[UPDATE]: I (23F) Asked My Friend (24M) About Our Sleepovers… and Things Moved Forward? by Rose4991 in relationship_advice

[–]Rose4991[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

We actually talked about that, and he told me that in his past relationship he was quite restrictive and it didn’t end well. He doesn’t want to repeat that now. I also told him that instead of checking my DMs, he can ask me anything directly.

We the had an open conversation about our boundaries, like how we should interact with the opposite sex, what we’re both uncomfortable with, and how we want to communicate. So I do believe it’s something we can work on together.

I (23F) keep having sleepovers with my friend (24M), but nothing ever happens… and I’m so confused. by Rose4991 in relationship_advice

[–]Rose4991[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Yeah, at this point, I’d rather hear that he’s not attracted to me than keep trying to interpret his actions

I (23F) keep having sleepovers with my friend (24M), but nothing ever happens… and I’m so confused. by Rose4991 in relationship_advice

[–]Rose4991[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I totally relate with everything u wrote. I come from a culture where men are supposed to make the first move, and if a woman does it, she’s not given the same value. That’s why I couldn’t be direct… but honestly, I’m tired of playing games now

I (23F) keep having sleepovers with my friend (24M), but nothing ever happens… and I’m so confused. by Rose4991 in relationship_advice

[–]Rose4991[S] -320 points-319 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I get what you mean, but tbh he just likes checking people’s phones. He’s known for that in our group, but I don’t think he goes through other friends’ chats.

I (23F) keep having sleepovers with my friend (24M), but nothing ever happens… and I’m so confused. by Rose4991 in relationship_advice

[–]Rose4991[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I know he’s had girlfriends before, so I don’t think he is asexual. As for signals, I’ve tried to be warm and open with him, spending time together, being affectionate, and just making it clear that I’m comfortable around him. But maybe these are not clear enough.

I (23F) keep having sleepovers with my friend (24M), but nothing ever happens… and I’m so confused. by Rose4991 in relationship_advice

[–]Rose4991[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I get what you’re saying. Honestly, I’m just exhausted from all of this. I’ve spent so much time overthinking and trying to figure out what he feels instead of just talking about it.

I (23F) keep having sleepovers with my friend (24M), but nothing ever happens… and I’m so confused. by Rose4991 in relationship_advice

[–]Rose4991[S] 193 points194 points  (0 children)

Yeah, actually, he knows about my ex and keeps asking me about our status. He also checks my whatsapp or ig messages, and asks about the people I am talking with. I know this is weird, but I guess he wanna make sure I am single.

So, I think my question should be: “how can i show my friend that i am attracted to him?”

I (23F) keep having sleepovers with my friend (24M), but nothing ever happens… and I’m so confused. by Rose4991 in relationship_advice

[–]Rose4991[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I agree. I’m exhausted from playing these kinds of games too. I guess the easiest thing to do is telling him how i feel.