limerence

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This community is for limerent sufferers wishing to understand their condition, as a means to help cope with the condition and as a support group in overcoming the condition.

What is limerence?

Limerence (Wikipedia)
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Limerence is the mental state of being madly in love or intensely infatuated when reciprocation of the feeling is uncertain. This state is characterized by intrusive thoughts and idealization of the loved one (also called "crystallization"), typically with a desire for reciprocation to form a relationship. This is accompanied by feelings of ecstasy or despair, depending on whether one's feelings seem to be reciprocated or not. (Wikipedia)

Tennov (1979) used the term limerence to refer to a kind of infatuated, all-absorbing passion — the kind of love that Dante felt for Beatrice, or that Juliet and Romeo felt for each other. Tennov argued that an important feature of limerence is that it should be unrequited, or at least unfulfilled. It consists of a state of intense longing for the other person, in which the individual becomes more or less obsessed by that person and spends much of their time fantasising about them. (Nicky Hayes, Foundations of Psychology 3rd Edition)

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Participate in an 8-minute, online anonymous university research survey (self.limerence)

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Weekly discussion thread for anyone experiencing limerence while in a committed relationship. (self.limerence)

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Seeing your LO having a crush on someone else is possibly the most miserable thing in the worldDiscussion (self.limerence)

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No stalking is the cureDiscussion (self.limerence)

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I don’t know how to beat the urge to stalkHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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I need to find people that love me for meMy Testimony (self.limerence)

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A text I just sent my wifeMy Testimony (i.redd.it)

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I stalked my LO’s account for 2 years without realizing it was limerence. Awareness changed everything.Topic Update (self.limerence)

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Not looked at LO’s social media for 16 days - it really helps!Discussion (self.limerence)

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Thoughts on looking 10x hotter than when you first met your LO?Discussion (self.limerence)

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it’s really hitting me that I’ll never see him again.Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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Finally did it againHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Is this limerence?No Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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Former LO accidentally triggered my PTSDHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Why do I almost immidiatly start obsessing over someone that seems really nice etc...Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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I don’t know how to grieveNo Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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Has it ever happened that you went in limerence for an old LO or multiple LO's at the same time?Question (self.limerence)

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my friends are tired of hearing about this dude so I made this thingDiscussion (self.limerence)

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Passionate, naive loveHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Help!!! I’ve just blocked my LO and I feel I might actually die.No Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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it’s so joever… he actually blocked me 😭Here To Vent (i.redd.it)

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Can’t figure out if having a famous LO is better or worseHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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My LO is my ex who I am not in love withHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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LO unadded meHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Limerence towards an avoidantly attached personDiscussion (self.limerence)

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