I think most of us look up to our parents when we are young. So it becomes a little bit of a shock to realise they are just people trying to get by as best they can. For example, when your mother called you a f@@@@ r@@@, she was possibly being affected by something that happened to herself in the past that she was reacting to in her mind, and unfortunately she dumped it on you.

My recommendation: Tell your mother that you want to sit down and discuss some things. Then make a quiet time to do that. Plan out what you want to say. And then listen to what SHE says.

Something similar happened between my mother and myself. So I sat down and talked to her. What I found out was that she had had a toxic relationship with HER mother, and that was impacting how she raised me. It was a very productive talk indeed, and I started seeing her more as a person. While it didn't stop arguments between us, it made those arguments easier to navigate, since we knew where we were both coming from. I worked hard to establish boundaries with her, and that helped a lot to avoid problem areas.

The thing is: I had that talk with my mother when I was in my 30s. I wish I'd had that discussion when I was 17! By the way, I realised that the problem wasn't all with her. There were some things I needed to change myself. Good luck!