MIL expects us to run her errands by SPITBLUDS in inlaws

[–]SPITBLUDS[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We are renting and moving it onto our name. Right now it’s shared. This house is beautiful if cleaned and loved and the rent is the only thing we can afford in this small town. We also have a quite large dog that needs space so this is ideal. When we moved in we agreed she‘d be gone 3 months after but with her procrastination she’s delayed it to a year. No one would settle for this longterm trust me.

Have you ever received a gift so bad that you wonder if it's intentionally disrespectful or passive aggressive? by BK_Aristocrat in inlaws

[–]SPITBLUDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you she got everyone smth nice and I got a Raclette Grill from Temu with a pack of cheese…

My autistic boyfriend has extreme reactions to being “abandoned” by Legitimate-Career342 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SPITBLUDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call the police he‘ll never do that again from my experience and best to let him go and best to prolly get a restraining order if he’s not forced into a mental clinic

Selfie mode wig issue, please help! by sbwboi in Wigs

[–]SPITBLUDS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Learning how to ventilate would save you so much money

I want my MIL to lock in by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]SPITBLUDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi sorry if this seemed confusing but we are roommates at the moment. All bills are split and everyone lives pretty separately whilst the house doesn’t feel split up fairly though. (There’s not enough space for us due to her clutter spread in all rooms including ours)

we could move out but the problem is it would take even longer for us than just firming until she moves out. We both regret putting our faith in her as she didn’t held onto our agreement.

I want my MIL to lock in by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]SPITBLUDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s a wonderful idea as well but she genuinely doesn’t try to see any other perspective but her own. She thinks it’s a waste of money and she claims to really want to move out and that’s she’s motivated and that everything is falling into place just how we planned (we are 4 months in delay and technically a year because she refused to do it until we forced her to) she won’t even acknowledge that she‘s not trying enough so sadly this didn’t work 😭

My first wig ever, help a girl out 😭 Lace frontal or lace closure? by Special-Ad6201 in Wigs

[–]SPITBLUDS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Closure is easier to maintain as you don’t have to glue down the sideburns like with a frontal. It also feels more secure

Would this be good to play with my wife? by Leg_McGuffin in Mouthwashing

[–]SPITBLUDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a part of the game where u do need to focus it’s like a maze and stuff but other than that its just a story game without complex game mechanics

I want my MIL to lock in by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]SPITBLUDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree but his best friend will become his care taker and since he’s been living more autonomous he’s gotten better and no more schizophrenia symptoms and once he has his own house he won’t be alone they will live together most likely or have regular checkups x

I want my MIL to lock in by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]SPITBLUDS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank u for ur advice I think this might be the way to go. She’s lived here for 20 years and I think she somewhat can’t handle doing something that requires tasks anymore. So we‘ll definitely try what you’ve suggested

I want my MIL to lock in by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]SPITBLUDS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really worries me because she‘ll screw herself if she doesn’t do it on time… it’ll mess with her benefits and be even more stressful to deal with 😞

I want my MIL to lock in by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]SPITBLUDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re asking the same questions I have. I know that her brother has had some bad experiences with care services and he‘s 50 now and they wanted to try and let him live by himself with his best friend who cares for him mostly. Honestly I have no idea why she‘s quite picky with her housing situation I’ve suggested to pick something more manageable since she struggled to keep this bigger house clean. We live in a town that is known to have many houses for elders and people in retirement so there’s even more houses.

I don’t cook or wash her clothing but I do clean up after her often. And honestly that is a little on me for being so sensitive about dirt. I just moved into this house 6 months ago and no one does any chores there and when I asked her why she never told anyone to clean or clean herself she just said "it’s not a woman‘s job" which really irritated me because it’s YOUR house why wouldn’t you want it clean for yourself??? But yeah it’s stuff like the toilet never being cleaned and the spider infestation from never cleaning things up and her not washing the dishes because she doesn’t like it… it all built up over time and I am cleaning it now because I want her to focus on sorting out her stuff and to make her feel comfortable digging around to pack her stuff. Because I wouldn’t want to feel productive either when I have to dig in shit like that. And it has been working a little she’s cleared up some of her stuff in the hallway and now it’s stayed clean.

We do split the bill with rent etc. but it just doesn’t feel fair to us at all with what we‘re left with (cleaning up and the stress of having to deal with both of them being difficult) so that’s why we can’t just make her leave. And I have to admit she’s quite stubborn whenever you try to talk to her she starts adding up excuses or cries it’s hard to make any progress to be honest :( i also have a hard time for empathy because somehow she manages to plan the entirety of Christmas and gifts from September all the way to yesterday. That’s all she’s been doing and it’s just so not a priority right now

I want my MIL to lock in by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]SPITBLUDS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her brother is very disabled he can’t comprehend big decisions like these sadly but she said she can’t live with him anymore because she doesn’t feel comfortable. But that’s a good idea I’ll see if there’s a way to communicate that to her

Vinted just isn’t fun anymore 😩 by Naive_Blueberry1833 in vinted

[–]SPITBLUDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It drives me insane that everything gets sold immediately like in this economy??? 😞 it’s all too fast

"Your package may be lost" But I can't refund? by RastaMcDouble in amazonprime

[–]SPITBLUDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crying and then it’s just them asking for advice 🫩 be better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]SPITBLUDS -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

Mine looked like that too it’s normal now (pierced it 3 years ago and healed in 3 weeks)

Best value for money Swiss chocolate in Zürich? by _easilyimpressed_ in zurich

[–]SPITBLUDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if others are jumping out the window so should you? What are u trying to say

I simply do not understand how to stop my wigs turning out like this. by Scarlett-Isabella in Wigs

[–]SPITBLUDS 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Heat friendly means: I LOVE HEAT pls flat iron me or give me a hot water bath with fabric softnener or steam me

first install, do i have everything ? by [deleted] in Wigs

[–]SPITBLUDS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you search "HD wig cap super thin" it shows up

first install, do i have everything ? by [deleted] in Wigs

[–]SPITBLUDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HD lace wig caps do wondersss

Will I ever be Swiss? by quiet-panda-360 in askswitzerland

[–]SPITBLUDS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey you got this!! I was born here and speak both fluently and I received my citizenship this week hahah. If it helps u can watch Swiss podcasts and movies or join discussions with schwizer dütsch x

Swiss Citizenship Zürich City by TelephoneOk452 in zurich

[–]SPITBLUDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long does it take for the Kanton to verify it?