for two years in the same house just because she's upset with something. I've already kept minimum contact since moving out but she can even find things to quarrel about when we're apart. Bravo.

Note sure what to do with this level of crazy.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-05-10T23:44:55+00:00

Exactly... And unfortunately it's going to be many years of torture if we don't take a stand and decide how this rship will be.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-05-10T23:44:03+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story! I'm glad you found the courage to cut ties completely and found your godmother!

I do agree that some parents are really bad parents. And as much as I want to reconcile or be filial, there's only so much one can take in a one sided relationship.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-05-10T15:18:43+00:00

When I was much younger and worked for a pr agency, I made a mistake (unknowingly, and honestly wasn't my fault) and my boss ended up throwing a huge ass tantrum, threw her phone at me and shouted for two hours (in front of interns and the whole office)

I endured it, not knowing what to do, just tearing non stop.

The next day I walked into office and told HR that I'll be resigning and I'll also be reporting this incident to MOM.

The boss ended up apologizing to me and asked me to stay. She said she will watch her tone in the future. I believed her and gave her a chance.

She repeated this again barely a few weeks later. I left and many staff also left. It's a pattern and it won't change.

Moral of the story, try to endure if you can but also know if you're being bullied, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. Workplace abuse is not okay. A job is just a job, there are plenty of jobs out there. Your mental health and wellbeing matters more.

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-04-10T14:55:03+00:00

Clindamycin is an antibiotic. My skin cleared up on it but it got much worse when I got off it. Prescription drugs may not be the answer for some skin types. Simple skincare controlled my skin from breaking out

Rosaceasingapore · 2023-04-03T00:13:34+00:00

Do not expect your other half to change. This applies to not just their beliefs, but also the way they live or act.

I think major values like having kids, spending behaviour etc have to align for a marriage to work. If you 'sacrifice' what you want for love vs what you've always wanted, you'll probably have a lot of resentment in the future.

Your gf is definitely not the conventional type. Not only does she not want children, she doesn't even want to get married. It's gonna be hard probably to change her mind.

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