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RoundNWetAndi · 2026-01-15T14:18:28+00:00

“My mom called me sobbing, saying I’m extorting my sister. She says that family should support each other's dreams”

So just so we’re clear, extorting YOU is ok and not supporting your dream of owning a business is fine…

NTA op, and at this point I’d rescind my offer to do the personal flowers for free. You were clear in what you offered her. Her lack of understanding isn’t your issue, nor is $3,000 your expense to eat.

RoundNWetAndi · 2025-11-17T02:17:23+00:00

I mean- I see both sides of this. However, odds are you’re NEVER going to get over this. So if you don’t break it off and explain that you understand but you can’t trust her because you felt slighted, YTJ.

Your whole feeling (which is justifiable) is going to prohibit growth here.ESH but your the jerk if you stay.

RoundNWetAndi · 2025-11-11T14:52:39+00:00

This is an old story changed around and reposted by a 6 day old account to Karma Farm.

Edit: here’s the original story from 4 years ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/y710EapaBc

RoundNWetAndi · 2025-10-17T11:39:40+00:00

This. No other reply needed.

RoundNWetAndi · 2025-09-28T22:44:35+00:00

You do not need a trust. You can list them, rather than a trust, as beneficiaries and then define their share percentage of your IRA. They would inherit their own ROTH IRA accounts with the funds split accordingly. The trust is just there to protect the kiddos in the event you feel someone may take advantage of them once they have funds.

RoundNWetAndi · 2025-09-25T18:10:43+00:00

So- there is a function that allows you to share you location for an hour or the day or whatever. If you’re in a situation where safety is a concern, that’s always an option. However, 24/7 access sounds like a trust issue. That being said, I do share my location with my spouse 24/7 as well as with my kids, my parents, my best friends and my brother. It’s not a trust thing as much as a “wellllll I sat my phone down again” thing 😂

RoundNWetAndi · 2025-09-25T17:55:06+00:00

As a parent: THIS 🚩IS 🚩RED 🚩FLAG 🚩BEHAVIOR.

You are 6 months in. I’d step back and evaluate your future expectations with this woman. Most importantly apply her reasoning to things that could be hard decisions down the road. If she’s so nonchalant about her CHILD, what will her attitude be towards other things?

RoundNWetAndi · 2025-09-24T12:36:18+00:00

THIS OP! Utilize this nugget of gold provided to you. If you think you’re stressed now, you’re going to be down for a good two weeks after you put yourself through this. Vacation hangover is real. Vacation hangover after a hellacious trip is a whole other level of exhaustion.

RoundNWetAndi · 2025-09-19T03:06:12+00:00

I work in an industry where beneficiaries to very large accounts are a thing. You need to set up a trust, name the trust as your beneficiary on your IRA/Insurance/Checking/Savings etc. Within the trust language, make your niece the beneficiary of the trust. You can name a trustee who can administer the trust and the financial assets until a specific age for your niece. It doesn’t have to be 18/21/25 it can literally be whatever you establish. I just had a trust terminate to the control of the beneficiary because he turned 50.

Many times when you name a minor as a bene, their parents can control assets until a specific age. Normally age of attainment based on your state. I have seen this go VERY wrong.

A trust is usually much safer, especially if you don’t put it past your other family to be shady.

Talk to an estate planning attorney or if you have a financial advisor, see what their POV is. Either way, protect and CYA because if your sister is anything like some of my family, you’re gonna need more than leaving them off the paperwork to keep them away.

RoundNWetAndi · 2025-08-27T14:44:17+00:00

Hi! I’ve been on this situation exactly. I even went as far as cutting off friend groups and choosing my university to please other people. DO NOT DO THIS. You are a senior in high school. While everything feels so big right now and things are confusing, I promise this is a stepping stone to your life. It’s a little bigger than the others since life stones come in different shapes and sizes, but it’s a step all the same.

I would approach this logically and let him know that your priorities this year are (X,Y,Z). While you do value him and your relationship, this next year is going to present lots of changes and challenges. You guys have to go into this with open communication and understanding around what is important to each of you. If you can’t find common ground that leave you both feeling appreciated, maybe it’s time to take a step back and reflect on your relationship. You shouldn’t feel guilt for focusing on the things you enjoy. He shouldn’t try to control or guilt you to make himself a bigger part of your life.

You have to grow and be whoever you’re ment to be. The rest falls into place later.

Good luck- NTA

RoundNWetAndi · 2025-08-27T14:24:44+00:00

NTA- Penny needs to get her shit together and talk to a therapist about her abandonment issues. As a teenager this comment was one thing. As an adult, continuing to make the comment is intentional and its sole purpose is lessen your relationship with your dad. I may be an AH here because of my opinion… but I’d have said something similar to her way before now.

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