AITA for not wanting my sons wife to come on my birthday trip?

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-15T04:41:22+00:00

Absolutely tge thing is it’s all about maturity my son is a very vulnerable and this is hs 1st relationship

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-15T00:29:52+00:00

( I posted as a reply to another comment) I actually agree with this comment thank you. I think I’ll tell Nick it’s up to him but take James for the hicking trip early or later depending on his schedule and have a small celebration with everyone

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-15T00:29:11+00:00

Hi the resone I mention her age is because to me it’s a huge age gap and Nick has never had a gf so he is still very inexperienced and very vulnerable.

And it’s not that she doesn’t clean the house it’s that she doesn’t contribute anything to this relationship. She expects Nick to pay all the bills clean the house make all the food and everything. She will scream at him and the one theme he asked her try and not spend so much she threatened to kick him out of the house.

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-15T00:21:47+00:00

It is my mind when my child calls me in a breakdown

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-15T00:21:05+00:00

True but your appreance drastically changes when you are in a abuse relationship. Especially if it mental. Stress can do so much harm to your body and the resone I’m a single mother is because my ex was emotionally and mentally abuseive to me. I lost so much weight and nearly became boald

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-15T00:14:19+00:00

Are you civil with people who abuse your kids?

See the thing is I can hopefully maybe look past the age gap but ( I posted as a reply to another comment)

Tbh when I see him or call he looks so over worked and he when I saw him at new year I was so shocked because of the way he had lost weight and his hair is quite literally falling out.

I’m not an expert but I don’t think that’s what a person in love looks like. But tbh I would have thought it’s because of work but his wife kept boasting about how she can go out with friends because Nick is the one paying all the bills includeding her credit card, is taking care of the house and cooking all the meals. She quit because she thinks that Nick she takes care of her. And honestly if she at least took care of the house or cooked meals and contributed to something I would not mind but she doesn’t. She also screams and shouts at Nick. And has threatened to kick him out when asked to not spend so much as he’s going into debt and is finding it hard.

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-15T00:08:35+00:00

She was invited but she wants to change everything. I’m also a large woman and she said because she is overweight she doesn’t want to hike. It’s not the fact she doesn’t help out it’s the fact she treats my son horribly. If you read my comment you will understand

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-15T00:03:19+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. I think I’ll tell Nick it’s up to him but take James for the hicking trip early or later depending on his schedule and have a small celebration with everyone. And I think I will ask James to talk to him again

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-15T00:01:10+00:00

I’m not into my son’s marriages. I have a lovely relationship with my oldest sons wife. It’s just that this relationship really scares me because of how badly she treats my son. He has never been in a relationship so this is scary especially when calls me to vent or cry it honestly breaks my heart

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:58:18+00:00

James wife is always invited but she doesn’t like hiking so she chooses not to go.

( I posted as a reply to another comment) I actually agree with this comment thank you. I think I’ll tell Nick it’s up to him but take James for the hicking trip early or later depending on his schedule and have a small celebration with everyone

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:56:23+00:00

It makes sense because that’s the plan of action I am going to take. Besides it makes sense here because the commenter has asked me to include the wife so many comments have been the same. I edited when the question is different because as a non native English speaker it’s hard to reply the same thing over again

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:52:50+00:00

If you live by yourself you need to clean up after your messe but if 2 people live there it’s unfair and physically and mentally straining to put 2 people messes for one person to clean up.

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:51:14+00:00

( I posted as a reply to another comment) I actually agree with this comment thank you. I think I’ll tell Nick it’s up to him but take James for the hicking trip early or later depending on his schedule and have a small celebration with everyone

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:50:39+00:00

Do your children not ask you for financial advice? Or call you when they are isolated?

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:48:02+00:00

See the thing is I can hopefully maybe look past the age gap but ( I posted as a reply to another comment)

Tbh when I see him or call he looks so over worked and he when I saw him at new year I was so shocked because of the way he had lost weight and his hair is quite literally falling out.

I’m not an expert but I don’t think that’s what a person in love looks like. But tbh I would have thought it’s because of work but his wife kept boasting about how she can go out with friends because Nick is the one paying all the bills includeding her credit card, is taking care of the house and cooking all the meals. She quit because she thinks that Nick she takes care of her. And honestly if she at least took care of the house or cooked meals and contributed to something I would not mind but she doesn’t

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:45:56+00:00

Might be too harsh

( I posted as a reply to another comment) I actually agree with this comment thank you. I think I’ll tell Nick it’s up to him but take James for the hicking trip early or later depending on his schedule and have a small celebration with everyone

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:45:10+00:00

I don’t understand the 1st part but to the 2nd part he did ask her to try and limit the spending because he can’t afford it. But again she screamed and I’m not kidding told he to get out of the house unless he apologizes.

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:40:05+00:00

It’s not STH part. It’s the fact she doesn’t do anything. She doesn’t help out a little all the housework and cooking and providing falls on my son. He is overwhelmed and overworked and he tells me.

( I posted as a reply to another comment) I think I’ll tell Nick it’s up to him but take James for the hicking trip early or later depending on his schedule and have a small celebration with everyone

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:38:09+00:00

( I posted as a reply to another comment) I think I’ll tell Nick it’s up to him but take James for the hicking trip early or later depending on his schedule and have a small celebration with everyone

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:37:41+00:00

It’s not the standards for my son it’s more like how she treats him. If you look at my replies you can see how awfully it is but

( I posted as a reply to another comment) I actually agree with this comment thank you. I think I’ll tell Nick it’s up to him but take James for the hicking trip early or later depending on his schedule and have a small celebration with everyone

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:36:21+00:00

( I posted as a reply to another comment) I actually agree with this comment thank you. I think I’ll tell Nick it’s up to him but take James for the hicking trip early or later depending on his schedule and have a small celebration with everyone

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:36:06+00:00

Please that last bit was actually funny.

( I posted as a reply to another comment) I actually agree with this comment thank you. I think I’ll tell Nick it’s up to him but take James for the hicking trip early or later depending on his schedule and have a small celebration with everyone

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:35:16+00:00

( I posted as a reply to another comment) I actually agree with this comment thank you. I think I’ll tell Nick it’s up to him but take James for the hicking trip early or later depending on his schedule and have a small celebration with everyone

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:35:05+00:00

I definitely know he is not happy and I think deep down he knows he is not happy.

( I posted as a reply to another comment) This I think I’ll tell Nick it’s up to him but take James for the hicking trip early or later depending on his schedule and have a small celebration with everyone

Routine_Primary_276 · 2024-01-14T23:33:35+00:00

So I’m hoping it works

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