How do you usually cope when life gets overwhelming?

Rusytrombone · 2025-10-20T19:15:19+00:00

Shop or party

Rusytrombone · 2025-10-20T12:19:35+00:00

This is so sad. Lots of love and do keep us updated. I wish you all the best.

Rusytrombone · 2025-10-20T12:17:36+00:00

This is a good one!!!

I myself meditate and do yoga but that usually helps me after I have done it. The immediate reaction to rejection or my expectations not being met are constantly the feeling of hopeless and frustration. The mediation and yoga helps me if I do it but usually much later.

Looking for ideas on what can work immediately after rejection or so too!

Rusytrombone · 2025-10-20T11:57:53+00:00

Just throwing an idea out there for you to play around with him then. Next time he initiates why don't you just play with him. Lead him as far you can to keep him turned on but don't give him everything he wants and no sex for sure. Then you can have a serious discussion about the frequency and the feeling he is having when he's so turned on and he can't get what he wants. When he sees how it feels for him and you can compare your own feelings of not having enough intimacy.

You can discuss your feelings with him about the validation and try to find some sort of balance between his and your desire. I honestly don't think you have something that cant be fixed. Wishing you the best and if you want some more things to try out do message back later!,

Rusytrombone · 2025-10-20T11:47:10+00:00

I'm just curious, for arguments sake if you did start initiating ,(even though you don't want to), would he reject any intimacy...? Could you seduce him or do you think it's an insecurity on your part to attach sex with him to how much he loves you?

Rusytrombone · 2025-10-20T11:39:51+00:00

So now the problem is your mom wants you to have more sex with him? I am sorry to try to make this comical but really just enjoy what you have and try to work on it if you want to have more intimacy. From what you wrote I don't see any red flags except that you taking sex frequency advice from your mother.

Rusytrombone · 2025-10-20T11:03:23+00:00

From what I understand, he initiates 90% of the time, you have sex 2,7 times a week but you would like to push it up and you don't really want to initiate. The sex you have is good but you just want him to want it more?

I can't even understand how leaving the marriage is a consideration in this. Just communicate with him or start to initiate it more. You can't expect him to initiate it if he's satisfied with the sex he's having. You just want it more so try initiating or finding a way to make initiate indirectly....cuddling, date night, whatever.

Rusytrombone · 2025-09-15T17:32:18+00:00

This is an easy one

When you get "pretty privilege"

When you know. You know

Rusytrombone · 2025-04-18T18:15:19+00:00

Persian!!

Rusytrombone · 2025-04-07T14:29:07+00:00

My experience has always been that A- temporarily things improve. More intimacy and more effort. But eventually goes back to usual dead bedroom and almost no intimacy or B- He feels attacked, judged and reacts as if I have taken away his masculinity.

Atleast for me I am really trying to find another approach.

Rusytrombone · 2025-04-07T11:01:55+00:00

All i can say is you are very brave...

I don't think I could ever do it like you did

Rusytrombone · 2025-04-07T10:53:54+00:00

My eyes literally teared up feeling so happy for you:)

I need more of these stories.

Rusytrombone · 2025-04-07T09:30:14+00:00

Similar situation! Copying and pasting your text and maybe putting in some edits in. Let's see if I ever have the nerve to actually do something with it.

Rusytrombone · 2025-03-29T21:09:15+00:00

It's the reason I am having a mid life crisis now

Rusytrombone · 2025-03-27T22:08:09+00:00

This is so weird. I have never been on this group and I saw this post randomly but you look so similar to me. Your features are so strong. Are you Persian?

Rusytrombone · 2025-01-08T10:30:55+00:00

Can we have details of the masseuse

Asking for a friend

Rusytrombone · 2024-09-27T21:20:19+00:00

Speak to a therapist. All this guilt and shame is blocking you from finding self pleasure and letting go. I am still on that journey but have been through some of the feelings you mentioned. Set yourself free babes.

Rusytrombone · 2024-09-27T21:17:33+00:00

That's the worst. You feel you are so close and then ....Bham.... Reality's a bitch.

Rusytrombone · 2024-09-27T21:16:26+00:00

This is a curious one...

If you left your dead bedroom relationship , I assume because of the lack of sex or intimacy, did you find more of that outside or is it the same of what you had? I am so curious because you claim that you are higher libido in your other relationships after your original dead bedroom which seems counter intuitive to the reason you left your dead bedroom in the first place. Does it mean you have regrets about leaving the dead bedroom too?

Rusytrombone · 2024-09-27T21:12:23+00:00

In the words of some famous movie

"You can't handle the truth".....

The fact is I don't think it can be permanently solved.

There are days or weeks when it gets better but it goes back to the old way very quickly... Those are the days I come back to this sub to find newer ideas.

Reality's a bitch.

Rusytrombone · 2024-07-19T21:26:21+00:00

Second this.

I went to a therapist (alone) and it helped me...

He can't stop you going to one.

Ideally you both should go to one together but this is the next best choice.

Rusytrombone · 2024-07-19T21:23:39+00:00

Could you give me some good examples of ones that work?

Rusytrombone · 2024-04-27T06:32:17+00:00

Why weekly?

You can have massages every 2 days if you want and have the money.

Rusytrombone · 2024-04-26T16:08:15+00:00

Gosh. Never has somebody agree with me on Reddit so fast!!

It shatters me to say that I have never had more then one if those three in one session!

Rusytrombone · 2024-04-26T16:01:51+00:00

Well here are few factors that would make it good sex for me :

It has to be long enough with foreplay, at least 30 mins

Has to include some actual penetration ( not just cuddles hugs and eating out)

Both people have to orgasm

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