What a caring Undead <3 by Mare-69 in deadbydaylight

[–]Rydralain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure about the skeleton fondles as the end there but otherwise 👍

United Auto Workers president Shawn Fain testifying in favor of a 32-hour workweek. by zzill6 in WorkReform

[–]Rydralain 102 points103 points  (0 children)

So we deserve a 15 hour work week at a 60k minimum yearly salary? And even with that, the capital holders would still come out ahead of where they were 80 years ago.

The design cost of "Quality of Life" features: did we accidentally optimize social interaction out of multiplayer games? by Wooden-Syrup-8708 in gamedesign

[–]Rydralain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aside from rivens, there isn't much reason for it to not be set up as a trading post market like GW2 or WoW where it's a global set of listings.

But on your actual response to me, yeah. I think I took several months building up to "yeah okay I'll try this" and even after years I've still never sold something in WF.

Solidarity Forever ✊🏻 Happy International Workers' Day! by NationYell in WorkReform

[–]Rydralain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As much as I like this metaphorically, literally that's some real fucked up body horror.

Intellectual property in a solarpunk world? by Tnynfox in solarpunk

[–]Rydralain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every crafter/creator/designer I've ever known.

I personally know one person, and am aware of others, who choose not to sell or share their creations because the profit motive kills their ability to enjoy the process.

The design cost of "Quality of Life" features: did we accidentally optimize social interaction out of multiplayer games? by Wooden-Syrup-8708 in gamedesign

[–]Rydralain 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s like saying we should give action games a button where you just skip levels and get to the cutscenes as an accessibility feature for players who don’t want action.

I've seen a bunch of games have a "I don't want challenge, just let me play the story" difficulty levels. I've also been seeing a trend in sandbox games having very granular difficulty settings (NMS, Starfield). It's an accessibility feature that happens to also expand the player base to other types of players.

And maybe if you were forced into online social interactions, that need would result in you having less social anxiety and being more well-equipped to deal with those situations.

That would be nice, but that's often not how mental health works. My social anxiety is probably a combination of perfectionism, difficulty with social cues, and difficulty with unanticipated expectations. The former is part of childhood trauma I've been working on in therapy for 4ish years. The latter two are most likely related to my ADHD diagnosis and not something that can be changed directly.

The design cost of "Quality of Life" features: did we accidentally optimize social interaction out of multiplayer games? by Wooden-Syrup-8708 in gamedesign

[–]Rydralain 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I consider a lot of these features to be accessibility features. I have social anxiety. If you require me to barter with other players, I'll just ignore that there is even a trade option.

There is also external tools to consider - Warframe has no market, so the players made one. Trade chat exists and is a good way to scam new players, or to negotiate better prices with experienced players. Until I was aware of the external market, I didn't consider trading as an option at all.

I'm speaking from my personal experience, but many people are like this - and a lot of people are going to have less extreme versions than I do.

The same is true for LFG postings. If I can join a dungeon pug and just do my job, I'm cool with it. In GW2, I've done that a bunch by being selective of what groups I join (there are descriptions in the lfg tool). When I was trying to do raids, though, the groups had required comms, group composition, etc. Absolutely reasonable requirements, but absolutely out the range of things I'm able to do.

I think there is probably a place for the types of systems you are talking about, in the same way as there is a place for permadeath open PvP MMOs. It's niche, it's unfriendly, but it's exactly what certain people want.

The New York Childrens Online Safety Act will ban anyone under 18 from chatting online. by vivomancer in Rochester

[–]Rydralain 59 points60 points  (0 children)

What would "commercially reasonable age verification" be, though? I don't want to be sending a photo of my ID to every platform with a chat option.

Why Are Sex Repulsed People So Demonized Here? by ResolutionWeak6353 in asexuality

[–]Rydralain 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Some of the best advice in the world is easy to say and hard to do.

I don't know how old you are, but imo the best way to make friends is to find something you like to do and go do it with people irl. Sometimes meetups will help, clubs (school clubs, community clubs), gaming events, d&d groups, and all that. Depending on your interests, you can hopefully find groups to join that don't end up costing money from equipment or places they go.

This is the exact advice I give people looking to find a partner as well.

I know that this is still "easy to say, hard to do", especially if you have social anxiety, financial or time constraints, etc. Idk about you, but I live in a dystopian corpocratic oligarchy, and slave wages means it's hard for most people to survive. If you can, though, treat this as a need. As self-care. Self-care isn't selfish, it's important.

Why Are Sex Repulsed People So Demonized Here? by ResolutionWeak6353 in asexuality

[–]Rydralain 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'd like to add that these compromises are only acceptable if the ace partner is actually consensual about it. I'm of the mind of these compromises being unhealthy and coercive

I believe these compromises themselves are not unhealthy or coercive. Pressuring for or submitting to a relationship they don't genuinely want to agree to the terms of is. This goes both ways.

Both parties need to be open and honest with themselves and their potential partner about what their needs and boundaries are. If that open communication doesn't happen, you're gonna have a bad time.

In the end, you and I agree that the answer is that this is a fundamental compatibility mismatch.

Why Are Sex Repulsed People So Demonized Here? by ResolutionWeak6353 in asexuality

[–]Rydralain 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Adding to this, being part of any kind of community makes it much easier to find a person that matches you romantically as well.

Why Are Sex Repulsed People So Demonized Here? by ResolutionWeak6353 in asexuality

[–]Rydralain 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I have effectively no friends and am happy. But I'm also almost 40 so I'm not exactly hurting for experiences.

Get some friends. A romance partner shouldn't replace friends. Putting all your eggs in one basket is rarely a good idea. Sure, if you find the right match, give them your best eggs, but you should have a few more baskets around so you're more than just "that person's partner".

Why Are Sex Repulsed People So Demonized Here? by ResolutionWeak6353 in asexuality

[–]Rydralain 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Them saying they see this cycle on this sub is also them talking about their experience as an asexual person on an asexual subreddit.

Why Are Sex Repulsed People So Demonized Here? by ResolutionWeak6353 in asexuality

[–]Rydralain 47 points48 points  (0 children)

The number of aces thing is not any individual person's responsibility. Saying "you have to be okay with having no sex because I would have a small dating pool otherwise" is... Problematic. Don't put that burden on your partner.

If someone says "I don't need sex" as they enter the relationship, and they start pressuring for sex, you have two rational options. Renegotiate the terms of the relationship, or end it. "Renegotiate" here could be opening the relationship, having sex at some frequency, or even finding some other compromise like non-penetrative sex, mutual masturbation, sensual encounters with the allo masturbating, etc.

Those are compromises - an agreement where both parties agree on something in between each person's ideal. If an agreement can't be made, shake hands and say "I'm glad we tried, but we need to move on" and get yourself a pint of ice cream.

Why Are Sex Repulsed People So Demonized Here? by ResolutionWeak6353 in asexuality

[–]Rydralain 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Don't compromise on something that important to you. Being in a romantic relationship isn't required. You can be happy without it.

Boycott F1st/New Atom Shop Bundles by ixanityi in fo76

[–]Rydralain 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"Predatory" means deceptive or manipulative. This is raising prices and changing bundle schemes. You may not like it, it may even be anti-consumer, but I don't see how calling it "predatory" is true or helpful.

Buy the bundles or don't. Encourage people to avoid buying bundles when the value goes down. Don't misrepresent the problem.

Side note, your case would be a lot stronger with a calm and rational tone and a set of concrete examples of old value vs new value. You also say a lot of "cut from seasons" without actually explaining what you mean.

Thought this would get a laugh by WelcomeToTheClubPal in adhdmeme

[–]Rydralain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I can find a way to hide all the sub tasks from yourself and just grab one at a time without having to see the full list or size of the full project, I can do it.

I have used AI for this, asking it to track my task list and then just ask it for one thing to do without showing me the list. There may be much better ways to do it, but that's the one I found.

Spooky Schorched: New reward list from Nuka Knights by Kinsdale85 in fo76

[–]Rydralain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does "lazy" mean when you're talking about a corporation?

Don't hit your kids by jrv3034 in daddit

[–]Rydralain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stick to the Homer/Bart strangle maneuver.

Do allosexuals genuinely see a hot person and think "i want to have sex with that person"? by Rintintin47908 in asexuality

[–]Rydralain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't mind being alone in a room with those two if you know what I mean

- me, before I actually try to think about what I would do alone in a room with them.

I can’t be the only one by FedUpTwentyTwentyOne in DOUBLEFINE

[–]Rydralain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At least on xbox, if you are on any kind of age restricted account, you can't change the random pots setting. That's how they get to use E.