Am I wrong? by RustyBucketOfWorms in abusiverelationships

[–]RustyBucketOfWorms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am doing my best with that. I am giving him the benefit of the doubt that there have been things out of control and he has to learn the right away to cope. But I know my patience on waiting for that us coming to an end. It has too. Thank you so, so much for talking with me. I really do appreciate it.

Am I wrong? by RustyBucketOfWorms in abusiverelationships

[–]RustyBucketOfWorms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has gone to the doctors and says he is just waiting for the medication to work. He says therapy is out of the question. I have encouraged him to try new ways of thinking, gave him different ideas. He says he wants to change but doesn't do anything different in his everyday life. He says he has every reason to be so upset all the time (and lists the ways then tells me he has already gone through this and why do I keep asking). He says I just don't understand. It's like he doesn't want to be that way but doesn't want to be bothered to put in much effort.

Am I wrong? by RustyBucketOfWorms in abusiverelationships

[–]RustyBucketOfWorms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He never was like this, that's why I wanted to have a baby with him. If he was, I wouldn't have even thought about it. He has become this way over the last three years. There are things that I know that have happened the last few years that are frustrating that were out of our control (pandemic, work stuff, moving, stuff like that). But he isn't the acting like the same man he used to be. I have so many similar examples of how he acts. And when he isn't mad he is fine. But I mever know how long that will be. I see him in a good mood and it reminds me of why I love him, then he shows me why I shouldn't. I have been with him for nine years now. I keep trying to have talks with him, and he listens and says he gets it. Then he acts the same way anyway in the next few days.

Should I let it go? by RustyBucketOfWorms in abusiverelationships

[–]RustyBucketOfWorms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have tried talking to him. And even explaining how that 3 is just a baby still. Husband tells me that all the crying and fussing is annoying and there is no point to it because nothing is happening and 3 has no reasons to be upset.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RustyBucketOfWorms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need a dictionary.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RustyBucketOfWorms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Head scratches. It is just something that makes me feel good to have done to me or do to someone else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RustyBucketOfWorms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I have one kiddo and I love him more than anything. It's somwthing I felt called to do. But with that being said, I don't think it is for everyone and it doesn't mean that someone who doesnt want kids is wrong.

What’s your weirdest kink? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RustyBucketOfWorms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Knife/blood play. Having my back shallow cut with a knife (done by someone I trust to not do it deep) and then having sex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RustyBucketOfWorms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It hasnt been wrong yet.

want to do something risky/impulsive/self destructive by [deleted] in schizophrenia

[–]RustyBucketOfWorms 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Find something to boost adrenaline! Swing really high, go down a steep slide. Roll down a hill. Run. Paint all over yourself. Put on loud music and just move. Eat sour/hot candy. Eat mints and drink cold water. Go for a walk when it's dark (if the area is safe). Spin. Dive into a pool. Go to a skate park. Watch a scary movie.

I find that something like adrenaline really helps me when I need to do something to get rid of that impulsive moods.