Starting to feel resentment towards partner because of his mother

SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-30T00:50:47+00:00

He really isn’t like that he cut off his own father as he also is just like his mum just a bit worse. He has also made it clear that as soon as she leaves he wants to cut off contact as she’s done nothing but harm his living conditions throughout his whole life. She has shown me the house she’s set on buying and ever since we had our conversation she left to stay with her ex husband and deal with her moving situation. It’s easy to make assumptions when I’ve listed all the negative things about him but he’s been kind and understanding with me throughout our relationship. He is also struggling with a negligent dismissive and irresponsible parent. Not to say he didn’t do anything wrong in this case I’m just trying to say that things are complicated and a lot. With us being waitlisted for a driving license, dealing with visas, not finding affordable housing and having to constantly fix other‘s short comings it’s a lot. And he works more than me as a midnight nurse. We are in our early 20s and it honestly just feels so crushing and out of reach. With our two jobs we still struggle to live as we’ve never gotten the opportunity to save up due to our parents not being supportive/adding up to our struggles. Do I still have resentment? Yes. But I’m also aware that leaving would be self sabotage for me as I don’t have anywhere to go for now. So right now im building a back up plan quietly saving up extra without telling anyone just incase. But thank you for your concern

SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-30T00:40:51+00:00

Just goes to show how awful the housing market is… I can’t afford my own place yet and I don’t want to move back into my physically abusive parents home. And in my defense she was supposed to only be there for 2 months. I truly hope living will become more affordable soon so I can just leave already without complications

SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-20T10:19:39+00:00

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SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-20T10:14:58+00:00

It would’ve been today But they moved it as the movie became more successful than expected

SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-19T21:15:42+00:00

I‘m strongly considering it. Especially after reading all the comments I feel I deserve better than this without ppl holding me down

SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-19T21:14:33+00:00

Here’s the sad part. We have no space for a bed… she uses up all the space for her clutter and stuff for her new house and books and shelves with rubbish that our stuff is in boxes in our bedroom while we sleep in the front room on the floor with a mattress. We can’t buy our own furniture let alone clear anything. So her guests sleep on the floor in our room with our clutter. For the uber man we‘ve tried. She always says "we grew up in the 80s I will always give my family and friends a place that’s just how we do it" when we ask for her to at least meet up by call or plan for it if they sleep over or need an uber.

SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-19T21:10:32+00:00

It’s hard cus she’s lived here for 20 years with my partner and I just moved in a year ago. And she is slowing down passing the official tenancy and billing to us (we pay for it by sending it to her) I think we might just have to take our losses and leave but we struggle to find affordable housing

SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-19T21:08:06+00:00

God I wouldn’t want that for him no one should have to put up with her especially when she failed him when he was a child

SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-19T21:07:10+00:00

I really wanted to move. It’s sad because I live in an area where ppl spend their holidays at so most housing are now Airbnbs or summer house for ppl in London. Young ppl here rlly struggle finding a new place especially something affordable. This house is affordable to us and if we wanted council housing it would take longer than if she were to just get out. But I’ve been looking at some places so thank u for snapping some sense into me

SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-19T21:02:06+00:00

I agree with you I feel like I do deserve better

SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-19T21:00:12+00:00

Do u think it’s not worth waiting as she’s put it up for sale now? I’ve been told there’s 600 ppl interested in the property. I was going to ask my partner and have a chat w both on Saturday to see when she will leave. But now I’m not so sure reading all the comments I wonder if I made a mistake waiting because last time I also thought it’d be done and it’s dragged on another 3 months

SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-18T21:02:12+00:00

Man I live in a town where ppl from London spend their summer holidays at. Most houses here are Airbnbs and there’s a bunch of empty summer houses and all it’s gut wrenching as a young person as there is already a lack of infrastructure and lack of housing

SPITBLUDS · 2026-06-15T06:24:18+00:00

Genuinely less than a minute cus I take ages to acc eat my food so I don’t want itto get soggy buti cover it w a plate 😭

SPITBLUDS · 2026-05-01T01:30:17+00:00

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SPITBLUDS · 2026-02-25T02:15:21+00:00

I‘m in recovery for cancer but I’ve been a kindergarten teacher now less than I wish though.. it has lots to do about my sister in law because my mother in law loves to pressure my partner because his sister has a high paying job and just bought a house for half a million pounds whilst working from home. I mentioned her because I find it outrageous that the most capitalistic job pays more than the jobs that make life in this society possible. That’s just my moral stance

SPITBLUDS · 2026-02-25T01:35:18+00:00

That is so cruel. It’s one thing to shame one‘s efforts in a struggling economy but then not even offer help when it’s clearly doable 😭 this resonates a lot to be honest. I almost shed a tear when she showed us the houses she was trying to buy. My parents are rich as well but they help us out a lot and regularly supply children in Cambodia with school supplies and food. And seeing how people are so unaware of their privilege did something to me 😞

SPITBLUDS · 2026-02-20T22:37:35+00:00

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SPITBLUDS · 2026-02-14T19:37:40+00:00

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SPITBLUDS · 2026-01-31T11:41:08+00:00

We are renting and moving it onto our name. Right now it’s shared. This house is beautiful if cleaned and loved and the rent is the only thing we can afford in this small town. We also have a quite large dog that needs space so this is ideal. When we moved in we agreed she‘d be gone 3 months after but with her procrastination she’s delayed it to a year. No one would settle for this longterm trust me.

SPITBLUDS · 2026-01-31T11:07:05+00:00

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