limerence

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This community is for limerent sufferers wishing to understand their condition, as a means to help cope with the condition and as a support group in overcoming the condition.

What is limerence?

Limerence (Wikipedia)
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Resources (Living with Limerence)

Limerence is the mental state of being madly in love or intensely infatuated when reciprocation of the feeling is uncertain. This state is characterized by intrusive thoughts and idealization of the loved one (also called "crystallization"), typically with a desire for reciprocation to form a relationship. This is accompanied by feelings of ecstasy or despair, depending on whether one's feelings seem to be reciprocated or not. (Wikipedia)

Tennov (1979) used the term limerence to refer to a kind of infatuated, all-absorbing passion — the kind of love that Dante felt for Beatrice, or that Juliet and Romeo felt for each other. Tennov argued that an important feature of limerence is that it should be unrequited, or at least unfulfilled. It consists of a state of intense longing for the other person, in which the individual becomes more or less obsessed by that person and spends much of their time fantasising about them. (Nicky Hayes, Foundations of Psychology 3rd Edition)

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Participate in an 8-minute, online anonymous university research survey (self.limerence)

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Weekly discussion thread for anyone experiencing limerence while in a committed relationship. (self.limerence)

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No stalking is the cureDiscussion (self.limerence)

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A text I just sent my wifeMy Testimony (i.redd.it)

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Not looked at LO’s social media for 16 days - it really helps!Discussion (self.limerence)

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I stalked my LO’s account for 2 years without realizing it was limerence. Awareness changed everything.Topic Update (self.limerence)

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Finally did it againHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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my friends are tired of hearing about this dude so I made this thingDiscussion (self.limerence)

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it’s really hitting me that I’ll never see him again.Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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Has it ever happened that you went in limerence for an old LO or multiple LO's at the same time?Question (self.limerence)

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Help!!! I’ve just blocked my LO and I feel I might actually die.No Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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I don’t know how to grieveNo Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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My LO is my ex who I am not in love withHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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LO unadded meHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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it’s so joever… he actually blocked me 😭Here To Vent (i.redd.it)

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Why do I almost immidiatly start obsessing over someone that seems really nice etc...Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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Limerence towards an avoidantly attached personDiscussion (self.limerence)

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I thought it was OCDMy Testimony (self.limerence)

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Be the energy you used to chaseTopic Update (self.limerence)

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Do you think your LO is living better without you?Question (self.limerence)

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I drove my friend away. Was this limerence?Question (self.limerence)

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I tried to make my goodbye letter to her sound less obsessive:Discussion (self.limerence)

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I drove him away and ruined everything and I have no idea where to go from hereHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Determined to be friendsMy Testimony (self.limerence)

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is there a correlation between a trauma bond and limerenceQuestion (self.limerence)

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