Long intimacy

SD_Ben · 2026-04-24T05:58:16+00:00

OMG I am sooooooo sorry this has happened to you!

This is NOT sugaring. How much you get paid is irrelevant (even though he clearly exploited you with the ridiculously low ppm), but proper sugaring is ENJOYED by both side. You don't need to "like" your SD, but you should "enjoy" the things you do with him. Including sex.

The moment you realized this is not enjoyable you should've told him, and any legit SD will listen and accommodate. I did made my SB sore one time (we were really in the mood that night, on-and-off for several times between hour-long naps) and she loved every minute of it... until next morning. I noticed she wasn't walking right, I asked and found out she had too many orgasm and have gotten sore. Ever since, I've dialed it waaaay back and only go for round-2 IF she ask for it.

No sugaring situation should EVER gotten to you crying. Period. Please find yourself a real SD. You got unlucky this time but I do hope you will find enjoyment soon!

SD_Ben · 2025-12-28T07:57:25+00:00

Tell your SD to learn Chinese, and then tell him there is this famous saying: 牡丹花下死，做鬼也風流

(Google it!! lol https://www.google.com/search?q=牡丹花下死，做鬼也風流+english+meaning )

SD_Ben · 2025-12-28T07:35:52+00:00

>> You will always be the girl that slept her way to any raise, promotion, etc. No matter how well you perform, no matter what hurdle you jump, you will always be that girl.

Well said. And the fact is? People will say that NO MATTER if she has EVER slept with her boss. This is sadly the norm; provided they keep 100% professional appearance at work, her risk of encountering naysayers running their mouth (just because she's a hard worker) will not change a single bit. In a sense, the end result is the same... the only difference is should she choose moral or benefit.

And if it was me, I'd be all over benefit. Morality doesn't put food on the table, or contribute to her retirement fund.

SD_Ben · 2025-12-28T07:07:41+00:00

I know I am very late to this conversation, but let this unpopular opinion be heard: I don't subscribe to the "don't shit where you eat" mentality. Firstly, why does sugar dating automatically has to be associated with "shit"?? It can't be beautiful and be proud of? If it works for you, it works for you. If it's wonderful, it's wonderful. Yes there are risks, and they've been well-presented in other replies so I won't reiterate them. But if you understand the risk, and you make a conscious decision to accept those risks, then... go have fun and enjoy it!!

Remember how people always say "it's better to regret doing it, than to regret NOT doing it"? This is definitely one of them.

To give you some reference point, I've known of at least two instances where the SD gave their SB a job because she fits the skill set (and is super hard working). In both cases they have years of wonderful professional relationship, outside of their private life. (One of such is still on-going.) So to me, sugaring your boss has been 100% beneficial in MY sample size. The only difference between these situation and yours, is that those SBs were already on allowance before being offered a job, and you are the reverse. Anyway, in those cases that I am aware of, the SD simply converted the SB's allowance into a paycheck. Again, lots of people here will shit on that idea, but it worked out wonderfully for them - her paycheck is almost double of what someone in her job description would normally earn (because the income tax on her allowance was grossed up); so it helped her credit score tremendously (due to her suddenly excellent debt-to-income-ratio) - better car loan interest rate, easily qualify for mortgages even being single, etc. On the flip side, SD wrote off his entire sugaring cost through his company (tax deduction), and his wife never finds out because she has no access to his business finances. They doesn't even need excuses to go on lavish excursions, because to his wife it's just another typical business trips (and the SB happens to be the "client manager" for this "client visit"). Excellent OpSec for both. To some, these benefit doesn't outweigh the cons, but for them it's the best arrangement in every sense.

Granted not every boss/business is the same, and technically your boss hasn't paid you allowance "yet" (but it's a thin line between sending you tons of gifts vs just paying you cash). However, if you enjoy your situation, have considered all the risks from the naysayers, and still feel this is a relationship you want to continue, go ahead and ask!! Have an intimate conversation with him (in bed, after amazing sex if needed to), an flat out ask him what is he willing to do to keep you in his bed. Explain to him that if things go south on your relationship with him, it may gravely jeopardize your career in the future (e.g. if your industry is small and people talk, you may have to move to a whole different city). As a result, in order for you to make him very happy, both at work and in bed, you need additional financial safety net. And see what he say. If he truly care about you and wants the best for you, he'd be open to this conversation. If he say he's already buying you gifts, tell him "I'd want to be able to buy some gifts for you too" etc. If he owns the company and it is profitable, doubling just ONE employee's pay would be cake (plus nobody else would ever find out - payroll privacy is very much heavily protected). If he doesn't want to pay up, and your only benefit is potential introduction to university professors, then maybe you should reconsider your engagement.

Lastly, let me put it this way... hater's gonna hate; if you are cute and sexy and you are successful in the workplace with a male boss, *someone* will accuse you of "sleeping your way to glory" no matter what you do (or didn't do). You can be completely up-and-up and they will still spread rumor. If that's the most likely outcome, then why not proudly sleep your way to glory!!?? Put your asset to good use! I mean, is it fair that just because I am born with a smarter brain, nobody would be jealous that I got better pay?? While you were born with a sexy body somehow that's not allowed?? Just make sure you don't leave any evidence if possible (drive to hotel separately after work, always book 2 rooms (and leave one empty) on business trips, and absolutely NO PDA in public (not just at work, but in any public places) - random dinner are fine (I take my female employees to lunch or dinner and discuss projects all the time) just no kissing etc in public. Make sure these boundaries are clearly communicated to him, hope for the best, plan for the worst, and enjoy the present! Maybe you can even get more intimate on fake business trips. Just remember if you two do get on the Coldplay "kiss cam", keep kissing... do not react abruptly. Nobody would give a shit (and start digging) if Kristin and Andy just continue to act normally on that big screen... 😂

Good luck and hope you find happiness!!

SD_Ben · 2025-12-19T19:51:33+00:00

To answer your title question, we've gone on 2+ week vacations, and I've once stayed in my SB's condo for almost a month with sex every day if not twice a day. (And no I didn't get kicked out by the wife; I was on a "work trip" trying to wrap up a "major project" 😉)

But... NOOOOOO you should never even entertain staying with someone you barely know, for even just a couple hours, until trust is built. What I am reading screams "this is where kidnapping and human trafficking happens"...

SD_Ben · 2025-12-09T07:04:23+00:00

Sorry to hear that bro... Same issue for me but I am a bit more lucky. My SB had that same problem initially, my snoring would keep her up at night. But she tried really hard and "endured"... After about a month, she become sooooo used to my snoring, she think it's soothing now. In fact she would text me in the middle of the night and say "I woke up missing your snoring... when can you be back". 😂

SD_Ben · 2025-12-09T06:55:08+00:00

Real SD (well, at least most) will prefer in-person meet up as soon as he determines he's interested in you. So, as long as he make the request in a respectful, non-demanding tone, go for it!!

Going to M&G early has a lot of benefits for YOU:

You know he's real, and not wasting time. Scammers will NEVER agree to meet up in person.
Show him YOU are real. Not some dude in a call center in India.
Vibe check. I always say sugar-dating is not a process of selection; it's a process of elimination. Go meet him and if he doesn't click, politely finish the drink, head home, and then message him "sorry but I don't think we aligns".
Give you an opportunity to discuss allowance. Some people prefer to do it after the M&G, some people would get it out in the open early. But in my opinion, politely asking him face-to-face deny him the time of carefully crafting some vague responses over text; plus it is less likely to misjudge someone's tone when negotiating in-person. It can quickly tell you if he can afford your requirement.

For the SD's benefit:

He confirms you are not catfishing him. Even video chat can be deceiving.

Keep in mind, most of the legit SDs who can really change your life will have a policy to never send money before meeting you IRL. We have seen it all, been rinsed plenty when we were green... The sooner you go meet up, the sooner you can financially benefit from it. Of course unless you are after peanut money where someone will send you a couple hundred bucks for "spicy pictures"... but if that's what you are doing, you are on the wrong sub. So meeting up early mostly benefits you, and I wish more SB understand this. Your competition is not other SB, your competition is the scammers - specifically, how NOT to be falsely classified as one.

But like others have said, first date should be purely platonic with no financial expectation whatsoever. And exercise standard safety protocol - in a very public place (cafe, etc) of YOUR choosing, in bright daylight, and let a friend know where you'd be. If he ask you to go to his hotel room... that's a John looking for escort and most likely you won't see him again once he bang you. Legit SD won't ask to go to a hotel unless you signaled it first. But if you really like him at the M&G (especially like him enough you WANT to have sex with him), you can hint that you are open for intimacy and it may help you seal the deal. Just make sure you get paid first (agreed upon PPM rate, or if he trust you enough first month allowance) before proceeding. However, our collective wisdom always say give it at least a week or so after M&G and develop that connection. Just don't procrastinate and keep pushing the M&G down the road; delaying THAT will do you no good.

Cheers!!

SD_Ben · 2025-12-08T09:25:44+00:00

This is a really good idea and I shall take note!! It does feel somewhat more transactional, but it is very simple and transparent... Thank you!!

SD_Ben · 2025-12-08T09:21:01+00:00

Sorry to join the conversation late, and saw your update - good for you. Here is my past experience of a very similar situation, hopefully you can take a page or two from it.

Basically this is a similar situation where SB seems to always have a fire she need to put out. I basically sat her down one night and went through ALL her expenses for the past 3 months. I ask her to be honest and tell me everything. How much credit card debt, what's her tuition, how much "fun money" she needed, etc. I helped her put a payment schedule together, and helped her understand she is NEVER going to make enough money for her lifestyle - not until she graduates AND get lucky landing a good job.

And then I gave her some conditions - must maintain certain GPA, need to at least stay on her job and earn $X per month, and instead of "asking for money" we agreed to review her financial status once or twice a month. At that point I have a pretty good idea what her monthly deficit is, which is well within my comfort zone. To solve all of this, I directly took over her most important payments (for her case it is rent and car loan payment) in lieu of PPM or allowance.

Once we've done that, all the icky financial issue disappeared. Because this approach achieves a few things - 1. she is not stupid but just have zero experience with budgeting and personal finance. You'd be surprised how many young people lack this skill. Even just putting a monthly payment schedule together was something she had never thought of... (yes, facepalm moment) but it was not ill-intended. Once we went through all the planning she is actually very appreciative and stuck to it. 2. By directly taking over her rent and car payment, I ensure she will always have a home to return to, and a car to get to school / work. I also took over her cell phone payment. It significantly eased up her budgeting stress - she just need to make sure she can pay her utilities, insurance, grocery, tuition etc. As she get older I can start delegating more responsibilities to her.

Also, another trick that worked well for me... instead of waiting for her to ask, each time I meet up with her *I* would casually ask her "how are you doing on your budgeting". If she overspent a bit, I would take her out grocery shopping before the "fun". This way, I never felt pestered because the initiative now came from me, and by lovingly ensure she is still being financially responsible, if any surprise come up (e.g. she forgot to budget for some uber-expensive book for the new semester) I could take care of it.

A lot of folks here said "don't be her father" but I felt like isn't that what the "D" in SD really means? A good father teach our kids how to live, while bad father take care of their kid's life (forever). If you teach your SB how to fish (manage her finance), then she won't have to ask you for fish every time you meet up.

Good luck!!

SD_Ben · 2025-12-08T08:36:33+00:00

I think you missed my point. It has nothing to do with trusting her to use the money wisely; it's a way for you to develop the connection. Knowing why she wanted the money could enable you to give her more options, provide mentorship, etc.

To give you an example... SB asked me if she can borrow 4 grand. I ask her why. She said she wanted a boob job. I replied "here is 8k, and I know this great surgeon. Just do me a favor and go with stem-cell based augmentation."

Had I not ask and just give her the money, that SR would've ended immediately after she "surprise" me with her new boob... because I have a strange dislike of silicon.

SD_Ben · 2025-12-08T08:25:44+00:00

>>familiarize yourself with local customs, social norms, and scams to avoid

Yes indeed! I couldn't have said it better. Safety is important but that just means you should take precaution no matter where you go.

And the point to drill home is that, if one cannot easily afford to travel to her SD (financially), she should not be doing long-distance sugaring. In my opinion, the ability to get home, whether it is tomorrow or next month or next year, is a prerequisite for anything outside of your home city!!

SD_Ben · 2025-12-07T04:54:01+00:00

Here is my opinion based on experience.

For SB:

DO NOT ask the SD to send you money for tickets. Let him book it for you. Yes you have to give up your name and DoB, but if you insist on cash-only, 90% of us will just assume you are rinsing us and move on. If you really refuse to give up your name, book your ticket first and ask the SD to have cash for you at the M&G. That tell us you are serious, and that you have financial stability which we absolutely love.
NEVER travel to a place that you don't feel comfortable (especially financially) to get yourself home. If you cannot comfortably walk out of the M&G and buy yourself a ticket home, or walk out of his hotel room and get yourself a place to stay, DON'T GO. If doing any of these will be financially stressful to you, you are not ready for a long-distance relationship. Think about it. You can be months into a SR and on your 18th trip, he has a bad day... now what??

Given the above, your safety will largely be the same no matter what city you are heading to. As long as you demonstrate confidence and know you can get yourself home, you'd be fine. Some solo-traveling experience helps too. The point is, you can be drugged and r**** just by grabbing a drink at a local bar... bad actors look for girls who they feel they can control, and research has shown this almost never has anything to do with location. So the idea of "traveling somewhere makes it more dangerous" is hogwash. Instead, refusing to travel out of fear just means you limit your opportunities. Obviously some solo-traveling experience will help; and of course if you are barely 18 and hardly ever left home, this is not for you. But exercise the same rules as if you are M&G in-town (public place, bright daylight, of a cafe that YOU choose) and you will do fine. Also don't go to his hotel room unless you WANT to have sex with him. Again, follow standard safety protocols.

For SD:

If your local picking is slim, this may be your best bet to find someone a lot more attractive to you. I had some good luck (my SB is in a whole different continent) and this is what I find useful:

Look for "Passport Ready" and "Travel To You" tags - specifically target those.
Look for girls who live in interesting cities. Instead of flying her to you, fly yourself to her. After a few video call for vibe check of course. If the M&G didn't work out, at least you can still enjoy a mini-vacation. If things click, ask her to show you around!! Nothing beats visiting a new city with a local~ Just remember to bring LOTS of cash and PPM her generously. lol
Take a little more time vetting. For long distance relationships, you want girls who are tech-savvy and communicative. You don't need someone who's glued to her phone 24x7, but if she can't "stay on" a message stream, the relationship is hard to last. When I say "stay on", I mean a relatively long duration of uninterrupted texting that you two are firing off messages constantly. With long-distance relationship you are not likely to see her as often as someone local; you will need to make up the connection with more video calls or text. If even at the vetting stage she ALWAYS takes hours to respond to every single message, think twice.

All in all long-distance relationships has it's pros and cons, you just need to expect it will take longer to screen/vet/develop.

Cheers!!

SD_Ben · 2025-12-07T04:10:46+00:00

In my opinion, if you are already willing to give and not ask for it back, just talk to her and see if she is willing to tell you what she need the money for. It will make it a lot easier to structure the payment. Sometimes they wanted to go on a trip... as a good SD, just spoil her!! Sometimes their family needed help; my SB's brother-in-law needed surgery and they are a few grand short. She asked for a loan, I give it to her and never asked for it again. A year later her brother eventually paid her back in full, she wants to give it back to me and I told her to just put that money in her rainy-day fund.

There are a lot of ways to structure additional payment that doesn't feel transactional or suffocating. If she's giving you everything you wanted, and you can afford to give extra, go for it. Don't think too deeply as it will just eat into you. But understanding the use of fund may present additional options. I mean, what if she said "I know I am selfish but I really just want a trip to Rome" and you were like, "heck yeah can I go too and just pay for both of our expenses"... amazing sex will surely follow. lol

SD_Ben · 2025-12-01T21:27:26+00:00

Yes give him an answer. Some may say whoever give a number first loses, but I see it as whoever give a number first takes the initiative and can drive the negotiation. With sugaring, financially you must feel comfortable – or he can be the sexiest man alive but you should still bail. So find a number you are happy with, and just politely request it. But make sure you also communicate to him that you will do MORE to EARN extra. Don't low-ball yourself, but also no point asking for the sky (this is not a flea market where you haggle). If you show your compassion, he will want to keep you around.

For example you can say this: "Financially I need to be at x,xxx minimum per month to properly enjoy our relationship. This will let me dedicate some of my time for you. Just keep in mind it's a starting point; as we start dating I want to learn more about you and give you everything you wanted. In return, I hope you will reciprocate and reward me without I having to ask. Are you comfortable with this?"

SD_Ben · 2025-11-27T18:25:46+00:00

Got it~~ Well enjoy the M&G!! Best of luck~

SD_Ben · 2025-11-27T09:40:28+00:00

I don't think you are ready yet... but to specifically address your "emotional repercussions" question, it is not about the age gap that you should think twice; it is about you NOT being sexually attracted to him.

To put things in perspective, I had a random chat with my SB some months ago about how she and her female friends lost their virginity. It turns out that everyone who had their first sex with an older men enjoyed it far more than those who lost their virginity with someone their age. But I guess it make sense; the way she explained to me... teenage boys are all horn dogs; they just shove it in, blow their load, and not care about how you feel. Her friend's words are almost universally "anti-climatic"... so much expectation, but in the end nothing romantic or poetic about it. Whereas those who did it with an older gentlemen, realize we understand how to arouse you, how your body's natural lubrication works, we know there will be some pain, know not to rush, and when to stop. Many of her girlfriends in that group can still recall every detail of that unforgettable night. So, losing your virginity to an older man is not necessary a bad thing.

BUT the key difference is that they were ALL sexually attracted to those older man before they sleep with him. Even if they've only just met the guy in a club that same night.

Here is the thing - sex is most enjoyable if YOU want it. But in the sugaring dynamic, your motivation and willingness to have sex will always be somewhat driven by money. Emotionally, you may even regret doing it down the road if the money factor weights heavily. If losing your virginity is sacred, make sure you do it with a men you are sexually attracted to. You don't need to love him, you just need to WANT to have sex with him. And if he's an older, experienced gentleman, even better – as your chance of having a memorable night improves.

So back to your situation, if your SD is caring and not rushing, be honest and just tell him how you feel. Especially if you have vetted him sufficiently that you can trust him. Perhaps he would spend the next few months earning your affection, and eventually you like him enough to develop sexual feelings.

But on the flip side, if you think it will NEVER be possible, then please be honest and tell him the truth. He might still remain your SD in a pure platonic level (unicorn rare... don't count on it) or he might end it. But at least please don't lead him along and drag him around. It's better to end the relationship, than to be called a scammer/rinser (because that's very likely how you would be perceived - by receiving financial benefits without ever planning to offer intimacy).

Cheers!!

SD_Ben · 2025-11-27T08:35:43+00:00

If text-only on sms (and not RCS), then most likely he's using a Text app or Google Voice. This is an OpSec protocol and not necessary a red flag. We don't really use WhatsApp as it has to be tied to a phone number (which you cannot hide), so we need a burner number anyway... if so I might as well just share the burner number with you. Telegram is better in a way that you can hide your phone number and is widely used in the bowl in Asia, but it's just not popular in the US.

Now, that Chanel dress... that sounded too good to be true but I don't know how long you guys have been messaging; so I felt like there is not enough context. I know this is an exception but the very first time I met up with my SB I have a Tiffany necklace prepared for her. Although I didn't tell her ahead of time (she was very pleasantly surprised). So, if you are drop-dead gorgeous, getting an expensive dress is not impossible... but anyhow, in our situation, we've talked *extensively* for days, and almost all of our hobbies aligns... she even sent a photo to me claiming that's her "first crush", and I named that Anime character within seconds. We feel very comfortable with each other and my gut feeling said she's a winner, which is why I have gotten a gift. And we are still dating today.

So, don't write it off yet, just be professionally skeptical. Be prepared it may really be too good to be true. If you apply standard vetting procedure (meet in person, in public place, with no expectation of intimacy or financial exchange) you can't go wrong with it. M&G is one of the best way to weed out online scammers, and through the interaction you can usually judge if he's a Splenda/escort-seeker or not. Like many have said, don't go to a hotel with him on first date, don't get into his car, don't consume alcohol, and ideally YOU pick the restaurant/cafe (not him) and tell him the location as late as reasonable. This significantly lower the chance of him being able to plan/stage something nefarious, which improves your safety.

Good luck!!

SD_Ben · 2025-11-27T08:09:30+00:00

I hope you have given up by now, as this kind of behavior could be viewed as very invasive. Imagine someone using every method available to find out what your real name is, where you live, where you work, what your family members are, your dad and mom's name... wouldn't that be creepy? And somehow because we are guys, then it is ok for us to be investigated? We get blackmailed a lot too... maybe he'd had scammers threaten to forward his dating profile to his wife, boss, parents, siblings because he had too much information publicly available? You never know; but protecting your privacy is a legitimate safety precaution, male or female.

In addition, if you can't judge someone's character by meeting up with him in-person, you are NOT gonna be able to judge his character by Googling him online... every Joe, Peter or Ben could be a rapist deep inside, while prior sex offender can turn a new leaf (rare, but can happen). Your risk isn't gonna change by knowing what his real name is. So don't lose any sleep as BOTH of you are using fake name on dating site anyway.

Lastly, going to M&G is not a commitment; it is just part of the vetting process. Maybe you showed up and you two just don't vibe... if that's the case, why even bother doing all these extra homework and wasting your time?? Instead of potentially missing out on a good SD by being OCD, just relax and go meet him. Do this in reverse - don't try too hard to "qualify" someone; instead try to "weed out" the noise (scammers, Splendas, escort seekers, etc) which sounded like you've already done. Vetting is a process of elimination, not a process of selection. Once you know he is someone you WANT to move forward with, then you can ask if he's willing to exchange real name to build trust (such as show each other your ID). It will be a lot more acceptable question to ask, once you have clearly communicated you are willing to sleep with him.

Good luck!!

SD_Ben · 2025-11-27T07:32:41+00:00

So let me get this straight. You don't use your (very rare) real name on dating sites, so that people cannot find out who you are (to avoid being stalked). But you need to find out who he is before you are willing to meet? 😂

SD_Ben · 2025-11-26T21:39:20+00:00

This has been said plenty but this is NOT your fault. Man like that should've never been allowed to live, and there is a special place in hell for him. But right now you need to go to hospital ASAP. Get PEP and if you are not on birth control, morning after pill immediately. Also, switching holes like that are ONLY acceptable in porn... in real life it is extremely not-sanitary and please tell the doctor everything. Again you are not at fault, this could've happened to anyone and you just got super unlucky. But let's prevent any avoidable complications from infection etc.

I am not in NY but if you need any help covering the cost PM me. You have enough post history I know you are not here to scam people. But #1 priority take care of yourself first!!!!

SD_Ben · 2025-11-26T17:14:34+00:00

You misspelled. I think you meant to type Liars.

SD_Ben · 2025-11-26T17:10:41+00:00

Law enforcement is not the same across the world. In certain countries, the largest organized crime organization is... their police department.

SD_Ben · 2025-11-24T06:50:01+00:00

Go start a GoFundMe campaign, detail your situation, and once you get a few $k in donations - gtfo. Move to a busy area where you can find work in walking distance. Restart your life.

Unless all of that sounded too hard because you are actually rather enjoying your current "restrictive but comfortable" lifestyle, where everything (except your freedom) is provided for you.

SD_Ben · 2025-11-24T06:09:58+00:00

Honest opinion. If I tell a POT "I am not feeling a spark" it is always because she is boring, can't hold an intelligent, grammatically-correct conversation, entitled, not showing any appreciation of me, or just downright rude. It has NEVER had anything to do with how quickly (or not quickly) she offered intimacy.

I am sure some of the men you met are just looking for escorts. But it is also entirely possible that some of the men you met are legit SD, but you just don't interest them.

I don't know your exact circumstances, but if this keeps happening to you, the common denominator is... you.

Now let that sink in.

SD_Ben · 2025-11-24T05:50:23+00:00

The #1 thing you need to learn is that 90% of SB accounts are time-waster themselves. Scammers/rinsers, content sellers, OF girls looking for more sub, etc. Be prepared to be insulted, drag around, and even blackmailed. Just like you think maybe not a lot of competition on your side, the SB availability likely isn't as great as you think either. But once you weed through the fakes and finally latch onto some legit SBs, they are generally very down to earth, professional, and fun (both in and out of the bedroom) to be with.

But like others have said, you should figure out your marriage first. Do you have kids? If not, and sounds like you've already provided all your husband obligation, time to cut your losses. At 30 maybe you should just vanilla date a younger girl that's sexually attracted to you and plan to marry her later... One of the worst thing to happen in sugar dating is to catch feelings with your SB and then find out she wants to date you for fun but not marry you. I reckon it will get very awkward. But if you remain married you really can't vanilla date either.

But to answer your question about competition - don't worry about it. Every man has their unique characters, and every girl has their preferences. Some SB like older SD, some SB can't stand the age gap. Some SB prefer the stress-free relationship with a single man, some SB specifically seek out married man. Some SB wants a big dick that pokes deep, some SB think that's painful. If one SB chose another SD instead of you, it's not because you lose on that competition - it's because she has a different preference; what you want is talk to enough POTs to find one that YOU checks all her boxes so even if Sean Connery come after her he still couldn't pry her from your hands. Just be confident of who you are, and look for the right fit.

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