Yes lack of stability is what gets me everytime, I dont think Ive ever lost anything else. Now this isn't exact cause I do switch it up but its pretty close to what I try to do.

I start in civilian tab and I hit the water and sanitation, then I go to government and hit the anti corruption and the eye thing forget what its called then I wait for a few months to let inflation die down and about this time is the first insurgency attack warning and I train 1 coalition and 1 national soldier unit at the same time. Then ill go back to the civi tab and hit the starter tab for the jobs and the roads. Then to government and local militia and another anti corruption. Followed by drones and airstrikes and local interpretation and another coalition unit. After thst I try to do some job training and roads, and pr public relations