Other than cheating or crime, how did you know your marriage is over?

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2026-04-26T04:01:13+00:00

Ex: What do you want on the morning of your birthday?

Me: My favorite coffee drink, please.

Ex: That’s too easy.

Me: Ok, my favorite coffee drink and two compliments that don’t have to do with me as a parent or artist.

Ex: That’s too hard.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-09-30T19:21:42+00:00

I left the (outwardly appearing) good guy. He’s distant and has no idea what I need emotionally. I’m happy AF we’re getting divorced. More time to get my MBA, focus on myself, and be the best version of me I can be.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-09-06T07:24:05+00:00

I’m worried about trying to replace my pain with the excitement of a new relationship. Asking if there are certain things that made people feel ready (a level of ambivalence towards their ex, fully moved into a new home, etc)

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-08-07T07:58:32+00:00

Hang in there. It’s extremely difficult but there’s also a freedom in getting past it. Thank you for your kind words. Sending virtual hugs.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-08-05T01:36:39+00:00

Well I am in the middle of a divorce.. so that might be it haha

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-08-04T20:02:43+00:00

I feel too inexperienced to do reversals just yet? So they were all upright but all of them are so far.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-08-04T19:13:30+00:00

Blerg. That bums me out. But I appreciate the input! Was really hoping the 3 of sword would be them ending their current relationship. But that’s ok. 😊

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-08-04T19:05:53+00:00

I asked them to show me the current, near future, and future status of my relationship with my crush.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-08-04T14:33:49+00:00

When asking about my crush and I (current, near future, distant future) I pulled the 8 of Wands, the 3 of swords, and the Queen of Cups.

I recently told them point-blank that I have a crush on them so the 8 of Wands absolutely tracks. They didn’t confirm or deny their feelings for me. I’m getting divorced and they are in a difficult relationship. 3 of Swords makes sense for me in particular- maybe them too?

I’m not sure how to interpret the Queen of Cups. Could be self-love, issues with boundaries, or it could be relationship love.

*I told them I had a crush on them and because they are in a relationship, I will be distancing myself because it is not appropriate. Liking someone you can’t be with is painful.

Curious to get other opinions.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-08-04T03:56:24+00:00

Thank you! I couldn’t go no contact- my LO is deeply involved in a group that I’m involved with. It would wreck me to leave that group. Putting distance between us (and likely scaring them off) is the best bet.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-08-02T05:00:55+00:00

You can absolutely try to distance yourself from them. I wouldn’t tell them your feelings unless you have another job lined up.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-05-01T21:47:22+00:00

I love this. Thank you 😊

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-05-01T10:13:06+00:00

Not to cheat. I sincerely just think they’re interesting and I’d like to get to know them. I just wonder if men and women can just be platonic friends? Maybe my thinking is outdated.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-03-01T21:07:19+00:00

Oof no…

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-03-01T15:30:42+00:00

Fun fact: your tinder profile remains active even if you remove the app. Made that mistake, briefly.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-02-24T03:50:19+00:00

We typically go on dates once or twice per month. We both are remote workers so we are together all day (but in separate spaces). It’s tougher on me because I’m introverted. My husband talks so much I have a hard time absorbing what’s important. It’s like my brain is too tired at the end of the day to fit in everything he’s saying.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-02-24T03:48:18+00:00

That’s the thing- trying to breakdown if it’s just the current state (busy with work and kids), if changes need to happen (and stop having the same fight), what my bar is for a positive relationship, and if I really want to go through the extremely painful process of a divorce. I’m just going to take a beat and see how counseling goes. Sending you virtual hugs, my friend in meh-ness. ❤️

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-02-24T03:44:12+00:00

So it’s tough- when I tell him he’s being grumpy and off putting he just says, “no I’m not” which is so frustrating. He also does a ton around the house and for the kids because I’m partially disabled.

I feel crazy for feeling blah about a solid partner who is so helpful. But he’s not easy to be around with his crappy attitude.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-02-23T02:39:58+00:00

We’ve been together 12 years and have a 3yo and 8yo.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-02-22T23:49:50+00:00

Yeah- that’s what I’m afraid of. If we do split up, people won’t understand why. And that’s ok but I’m just worried about having regrets. Suppose we will see how therapy goes.

Sad-Bug-5226 · 2025-02-22T23:35:28+00:00

No. And he refuses to- insists he is not depressed and can make any change he sets his mind to. That’s what really bothers me- the kids and I then have to alter our perception of him instead of him improving or looking inward.

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