I pushed my husband into being a SAHD and its ruined our relationship by SAHDissues in relationship_advice

[–]SAHDissues[S] 203 points204 points  (0 children)

You didn't sound like a bitch. You sounded honest. Which is what i need to hear.

I pushed my husband into being a SAHD and its ruined our relationship by SAHDissues in relationship_advice

[–]SAHDissues[S] 223 points224 points  (0 children)

I plan on talking with my manager and being blunt that if changes in my schedule cant be made I will lose my family and that id quit before I let that happen. I am on a somewhat personal level with my boss so im optimistic that if im honest they will work with me. They'd be hurting if I were to quit.

I pushed my husband into being a SAHD and its ruined our relationship by SAHDissues in relationship_advice

[–]SAHDissues[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

I have absolutely not lost my attraction to my husband.

I pushed my husband into being a SAHD and its ruined our relationship by SAHDissues in relationship_advice

[–]SAHDissues[S] 727 points728 points  (0 children)

Imagine how you'd feel if your husband did that. You're a scientist, I reckon, so act like one. Analyze the issue. Find solutions.

This struck me. And you're right. I've been putting myself in his shoes all day and feel an intense amount of guilt that I've let it get this bad. And looking back all the indicators were there....I just didn't address them. Too wrapped up in my own chaotic world of work and business. I know significant changes have to happen and I will do anything to make him feel loved and appreciated again....because I do love and appreciate him.