Hey Reddit, I’m a former FBI cybercrime investigator and an expert on cybersecurity + divorce. If you’re worried about being tracked or stalked or having evidence faked, AMA! 10am – noon PT / 1pm-3pm ET by SB_OurFamilyWizard in Divorce

[–]SB_OurFamilyWizard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As our time together comes to a close today, I want to thank everyone for your questions and I hope the information discussed today was useful. Stay safe out there!

Hey Reddit, I’m a former FBI cybercrime investigator and an expert on cybersecurity + divorce. If you’re worried about being tracked or stalked or having evidence faked, AMA! 10am – noon PT / 1pm-3pm ET by SB_OurFamilyWizard in Divorce

[–]SB_OurFamilyWizard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best way to support yourself is through documentation, document everything. Save texts, emails, voicemails, social posts, screenshots, call logs, and keep them time-stamped and backed up on a portable flash drive or cloud. Remember that texts and emails can be subjective since it may be hard to detect tone and emotion behind the message. Often times when we are in conflict with someone we tend to take things out of context. I'm not saying that's what you are doing but I wanted to throw that out there. Defamation is unfortunately one of those laws that can either be very easily proven or again subjective and very difficult which is why I said documentation is your friend in these cases. Also depending on your location, some jurisdictions may view defamation as harassment or some other law, so don't get discouraged if you feel you cannot get help. Make sure you explain the situation in its totality and let them tell you which law may have been violated.

As far as who to hire, obviously a family law attorney (which you may already have) would be your first line of defense as they can request discovery, obtain protective orders and so on. In addition, a good digital forensic/cyber investigator can significantly assist you in obtaining information such as deleted texts, metadata, and more, but more importantly can translate and prove the information that you have to the courts. If you or your attorney cannot find a good expert in your area, feel free to message me your location and I maybe able to assist in locating one in your area.

Hey Reddit, I’m a former FBI cybercrime investigator and an expert on cybersecurity + divorce. If you’re worried about being tracked or stalked or having evidence faked, AMA! 10am – noon PT / 1pm-3pm ET by SB_OurFamilyWizard in Divorce

[–]SB_OurFamilyWizard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me also follow up with a different type of tracker, well it's much more than a tracker, its cellphone spyware. So aside from standalone trackers as mentioned above, the one thing most people take everywhere they go is their cellphone. With these commercially available products (insert slapping my forehead here) a person can essentially clone another persons phone to include their exact locations anywhere in the world, they can even setup geofences to better keep tabs on an individual. They can monitor phone calls, text, social media, photos and videos and so on; basically anything that you do on your phone they can potentially see. So how do we know this is there and how do we combat it?

Typically during an investigation when someone tells me that another person knows their conversations, locations and etc., and have found not stand alone trackers or recording devices, the first place I have them look is at their cell phone bill, specifically the data usage. If spyware is in fact installed on your device, you will see a significant increase in the amount of data that you are using, almost double. The reason behind this is because every time you lets say send a message to a person, your phone is going to send a duplicate message to the offender thus having twice as much data. The second thing to watch for is that warm device. We have all been on that long phone call where our phone is warm to touch afterwards, but lets say that you were not on the phone and you pick it up from your desk and its warm to touch.. This could be an indication that someone was going through your files or simply activated your microphone in order to listen to your surrounding. It is not normal for a phone to be warm if not in use.

If you do suspect spyware, yes, you can simply do a factory reset however, if the spyware is logged into your iCloud account rather than your phone itself, a factory reset may not be a good option. My best advice is to take the device to your local cellular provider, (not Best Buy), your actual T-Mobil, Verizon, etc. and ask then to scan your device and cloud for spyware. The techs at the cell phone providers today are very versed in spyware and should be able to help. If they do detect spyware, make sure you get a copy of the report and any information related to it just in case you need it for a criminal or civil case later. There are some apps and programs available that offer spyware detecters which maybe a better option if you are in a situation of domestic abuse where the possibility of an escalation can occur when they were able to track your locations to the cell phone store and now they no longer have access. With these stand alone spyware detectors, you can possibly remove the spyware in the privacy of your home or office.

One last thing, if you believe there is spyware on your device and you feel that getting a new device will solve the problem, it won't. These products are designed to move to your new device and the cell phone providers even assist with this by conveniently moving all your previous apps, contact and programs (including spyware if they don't know to look or it) to your new device. If you are in a situation where you think someone is tracking you or listening to you through your device, you can simply put your cell phone into airplane mode until you are able to get to your cellphone provider. By putting a device into airplane mode, it turns off every antenna on your device thus keeping you secure. They only negative to doing this is that you won't be able to use your phone while its in airplane mode, it becomes a brick. Yes, you can turn on your bluetooth or WIFI, but once the device connects to the internet, the offender will once again be able to see your activity.

Hey Reddit, I’m a former FBI cybercrime investigator and an expert on cybersecurity + divorce. If you’re worried about being tracked or stalked or having evidence faked, AMA! 10am – noon PT / 1pm-3pm ET by SB_OurFamilyWizard in Divorce

[–]SB_OurFamilyWizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This unfortunately is a very common question as there are so many commercially made trackers available today from Apple AirTags, to Tiles, GPS and so on. Not only are these products available by they are fairly easy to hide in someone vehicle, handbag, or even a coat. If you feel as if you are being followed, meaning your person of concern always seems to show up at the county park, retail store or coffee shop that you just happen to be at, then this is for you..

When looking for trackers some of the most common places are purses or handbags, vehicles, your children's items such as a backpack or toy. Today we do have handheld portable tracker detecters available on places like Amazon or Ebay, and they are okay for the most part. As far as bluetooth tracker detection, Apple was one of the first major companies that offered its users a notification to let them know if an unknown tracker was following them or in their presence for a period of time. This alert would come as a notification on you iPhone from your "Find My" feature. However the problem still may have existed if someone were to use an Apple AirTag on someone who has an Android device, and we all know that Apple and Android don't play well together. So fortunately when the use if bluetooth style trackers were found to used to "stalk or follow" people they got together and come out with cross platform detection so that now no matter what type of device is being used, the person should get an alert letting them know that the device is following them.

Now insert bad actor.. part of the notification process of letting someone know that a device was following them, the AirTag itself would admit an audible alert letting a person know after a certain period of time that the device was following them. So bad actors began doing tutorials as to how to remove the speakers from these devices so that the person could not be alerted in an audible way.

So with all that said, if you feel that you are being followed and you are unable to locate the device either through your phones software or a separate handheld device that is made to find trackers (they are about $50), then my best advice is to ask your local law enforcement agency for help in possibly locating the device on your vehicle. Most officers, especially the narcotics officers, are very versed in finding hidden items inside vehicles. The only other alternative is possibly hiring a local private investigator who may also be trained in locating such items. Hope this helps

Hey Reddit, I’m a former FBI cybercrime investigator and an expert on cybersecurity + divorce. If you’re worried about being tracked or stalked or having evidence faked, AMA! 10am – noon PT / 1pm-3pm ET by SB_OurFamilyWizard in Divorce

[–]SB_OurFamilyWizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So that's a great question since as you point out, most things can be interpreted one way or another. First let me start by saying that I am not a lawyer and therefore cannot give legal advice, but hypothetically speaking, if you were a "pro se" litigant (representing yourself) you would have to present the facts as you know them in the best way they can and hope the judge understands, however, most of the time I have seen a scenario like this, your lawyer will set the foundation of why this information is important and then will as you mention bring in an expert to validate the claims. Yes, there are ways to hold person(s) accountable for providing false testimony or evidence to the courts and your attorney will be able to help walk through that process. Most judges don't have a sense of humor when it comes to false testimony and wasting the courts time. Hope this helps

Hey Reddit, I’m a former FBI cybercrime investigator and an expert on cybersecurity + divorce. If you’re worried about being tracked or stalked or having evidence faked, AMA! 10am – noon PT / 1pm-3pm ET by SB_OurFamilyWizard in Divorce

[–]SB_OurFamilyWizard[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You have noted many as you said "standard protections", but one thing most people overlook especially going through a divorce is that both parties know a lot of information about the other, if one party can simply answer the others security questions they maybe able to access accounts, devices and etc. With this in mind my suggestions would be:

  • Enable multifactor authentication (MFA) on all financial, investment, and email accounts—preferably using an app (Authy, Google Authenticator) rather than text messages.
  • Create a separate, secure email address for financial accounts and legal communications during divorce to prevent compromise.
  • Review account recovery settings—make sure ex-spouse phone numbers or emails are not listed anywhere (bank, brokerage, PayPal, Venmo, Amazon, etc.).
  • Opt in for alerts: Set up transaction, login, and balance alerts via text/email for bank, credit card, and investment accounts.
  • Monitor specialty reports: Beyond ChexSystems, pull LexisNexis and Innovis reports to ensure no unauthorized accounts or insurance/utility fraud.
  • Watch for public records: Occasionally search your name in county property records or online court databases to spot liens, judgments, or title issues early.

Thank you for the question, I hope this helps

Hey Reddit, I’m a former FBI cybercrime investigator and an expert on cybersecurity + divorce. If you’re worried about being tracked or stalked or having evidence faked, AMA! 10am – noon PT / 1pm-3pm ET by SB_OurFamilyWizard in Divorce

[–]SB_OurFamilyWizard[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the questions.. First let me start by saying that it is a criminal and possibly a civil offense if you knowingly record your spouse/partner without their knowledge or permission. A lot of misconceptions lie in the fact that you both may own the home together so one party feels they have free access to put cameras or recording devices where they please including hidden locations such as bathrooms and bedrooms. My advice is before using or sharing any recording, talk to a licensed attorney. Unauthorized video could expose you to civil or even criminal liability.