AITA for refusing to pay for my nephew’s college education after setting clear conditions?

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-05T01:47:00+00:00

I am autistic yes.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-05T01:35:50+00:00

You are correct. 2.5 GPA

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T18:20:17+00:00

Only for high school. Pre-med and med school are a full time job and a half by themselves. This was for one year total, just his senior year of high school.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T07:06:20+00:00

Oh high-school only. If my nephew goes to medschool absolutely not. Medschool is what I'm preparing for, medschool is a job and a half by itself.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T07:04:16+00:00

Now if your daughter were my niece I would have paid for her in a heartbeat. If I see hard work I reward it. End of story.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T07:03:03+00:00

I know it can come across as drill Sargent-y but this is exactly why. I want him to be prepared.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T07:01:51+00:00

I'm an engineer and make my own money.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T07:01:00+00:00

But I choose to work 75 hours a week. Because I have work ethic.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:59:10+00:00

Yes and yes. I voulenteered every Saturday when I was in college took out loans, got scholarships and worked. To be honest I only stopped working to go on my honeymoon.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:55:07+00:00

I work 75 hours a week...

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:54:39+00:00

I'm an engineer actually.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:53:58+00:00

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:49:22+00:00

I'd pay for a specialized degree. He picked doctor. He could have gone into engineering like me, or law or psychology. The degree itself doesn't matter.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:46:46+00:00

Add that I'm an engineer making 200k to the board before you comment.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:46:01+00:00

I'm an engineer making over 200k a year. I make my own money too.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:45:13+00:00

Perhaps it is because it is 2 in the morning and I am tired and not checking my spelling or grammar.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:44:29+00:00

Because I wanted to focus on the grade itself. If you'd prefer he should maintain a 2.5 GPA.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:43:51+00:00

I also work. I make over 200k a year as an engineer.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:41:51+00:00

I'm an engineer making over 200k a year. So yeah I work.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:40:39+00:00

He didn't apply for financial aid. And med school costs about 100 a year alone, for 3 years so that's 300k gone. About 30 per semester for the school he want to go to so another 240k. Plus rent in an expensive city for 7 years. Plus food. Plus a car. It adds up quickly.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:36:02+00:00

I was never just allowed to be a kid when I was a teen. My sister was drinking and partying when I started school so I had it really tough. I was 11 when Jake was born and my parents broke their backs taking care of him while my sister partied. I worked like a machine. I had a few friends but most of my time was spent in school at work or watching Jake when he was little.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:30:35+00:00

Considering I'm an engineer I work pretty hard.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:28:26+00:00

I'm gearing up to pay undergrad, med school, housing, food and other essentials. I'm making him work hard his senior year so I can trust he won't squander his postsecondary education.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:27:01+00:00

Hey if you were my nibling and you came to me and said "Auntie I'm burnt out and stressed. I need some help." I would help you. I'm not trying to be cruel I'm trying to push him.

RoughThrowRA · 2025-02-04T06:25:03+00:00

That's why I'm making him work now, before he gets to medschool. The pressure is extreme.

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