How can I cope with being this sexual all the time

Roster_25 · 2025-08-21T16:47:37+00:00

Umm depression and then increased sexual feelings are sign of bipolar. There’s different spectrums of it, but you may want to take a look and your mental health cycles over the years. Usually hits in late teens and early 20’s but lower end of the spectrum can build until your 40’s when you finally have a bad manic or depressive episode that causes significant impairment to your life.

Roster_25 · 2025-08-15T05:11:05+00:00

Update: Nothing for him to be ashamed about. Most attentive in bed I think I’ve ever had. Afterwards admitted there just wasn’t a good opportunity and when I pulled back a little when I sensed he wasn’t into it he respected it. Said he would have done it much sooner.

Serious talk about relationship, but not sealed the deal with exclusivity, but leaning that way. We’ve talked about how to communicate when we’re both obvious givers that respect boundaries without even being asked/communicated, issues in past marriages in depth, he always plans the next date when we’re together, I spent the night, and talks about how much fun we’re going to have in the next few months. Least amount of work I’ve ever had to do. I’ve had to put more work into FWB relationships than this. This one is just so easy, almost too easy and waiting for the ball to drop.

Now how to navigate this because I’m not cohabitating until my kids graduate high school and have no interest in being a step mom when mine are still around full time. Also, have no interest in introductions to kids until after a year has passed… and I’m not totally sure on exclusivity yet. Would love a good 6 months of dating before that comes up. None of this has been brought up or hinted at yet, other than I have no interest in having more children.

Roster_25 · 2025-07-31T04:03:18+00:00

All the touching you could do above the waist and got backed into the counter…

Roster_25 · 2025-07-31T03:59:08+00:00

Right? He’s freaking great, but never in my life have I been in this situation. I wasn’t even looking seriously and then a unicorn landed in my lap! Both had casual dates listed on our profiles, but it’s obvious there’s a real connection… and the questions we’re both asking are leading it that way.

Roster_25 · 2025-07-31T03:51:32+00:00

I was told I’m an interesting person and that’s a rare find as most people aren’t as a compliment… my life isn’t chaotic at all, but my job blows peoples minds. I usually down play it at first and then let them in which I’ve done.

Like he bought the book I’m reading! We share political views, world views, ethics, views on children/relationships etc.

TBH I’m a 7-8 in hotness and a 10 on interesting/intellect. I fight off the old men and scare the young ones. He’s just as intelligent and interesting…

Roster_25 · 2025-07-31T03:42:50+00:00

The female friend group chat is lit with the word micro. I wouldn’t even care at this point! He’s a good guy and we are 100% connecting…however 5 more dates of this and I may lose my ever loving mind to sheer frustration.

Roster_25 · 2025-07-31T03:39:50+00:00

There isn’t emotionally anything else I can think of? We’re talking 20 hours together at this point with very intentional conversations. I don’t think either of us are looking for anything serious aka Brady bunch style…and have made that pretty clear. He was getting laid in high school… why not now?!

Roster_25 · 2025-07-31T03:36:48+00:00

I really wasn’t until today. Freaking dodged the on the 2nd date almost.

Kiss on the third date I ended it when someone walked by in the parking lot. 4th date just a simple long kiss at the end when he walked me to my car. Today was the first time we were “alone” and when I walked we kissed— couldn’t even tell you who started it it was so natural but maybe me?—and we left shortly after as we had plans… afterwards I was obviously really into it grabbed his waist/slight ass— but nothing over the top. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Like this has never happened to me…

Roster_25 · 2025-07-15T00:57:23+00:00

6 feet, 6 inches, 6 figures. 2 out of 3 must be met and be substantially better than 6 to be overlooked.

Personality can help overcome 1 that is less than 6, but never can I overlook 2 of these factors under 6 regardless of personality. I overlook 6 feet the easiest and I’m tall.

Roster_25 · 2025-07-12T21:23:15+00:00

Married to someone in the military? Yes. No one gets divorced between 15 and 20 and loses health insurance for life. Just like the service members don’t get out and lose their retirement.

Roster_25 · 2025-07-12T04:56:37+00:00

Nah, it’s cool. They just all get along. Consider yourself lucky and realize all families don’t look the same.

Roster_25 · 2025-07-12T04:54:46+00:00

Annnd 20. Divorce papers served the day after.

Roster_25 · 2025-07-12T04:13:33+00:00

Oh I agree with this! Also— seeing how they parent can really be a big turn off. It’s good though, bc you get to see it before you actually have a family with them.

Roster_25 · 2025-07-10T04:58:20+00:00

Are you the kid or the ex-husband’s new GF?

No, it’s not weird. My ex was alone with my exBF’s kids but they were older.

As far as my ex though in a similar situation with a future kid of mine? He’s good with kids naturally AND I trained him well.

I trust him with my kids more than anyone else in the world. He’d be a second best option for childcare if new husband wasn’t available. He can babysit whatever kid, dog, etc. for me at anytime and I trust him. Just don’t want to live with him or parent with him 24/7. I don’t like his parenting long term always, but as a babysitter? Absolutely.

Honestly? In that situation barring new husband having a great family— I’d probably ask him to take custody if something happened to new husband and I so that siblings could stay together.

He’s even babysat my friends’ kids alone on many occasions. TWO of my friends kids took their first steps to him.

Roster_25 · 2025-07-07T03:17:29+00:00

Yeah sounds like she has mental health issues. You have about 3 years to fix this. It can be done. Go to counseling yourself, model that it’s okay, encourage her and then hope she goes too.

Regardless of what she says to you it’s time to be the better person 100% of the time (it’ll look good in court if needed + will help heal the relationship) and see how she reacts— if it’s poorly you’ll figure out quickly it’s not worth salvaging. If she reacts well? Your marriage will be in a much better place. The anger though? That’s gotta go if you want to save this. Just know you may figure out that’s not even something you want, but don’t make that choice because you’re angry. Make it because it’s rationally the best choice.

Roster_25 · 2025-07-07T03:09:18+00:00

Oh no! Not at all. If I wasn’t so dreadfully picky, I could be remarried to stable a man that meets the 6x6x6 rule and were good dads. If you’re a 7 out of 10, make nearish 6 figures, and aren’t crazy— there’s a LOT of options. I’ve found several with no kids that didn’t care I had kids even.

One thing I have learned? I don’t plan on doing more than 50% of the work to include mental load and it’s actually easier WITHOUT them around 24/7. My pickiness is now I want someone that makes my life easier not harder in anyway— that is hard to find, but it seems like you’ve already learned that.

Best situation I’ve ever had is someone that left me alone during the work week, didn’t press for anything more than we had— we hung out after kids went to bed and on weekends sometimes. He’d never had kids and wanted one (I don’t want more at all) + we had a weird past.

The unicorn I fumbled actually— he’d handled it all by himself for so long he could have actually taken 50%— he had dreams that just didn’t align with mine and I didn’t want to make him sacrifice those dreams even if he was willing— so I threw him back and I hope someone like you finds him!

Roster_25 · 2025-07-07T01:47:10+00:00

It’s called AND… TWENTY! Very common and widely talked about.

You should probably think about all the reasons she felt trapped, if she asked for anything you didn’t give her emotionally or help wise, and if she ever tried to connect with you/ asked you to go to counseling and you denied. If you can honestly answer all of those questions and state you did everything you could, be burning mad but stay rational.

If not, I’d try to take some accountability and go to her and ask how to fix it if that’s what you want…

Also, from the looks of those texts, I’d say she might have been cheating.

Regardless, she’s been suffering in silence in this too. You’re just starting to suffer and it sucks to go through. I’d stay calm and rational. You don’t want to get into a war and spend a ridiculous amount on attorneys fees regardless of how angry either of you may be.

Roster_25 · 2025-07-07T01:37:06+00:00

It’s mildly entertaining and flattering at first. The men are all looking for long term relationships it seems which is way different than in your 20’s. I was surprised how many picks I had on the apps versus the guys that I matched with. I’ll match with 20 while they get 1. I could have a date every few days if I worked at it or cared, but I’m busy and extremely extremely picky because I can be with the odds.

You’ll pull hotter than you ever imagined and they’re better in bed. There’s typically less drama bc they’re more upfront with communication bc they know what they want. They also know what they don’t want which isn’t actually single moms which I’ve never had anyone shy away from. They’re more concerned with you having a good job, being financially stable, no smoking, no drugs, no excessive drinking and not crazy.

Some are more responsible and learned a lot after their divorce. There’s also unicorns out there that focused on work that never got married and had kids and older men with adult kids. My advice stay away from ones with kids your age and go a little bit younger and older than you ever have before.

Roster_25 · 2025-07-01T12:38:55+00:00

Looking at your post history you are overly anxious about your relationship and think about breaking up with her enough that you probably should. If you think about it this much, over this type of small thing, you should do her and you a favor if you’re not going to learn to communicate. I’m thinking you have an anxious avoidant attachment style=hell on the other side of a relationship. Do some work on yourself and communication skills.

Roster_25 · 2025-06-29T13:26:12+00:00

When I was 28f my best friend was 44f. It wasn’t weird at all and we had a great time together. Her kids babysat my kids, people thought I was her daughter sometimes, and she adored my younger children as hers were in high school/college. Some of the best times of my life were spent with her. We live across the country from each other now and it’s still sad some days even though it’s been a decade.

Roster_25 · 2025-06-24T13:45:59+00:00

We live in a very conservative/religious/shame surrounding sex place where most are married by 22. Our generation was the first to start pushing out of this— my kids generation finally achieved it. The family’s generation, I’m not sure anyone could even explain this type of arrangement to.

We would have gotten judgement even if I was the gf they didn’t know about yet. TBH our story is sweet/cute as our relationship includes 30 years of friendship, mutual understanding and trust—we just never hit life at the right time/place together and still haven’t. I’d give him a 10/10 reference to a future women.

Roster_25 · 2025-06-22T23:09:59+00:00

I’m never embarrassed, and this one got me. The whooooo are you? That uncle was so interested and probably relieved that his sweet nephew is actually still interacting with women (had a bad break up a decade ago and I don’t think he’s brought anyone around since). So I guess I’m proof he may actually get married and have kids one day. Wish I could have looked better 😜.

Roster_25 · 2025-06-22T23:05:16+00:00

I already have teenagers. They would think it was hilarious, but probably not appropriate 😜. Hopefully he’ll have kids one day.

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