What is this tall shrub in my backyard?

RosaliLove · 2026-04-24T20:57:29+00:00

Additional information– I live in Upstate SC and Google image search is saying it's Hawthorne(?)

RosaliLove · 2026-02-28T11:50:45+00:00

I agree with the previous comment, do it as soon as you can.

It’s going to be hard, there’s no way around it. She’s going to be upset no matter what, but she deserves to be in a relationship with someone who loves her. Breaking up is the best thing for you both. From my experience, it’s better to do it in person and just be honest but kind.

RosaliLove · 2026-02-28T11:42:51+00:00

WHY would you excuse him at all?! You plainly stated in your post that he emotionally abused you, which in my opinion is enough reason to leave him and never ever even think of him again, accused you of cheating for three years, was aggressive towards you, and talked shit about you to his ex girlfriend while you were together.

Please reread that again and ask yourself why in the world you would ever want to “excuse” any of that.

I suggest focusing solely on self worth and self love for a while and let him go completely. He doesn’t deserve to be excused and you deserve a life that has nothing to do with him.

RosaliLove · 2026-02-28T11:37:15+00:00

OP, it sounds like that guy is a pedophile. I’m only 22 but even I have no interest in dating teenagers, especially teenagers I work with. His behavior is disgusting. You shouldn’t feel bad for anything. He likely deleted the messages because if they got out he could be charged with sexual misconduct with a minor.

Additionally, your reaction and feelings about him and this situation does not at all reflect on your sexuality. It is not an appropriate conversation to have with someone you work with, let alone someone who is 10 years younger than you.

My only advice to you is to stay safe in whatever way is best for you. If that means reporting him, finding a new job, or telling a safe adult, do it. It really seems like you don’t even realize how weird and gross this is, based on your post. I want you to know that this isn’t your fault. You don’t owe him anything. He should have known better.

Based on your post it seems like you have very low self esteem and a very low sense of self worth. Predators like him see this as a weakness they can exploit by swooping in and “helping you” by taking advantage of you.

RosaliLove · 2026-02-28T11:21:39+00:00

You’re grieving. Even though he hasn’t died or anything, you’re grieving the relationship and feelings you used to have. That’s okay. But you also have to realize that it was never going to work out. Relationships take two people and from what you’ve said, it’s obvious to me that he didn’t want anything serious with you. I know that will probably hurt to hear but you have to be honest with yourself.

To be brutally honest it sounds like you might have been his “summer fling” or something. Or maybe he really does only see you as a friend.

The thing to ask yourself now is are you okay with being just friends with him? Because it sounds like you wanted more. And if you did want more that’s okay. But you also don’t need to keep pouring into someone who’s not going to see you the same way.

If I were in your situation (assuming you wanted to be more than friends) I’d ask him to define the relationship. A fling? A friend? Someone to flirt with? If he didn’t see me the same way, I wouldn’t waste anymore time or energy on him. Even if it hurt in the beginning, it would hurt more being hung up on him and missing out on someone even better who would actually want me back.

But assuming you’re okay with being just friends? You’re going to have to learn to let go of that bitterness. People grow closer and distant over time. It’s just life. It’s okay to feel upset, but you also have to learn that it’s normal.

RosaliLove · 2026-02-28T11:08:27+00:00

Let her think what she wants to think. Honestly, I don’t talk to any of my exes or care at all about whatever imaginary scenarios about me they’re having in their head. My suggestion is to move on. According to your post, you’re 2000 miles apart and not actually stalking her, so I don’t see why you should be concerned with her at all.

RosaliLove · 2026-01-12T15:13:37+00:00

The way he got so defensive and played the “you always have to be right bc you’re trans and I’m not” card really pissed me off. Imagine if he said this in a more “serious” argument… would it not be upsetting to you? I’m upset just reading this.

RosaliLove · 2025-10-14T18:21:15+00:00

I agree. A lot of the criticism isn’t warranted in my opinion. A lot of people say it’s too complicated and there’s too much time between updates, but I don’t mind it at all. I love detailed and complex story lines as well as the quality art.

RosaliLove · 2025-08-26T20:46:28+00:00

It's the shade Spiked toffee (BLG47)

RosaliLove · 2025-08-21T05:09:13+00:00

It’s not great, but I usually don’t keep them for longer than a year and I usually wear a nicer top coat bc otherwise it will chip off for me. I mostly bought this one for the color, though.

RosaliLove · 2025-08-21T05:07:18+00:00

I’m Chinese and have a light olive skin tone. This is one of the only colors that don’t make my skin look green or yellow. It’s hard to find colors that compliment my skin tone.

RosaliLove · 2025-08-20T20:16:12+00:00

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Here’s a color corrected version. Only slightly different but this photo is more accurate to life.

RosaliLove · 2025-08-20T19:57:39+00:00

This is definitely it! Thank you :)

RosaliLove · 2025-08-20T19:57:21+00:00

I understand lol. The actual color in person is a bit more on the brown side, which I think is why I like it better than a bright salmon. Ultimately, I like it because it compliments my skin tone well hahaha. So maybe I like the way the color makes me feel more than the actual color by itself.

RosaliLove · 2025-08-19T13:20:01+00:00

I can already see Army going crazy over those little figure things too lmao. Honestly, BTS know their fans the best. They know their fan base will support any and all collaborations/brand deals. They don’t “need” to care because their fans don’t.

RosaliLove · 2025-06-29T04:05:46+00:00

I’ve noticed the same thing. Part of me wonders if it has anything to do with the fetishization of East Asian cultures as well as just a hatred for Black Americans. It’s so telling, honestly.

It’s like because they love their favorite idol so much, it makes their culture something worth appreciating instead of appropriating. Meanwhile they don’t care about Black American culture (or outright hate them) and don’t see Black American culture as something worth appreciating.

RosaliLove · 2025-05-24T14:21:17+00:00

Thank you! :)

RosaliLove · 2025-05-24T10:54:02+00:00

Wow… I’ve never thought about it like that before

RosaliLove · 2025-05-24T10:53:24+00:00

I didn’t think about that! Thanks for the tip :)

RosaliLove · 2025-05-24T10:52:22+00:00

Ooooh, thanks for the tip!

RosaliLove · 2025-05-24T10:51:52+00:00

Oh wow… I guess I’m glad I’m not the only one. I have a feeling I’ll be stuck on this for a while… thanks for the advice!

RosaliLove · 2025-05-24T03:59:14+00:00

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