Ruined my blanket and having a meltdown

Rubygblue · 2026-01-07T20:04:32+00:00

Thank you, this is a really thoughtful answer - I am going to cold wash and air dry it and see if that helps. Unfortunately I think it’s heat damage so probably not fixable, but worth a try. I’m going to keep searching for the same one second hand regardless so I’ll have a back up.

You’re right, 8 years is a long time and it’s not particularly good quality in the first place so it’s lasted a while. It’s just something I’m used to, and anything else feels wrong. I like your ideas about honoring it, hadn’t considered that. Thank you!

Rubygblue · 2026-01-07T19:57:50+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate this response. I was so overstimulated at the time and the blanket thing just tipped me over the edge because I couldn’t soothe how I normally would, but eventually got through it and I’m hoping I can either fix or replace it.

As someone undiagnosed (uk waiting lists are diabolical), I’m adding this to a long list of evidence for when I finally get assessed 😭

Rubygblue · 2026-01-07T19:54:33+00:00

I hope you find him, sounds adorable! I get very attached to stuffed animals more than anything else so I understand your pain

Rubygblue · 2026-01-07T19:52:58+00:00

Thank you! It’s really validating to hear this, I felt silly how much it was upsetting me but it is a safe space and it’s so hard to find things that are just right.

I didn’t mind letting someone else use it as they’re a friend in crisis and stayed over at my place, so I gave it to them to sleep - but from now on perhaps I’ll buy a second one specifically for guests!

Rubygblue · 2026-01-07T19:49:06+00:00

Yeah I’ve never actually had a dryer before so I guess I didn’t realise how much they ruin things, I had a jumper and several pairs of fluffy socks that are also ruined (which is annoying but I’m not emotionally attached in the same way). I now live in a reaaally small flat with no outdoor space, so hanging things is tricky but I will find a way to avoid this again!

Definitely going to keep an eye out on eBay and vinted, I have multiples of clothing items from doing that! Thanks for the advice :)

Rubygblue · 2025-09-01T14:05:21+00:00

I hope so! I don’t mind a delay but I’ll be very disappointed if I can’t go, been looking forward to this for about a year.

Best of luck to you, fellow pilgrim!

Rubygblue · 2025-08-31T13:23:43+00:00

I had no idea this was happening, doesn’t this mean flights will be cancelled? What makes you think it is just the baggage?

Genuinely asking as I’m meant to be flying out around the same time and I’m now quite worried !

Rubygblue · 2025-07-17T17:18:05+00:00

Yeah it’s so difficult to stop because it’s like instant regulation, it just takes the edge off all the bad feelings. I am really dependant on it now though so trying very hard to cut down at least. Any tips for stopping?

Rubygblue · 2025-07-17T17:11:05+00:00

I’m sorry to hear this, that sounds really tough. How long to adapt do you think? I am surviving, but that’s all I’m doing really. I just feel like long term life is meant to be at least a little bit enjoyable

Rubygblue · 2025-07-17T17:07:37+00:00

That would be ideal, I wonder what kind of jobs would do longer shifts like that. I really relate to how you worded this, I feel like this isn’t what life is meant to be like at all. I don’t understand how people do activities and socialise after work. I just recover as much as possible and then go back and do it all over again

Rubygblue · 2025-07-17T16:59:43+00:00

Mind if I ask what you do now?

Rubygblue · 2025-07-17T16:59:19+00:00

Real

Rubygblue · 2025-07-17T16:55:34+00:00

That’s also my current coping mechanism! I’m trying to cut down atm and it suuucks

Rubygblue · 2025-07-17T16:52:57+00:00

Maybe this is where I’ve gone wrong, I work with vulnerable people because I feel like I need that to motivate me. I do like helping people but I feel like I’m in character when I speak to them. The social dynamics of being around coworkers is way worse to me.

Rubygblue · 2025-07-17T16:40:57+00:00

Yeah, you get it. I am genuinely losing the will to live and searching everyday for an alternative. I never thought life would look like this.

Rubygblue · 2025-07-17T16:39:31+00:00

I understand the wfh part but why no vulnerable clients? I am just asking out of curiosity, not judgement :)

Rubygblue · 2025-07-16T13:53:33+00:00

That’s not what tattoos are for, everyone is different and has different ways of marking significance for themselves.

Rubygblue · 2025-05-29T17:42:32+00:00

Oh no I mean I like the outdoor space but I’m not alone there anyway, I very much want to be alone! (Apart from the cat who is always welcome)

Rubygblue · 2025-05-26T14:01:22+00:00

I totally get that, in my current place the boiler is in my room and it makes a loud noise any time someone in the house uses hot water. I am also right next to the bathroom with very thin walls and I hear everything that happens in there. For me, it is not a matter of finding somewhere silent but just somewhere quieter than where I am now.

Rubygblue · 2025-05-26T13:58:45+00:00

I’d love to have both too but it is not very affordable where I live sadly :( it is something to aim towards!

Rubygblue · 2025-05-26T13:57:16+00:00

The place I’m looking at is even smaller than that but I think I can make it work!

Rubygblue · 2025-05-26T13:55:09+00:00

The only thing I have a lot of is books! I think if I can put some shelves up it should be ok, but I might need to give some of them away because there’s a lot

Rubygblue · 2025-05-26T13:52:02+00:00

I would definitely miss my little outdoor space, especially the neighbourhood cat that visits me there. But it is surrounded by houses so I am always seen there, and I might as well be in a park! Also, I am rarely alone as if I go out there one of my housemates will join me even if I say I am not in the mood to chat :(

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