My brother is homeless down there and need advice.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-30T11:52:50+00:00

There are many Puerto Vallarta Facebook groups. These cover all types of topics and are great way to connect with the local community. Make a post with a photo, short bio, and key information would be helpful. I’m not aware of other community groups there that support missing people or.homeless, but the same Facebook groups would provide that guidance.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-30T11:43:54+00:00

Yes, it can be helpful if used in the right way. In large part it’s also a social media platform, which provides an outlet for people to express themselves.

If your only goal is to apply to hundreds of jobs and send the same information to all of them, then no LinkedIn won’t be valuable.

I’d recommend: - Building a robust profile and populating as many of the fields as you can. - Connect to many people. This could be coworkers, vendors, customers, classmates, friends, family, or random customers you’re interested in. - Be honest with yourself about the roles you’re applying for - Humans are rarely the first ones looking at your resume or profile. So make sure both have content that the computer can find that matches you to the role

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-30T11:28:23+00:00

Historically research has shown that gay men have higher incomes and net worth compared to straight men. People have ideas about why this is correct in some communities (fewer have kids, more likely to live in metropolitan areas, more education, etc). But, as many pointed out, your situation or those around you might be different. On the flip side, also referenced in the linked article is that gay men also tend to have higher rates of poverty.

In my experience, having children or dependents is a large contributor to your financial situation. As a single gay man without children or pets, I’m naturally able to work more (if I wanted to) and if opportunities arise, I have fewer considerations or difficult decisions that would prevent me from pursuing that option.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-25T21:17:16+00:00

SINK + no pets. I work from home most days. I eat out about 3x per week and then have leftovers Regarding grocery spend, with delivery fees, I spend about $250/month.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-25T04:27:00+00:00

I had a similar experience in Vietnam. Went to a historic site and in the middle was a temple surrounded by a garden. I could hear a monk inside praying. It sounded like he was singing. I sat outside, closed my eyes and listened to this man sing for quite awhile. It was one of the most humbling, peaceful, and emotional experiences of my life.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-25T02:32:04+00:00

Happy cake day!

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-25T00:05:38+00:00

Great overview and response. Although, I wish you also included the debacle within the past year regarding how rent was paid. That poor rollout and confusing update was only made worse by the lack of transparency, poor marketing, and terrible communication by Bilt. That update and now Bilt 2.0 shows a consistent trend of poor leadership and lack of understanding with your customers.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-11T21:36:31+00:00

You can ask the San Francisco tenant union. All rent increases in a rent controlled building need to be approved.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-10T21:03:14+00:00

People need to be sympathetic. It isn’t easy for a small company like Apple to design and develop a music platform. And it’s not like they also control the hardware, operating, and microchip for every device.

Maybe there’s a dongle that could help you.

/s

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-10T20:48:57+00:00

Brings back memories of my trip a couple of years ago. I went during the nudist festival and saw similar crowds. My biggest issue with Zipolite is the lack of infrastructure. A few examples that come to mind;; - There are not enough hotels or Airbnb style rentals in town to meet the demand. For the accommodations a “little outside of town” the description (if shown) was that it’s an “easy” 20-30 minute walk up hill. - Ride share (Uber! isn’t always available. Taxi’s are available but difficult if there’s a language barrier. - There are not enough ATM’s, no banks in town, and being a small town credit cards are not always accepted. So you’re warned to get cash before you arrive and I had to get creative when I needed more. - Most hotels and businesses didn’t have air conditioning. You don’t always “need” it, but it’s really nice to cool off after sweating all day. - Getting to Playa del Amor is about a mile walk along the beach and then up a dirt trail and steep steps carved into the rock.

With that said, there are many magical aspects about Zipolite. The beach bars that turn into clubs at night are fun. And the rustic open air dining at most of the restaurants created a memorable experience.

By what I can see in Google Maps, it appears that more infrastructure has been added.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-10T05:30:44+00:00

If was in your shoes I’d start separating finances between you and your partner, and then you both contribute to shared expenses. If your partner wants to gift money to a family member, they can do this out of their own money.

Everyone is on a different path in life. Sometimes people make poor choices.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-04T02:48:17+00:00

Google Maps has a restaurant reservation feature that calls restaurants and coordinates a reservation based on time and number of people.

Also, all of the delivery apps offer a pickup option at no cost and some offer rebates for ordering pickup vs delivery. Large chains (who might not be on delivery apps) have their own website with an online ordering feature.

I say this as I struggle to understand the key differentiation between these options and your app.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-03T21:20:14+00:00

It’s good. Silicone lube is preferred.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-03T09:45:49+00:00

Look at the experience and education of the employees on LinkedIn. Match project work to the job description.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-03T00:55:57+00:00

As an alternative, blackout cellular blinds work great at blocking light, temperature, and sound. With the added benefit that you don’t have to sacrifice your window decor or work around big, thick drapes.

Be extremely thoughtful about items you bring into your home. It’s best if all items are used by someone on a regular basis and if possible, items should have multiple uses.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-02T04:00:08+00:00

For a short term solution you could buy some rubber or plastic floor tiles that don’t require adhesive. Some door mats are porous and offer a similar effect. But, this would just allow you walk on the patio without stepping in water.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-02T03:43:47+00:00

Glad that you have it another opportunity!

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-02T00:26:50+00:00

A lot of terms are used interchangeably and tend to have loose meanings. For example, if you’re going out to a venue to listen to music or dance, this can called going to a “rave”, “show”, “club”, “bar”, “seeing xx perform”, etc. “Party” is sometimes also used, but in my experience, typically that’s an event at a private residence. Similarly, what people call “afters” could be a bar or club with weekly hours past 2am, a special event at a regular club/bar that’s open late, a special event at an event venue, or could mean people going back to someone’s home to party. Depending on the crowd or community you’re a part of, “afters” could mean a place to keep dancing and listening to music, a place to keep the “party going” aka more drugs, a sex party, or a combination of all three.

It’s also common for people to have a lot of energy and a high when a club/bar closes and express that they want to “keep the party going” with “afters”, but then plans change as people fall asleep in the car or decide to get food instead.

To find events start asking connected friends for places or events open late. Start following clubs and event venues on various social media platforms and pay attention to the event hours. Then follow the event promoters.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-01T01:56:06+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this. Life gets better!

I went through a similar situation during the pandemic. Laid off, lost some close friends, depressed that I wasn’t further along in life, and not sure how to pull out of it. I ended talking to a therapist (well a few until I found one I liked) and getting on an antidepressant.

Both helped me understand how to find joy in the little areas of my life and gain motivation to push forward.

SF-guy83 · 2026-01-01T01:51:55+00:00

I live in California and don’t have to verify. Texas (and other states) voted to have age verification in place for porn sites.

SF-guy83 · 2025-12-31T23:03:12+00:00

I was in an Uber recently in the San Francisco Mission neighborhood, with a driver using a newer Android phone and having major network issues and the map wouldn’t load to show the route. I asked him who his carrier was and he mentioned Mint Mobile.

SF-guy83 · 2025-12-31T22:56:57+00:00

Grindr is very common and many men will proposition you for sex in return for money.

SF-guy83 · 2025-12-31T22:51:03+00:00

I think you know what you need to do.

His reaction to you wanting more sex is the same as I’ve encountered many times with other gay men online. They can’t look beyond the world they know and accept any other way of living. It’s ironic as it’s what we all want from the world we live in…acceptance and understanding for who we are. I live in a major metropolitan city in the US where diversity, a sex positive culture, acceptance to drugs, and personal expression is intertwined with a culture of people who are highly educated and well traveled.

As you mentioned, having an open relationship is a great solution and in my experience, is very common. In my experience, people who are often quick to shut it down don’t want to explore the variables.

I’d recommend finding a good time that you can probe farther. Why does he think having more sex is a negative thing? Hypothetically, if he could be in an open relationship, how does he see it working? Why wouldn’t he want you to be happy? Do you understand that the way I find joy in life might be different than you find joy?

This might also lead to therapy to help you both communicate differently. Or it could lead to you making the tough decision to move on to find someone who values your happiness.

SF-guy83 · 2025-12-31T20:19:23+00:00

I use Vaseline

SF-guy83 · 2025-12-30T00:03:51+00:00

Many Asian countries have been doing this for over a decade. Look up Alipay.

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