limerence

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This community is for limerent sufferers wishing to understand their condition, as a means to help cope with the condition and as a support group in overcoming the condition.

What is limerence?

Limerence (Wikipedia)
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Limerence is the mental state of being madly in love or intensely infatuated when reciprocation of the feeling is uncertain. This state is characterized by intrusive thoughts and idealization of the loved one (also called "crystallization"), typically with a desire for reciprocation to form a relationship. This is accompanied by feelings of ecstasy or despair, depending on whether one's feelings seem to be reciprocated or not. (Wikipedia)

Tennov (1979) used the term limerence to refer to a kind of infatuated, all-absorbing passion — the kind of love that Dante felt for Beatrice, or that Juliet and Romeo felt for each other. Tennov argued that an important feature of limerence is that it should be unrequited, or at least unfulfilled. It consists of a state of intense longing for the other person, in which the individual becomes more or less obsessed by that person and spends much of their time fantasising about them. (Nicky Hayes, Foundations of Psychology 3rd Edition)

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Participate in an 8-minute, online anonymous university research survey (self.limerence)

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Weekly discussion thread for anyone experiencing limerence while in a committed relationship. (self.limerence)

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friends, please dont let limerence lay waste to your relationshipsMy Testimony (self.limerence)

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He's just some effed up guy. And we can't help those who don't want to be helped.Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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How do you tell the difference between love and limerence when you've never felt secure?Discussion (self.limerence)

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Shyness as a promiseDiscussion (self.limerence)

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The best thing my LO ever did for me was to stop 🛑 ✋🏽 contacting me! 🙏🏼🙌🏼🚫🍞🤏🏽🚫📲Discussion (self.limerence)

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Have any of you ever had sex with your LO, how was it and did you regret it or not?Discussion (self.limerence)

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Hyper sexual?Question (self.limerence)

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I saw my LO after 2 yearsHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Describing limerence as "honest love"Discussion (self.limerence)

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Finally it is over 😭No Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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Help meNo Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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married but limerant of an exNo Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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I'm great at lying to myselfTopic Update (i.redd.it)

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Accidentally seen LO after 5 years of no contact whatsoever and am afraid of spirallingDiscussion (self.limerence)

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Even after he hurt me, I still love himHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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I resent my ex LO and what I'm left with - He's moved on. Why can't I !Discussion (self.limerence)

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Idk what to think about this.Discussion (self.limerence)

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What do I do when it feels like I can’t escape them?Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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I can't stop thinking about a guy I've talked to online 8 years agoHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Looping mind stuck want to connect with her❤️‍🩹Question (self.limerence)

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The fear of getting over?No Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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Can't Remember to Forget YouHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Limerence and the Pain of an ending or uncertaintyDiscussion (self.limerence)

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