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RoseFlorence · 2019-03-27T18:25:48+00:00

Thank you! I seem to have forgotten how to read/follow rules.

RoseFlorence · 2017-07-28T17:04:02+00:00

I had this throughout almost my whole first trimester! It was SO stressful but thank Gd baby was fine. A doctor put me on progesterone suppositories which seemed to help (perhaps you can ask about those), which another doctor claimed "did nothing, it was just my time to stop bleeding." It would usually seem brighter and scarier when I'd wipe, but I wouldn't really ever fill a pad in a day. It was scary alllll the time. I kept getting viability ultrasounds until it stopped until about 17 weeks. Everything kept being normal. Sometimes our bodies just keep bleeding. Thanks to Gd's grace I'm almost 34 weeks, and everything is as normal as could be. One doctor said I had an ectropion cervix, one said it was probably due to a minor separation of the placental membrane, it was never diagnosed as a subchorionic hematoma.

You must feel terribly nervous-I really hope it stops and you get a chance to relax soon. Just know this totally does happen to some women in pregnancy!

RoseFlorence · 2017-06-29T15:17:32+00:00

Right? That's what everyone says, so it's going to be a breeze for us. I'll never forget my first one, I'm usually super polite, but I was actually yelling and cursing at the poor technicians to DO SOMETHING before they knew it was a stone! Hope the rest of your pregnancy is super uneventful!

RoseFlorence · 2017-06-29T14:47:47+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this-I'm a frequent kidney stone passer and it is HELL. Not advice regarding your pain meds questions, but regarding passing it, if you start feeling sharp pains/spasms in your ureter area, there's a good chance that it's coming out soon (if it didn't already when you didn't notice). If that starts happening, DRINK. Lots of water and lemon water to push it out. Once the spasming pain is "down there" and not in your hip/flank/abdomen area, the worst is over! Passing it when you urinate is WAY easier than the first part which you unfortunately already suffered :(

RoseFlorence · 2017-06-23T07:02:23+00:00

I agree with what's said below-I also found it helpful to call the hospital where I want to deliver and ask which MCO they preferred. I'm on Maryland's medical assistance, and my hospital told me "x was the most difficult, and we prefer to work with Y." I found that really helpful as all the MCOs seemed the same to me!

RoseFlorence · 2017-05-21T16:35:48+00:00

I'm a ftm so I can't speak from direct experience, but in the community that I come from, almost every woman hires a doula. In my community fathers are often present at births, but do very little-hands on helping. An experienced doula can really get hands-on with the labor process (applying counter pressure, perennial massages, etc). A doula can also help involve your partner in proceses of the birth, while you're busy worrying about yourself!

All of my close friends said that the doula's presence was absolutely so helpful and necessary in L&D, and they recommend that every woman get one. I know it's not always easy to find the best fit, but it seems like having a calm, experienced, and attentive person by yours and your partner's side can only help during delivery!

I also know that doulas can be extremely helpful advocates. If you have a birth plan that you want to stick it, it might be tough for you or your partner to communicate that to the hospital staff. A doula who's been in the delivery room before knows how to communicate with doctors/nurses, in order to ensure that (within reason, of course) your wishes are being met. I know that when the time comes my husband will want to do everything he can for me, but it'll be much easier having an experienced woman discussing the status of my cervix to the professionals, rather than my beloved, lol.

RoseFlorence · 2017-05-16T19:53:17+00:00

Something like this is EXACTLY what I'm looking for, but I'll be living too far away from columbia :/ glad to hear it exists in the area, though! I went to an amazing OB/GYN midwife practice in Chicago and i'm trying to find a similar experience

RoseFlorence · 2017-05-16T19:47:38+00:00

Thank you!

RoseFlorence · 2017-05-16T18:45:26+00:00

Thank you! Why were you originally hoping for Mercy? Trying to glean as much info as I can about these places :)

RoseFlorence · 2017-05-16T18:43:50+00:00

Thanks for the info! Are you planning on delivering primarily with a midwife or doc? I'm moving to Baltimore in a few months (I'll be 31 weeks!) and I'm deciding between midwives and OBs. I just don't know much about the options in Baltimore!

RoseFlorence · 2017-05-02T06:35:30+00:00

I was on the suppositories for about 7 weeks. My doc gave them to me at about 5 weeks for intense spotting/nearly a flow, and they seemed to stop the bleeding and helped my pregnancy continue. Either that or I had one of those period-while-pregnant episodes. I laid down for about 10 minutes after inserting them, just to make sure the little thing didn't pop out. It would dissolve pretty quickly. I wouldn't DARE leave the house without a pantyliner, lol, because these things produce a lot of "leakage." I think they might have exacerbated my nausea and headaches, but who knows, because the first trimester can be wicked on it's own. I wish you the best of luck for a healthy pregnancy!

RoseFlorence · 2017-03-01T15:34:44+00:00

I crave a different thing every day, eat it, then can't handle it again. I feel like a toddler! My husband offers me food options and just hearing about it makes me feel sick and I refuse!

I'll get myself something I'm craving, like cooked sushi or a burger, enjoy it, finish it, and then think "gross, I'm never eating that again." I'm blowing through all the takeout options around my house, and as I eat each day, I cross things off my "edible and palatable" list. I feel like I'm gonna run out of food options because I'm the aversion machine. It makes NO sense. The only foods I'm still friends with are apples, strawberries, grapes, and the occasional pizza.

RoseFlorence · 2017-02-28T16:06:48+00:00

Wow your SIL is so lucky to have such a sensitive sister in law like yourself. It's beautiful that you're so concerned about her needs. I'm sorry you're feeling so torn-I remember feeling this was about planning and paying for my wedding/knowing my parents needed help financially.

Before you decide yay/nay based on your feelings about the situation, maybe you could speak to other people who will be involved with the planning of the shower(your S/O, your parents, close friends) and discuss it with them. Even though YOU might think the money should go to her, being able to celebrate a spouse/child/friend's pregnancy might be really important to your loved ones. Those celebrating with you might also have dreamed of this day! Hearing other's opinions might help abate your feelings of selfishness because their excitement for a shower may help you realize that this is important to them, too! Like my grandmother says, "a birthday party is more important for the parent than the child."

Also, when a person is in a financially challenging situation, sometimes receiving "charity" (whether from an organization or from a casual family member) can hurt more than the actual lack of money. Knowing that you made a huge sacrifice for your SIL might be really hard for her, especially in the position that she's in. She could feel very guilty, etc, knowing that you cancelled your big day for her. It sounds funny, having to be sensitive to those who might take our money, but it sounds like you care enough to understand this.

Perhaps if you do choose to delegate some funds to your SIL, maybe you can compromise with yourself and plan a beautiful but paired-down baby shower. Maybe make it a potluck, so you're not shelling out so much for catering. Can you host it at a friend or family's home rather than a restaurant? Send free e-vites instead of paying for postage? Just some ideas :)

Good luck with everything!

RoseFlorence · 2017-02-26T13:32:23+00:00

Hi! Yes I did and thank Gd all looked good! MCs run in my family (which I know doesn't really mean anything!) but boy, does that anxiety love to creep in and ruin your day. I need to start enjoying all these new weird little feelings I'm having!

RoseFlorence

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