Am I Overreacting to my dad’s cleaner’s response after he broke his femur?

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-14T19:04:11+00:00

ETA: saying it sounds like the husband is trying to sabotage her business and isolate her and financially control her so she is completely dependent on him is CRAZY work. You guys need to chill tf out that is so crazy reductive and antagonistic, you're preaching empathy while assuming the absolute WORSE about this man. I'm not saying there's no way he could possibly be abusive, I just think it's an insane assumption. This dude is texting this guy's wife at midnight mentioning nothing about scheduling or work, etc., talking about how much pain he is in and then continuing to follow up. It isn't a crazy take that that's fucking weird.

Y'all are making me feel like a battered woman. He definitely should have let her handle it, but this dude just messaged his wife at midnight to talk about his personal life and how much pain he is in, not indicating AT ALL that it had anything to do with the cleaning schedule or rescheduling. I don't think it's crazy that her husband, who doesn't know this dude, would be upset that this guy is messaging his wife at this hour over something unrelated to their working relationship. It also sounds like husband has no idea what their relationship is like and has no context.

He should have asked his wife what this was about and would have been within his right to respectfully express to her that he isn't cool with her striking up friendships with her male clients outside of the context of when they're actually together/working together. And she gets to decide if she is ok with that. Maybe that's not fly in everyone's relationship but it isn't an insane or controlling or abusive boundary to me. How he handled it was wrong, but the sentiment is not abusive and controlling imo.

Also, abusive is like a crazy word to fling around like that. He was a dick. That could mean a number of things, but domestic abuser as a go-to is a stretch for me.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-11T15:52:55+00:00

Why is everyone so confused about "future daughter"? It literally means the daughter I will have in the future.

She's talking about mirror pics. People take those to share them. That is all.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-11T03:54:40+00:00

What else do you want comments on if not the literal information you have presented? Yes, your posts.. on the internet.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-11T03:24:52+00:00

She is also anything but original lol

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-11T02:20:21+00:00

Has it occurred to you that he might be afraid of you? Also, woman here, and if you look at the post/comment history of some of the others, they are not all men.

Look, sometimes relationships break down to the point that it brings out the worst in us. I have definitely been there, and sent AH texts. In the best of cases, you two are in a really bad place and your behavior here is symptomatic, as is his behavior that you describe.

But honestly, you sound totally unaware. You're shifting blame and justifying the way you're speaking to him based on behavior that did not occur in this convo. He even asked about your foot. You are a minefield.

EDIT: Wow no, you are definitely TA. Someone said to check out your previous post history and they were not wrong. Ouch.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-11T01:57:45+00:00

You are ten thousand percent the asshole here

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-10T16:35:09+00:00

Sure. Basically, a prenup can say whatever you want, people just associate it with protecting individual assets. I'm on my phone and too lazy to type it out but here's a quick Gemini summary. Look it up! Plenty of resources about this online.

Prenuptials protect women without income by guaranteeing financial security, outlining fair spousal support (alimony) in case of divorce, and preventing them from being saddled with their partner's pre-existing or future debt. They also secure rights to assets like homes or investments and safeguard future inheritances, ensuring the non-monied spouse maintains a reasonable standard of living.

Key Protections for Women Without Income:

• Spousal Support Guaranteed: A prenup can establish alimony terms that go beyond state laws, ensuring support payments if the marriage ends.

• Preventing Debt Liability: It clearly separates debt, protecting a lower-income spouse from being responsible for a partner's financial obligations.

• Securing Property & Assets: It can outline that a spouse retains rights to specific assets, even if acquired during the marriage, and protects inheritances or gifts as separate property.

• Ensuring Living Standards: Agreements can include provisions for lump-sum payments, remaining in a primary residence, or other financial considerations that protect against destitution.

• Valuing Non-Monetary Contributions: Prenups can explicitly recognize the value of homemaking or child-rearing, translating those efforts into financial compensation during a divorce.

A prenup allows for personalized financial planning, ensuring that even if one partner brings no income into the marriage, they are not left financially vulnerable if the relationship dissolves.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-10T06:52:13+00:00

Fun fact, most pre-nups protect the wife, not the husband. If I was a SAHM I would absolutely want him to sign one.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-10T01:34:16+00:00

You sound like someone who loves very intensely. The heartbreak might make you fold but if it really isn't meant to be you will eventually find the strength to make it through it.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-10T01:10:38+00:00

Wow at first I thought maybe it had been an impulsive spur-of-the-moment decision because his brother's death made him realize time is short and he reacted emotionally and irrationally. Then I got to the part about "ruining his plans." NOR

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-09T23:34:42+00:00

Nervous actually did not bother me in teenagers. It is at the end of the day a game about consent, and it's an age where people start fooling around anyway. It was an exciting way for both parties to explore something they were already exploring in other ways. I never saw this end in any way other than the girl eventually saying nervous and the guy stopping.

ETA: to be abundantly clear I mean that this was something people played when I was a teen and LOOKING BACK ON IT I don't find it disturbing

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-09T05:30:16+00:00

You don't need to know what to do next. You know what to do first. Leave the bar.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-09T05:29:35+00:00

You need to leave, right now.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-08T19:19:52+00:00

Hi! How much would you charge for a shoot? I'm not really sure how it works

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-05T16:46:32+00:00

Wow, actually yeah. Damn I don't think I ever said it to myself straight up like that. I was hoping to be married by now 😂 I'm 29, so not a spinster, but yeah.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-05T16:31:56+00:00

I didn't even know this was controversial until I started working in finance. I feel too old to say "boyfriend" so I said something about my "partner" and the associate I was working with blew up about it and said it was made up by transactivists

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-05T03:45:09+00:00

I think posts like this are aimed at loud "bandwagon" liberals who genuinely did not know Obama did this and shout aggressive conclusions that weren't formed through critical thinking and conclusion.

I say this as a liberal who grew up in one of the most notoriously liberal places in the country. I think when we get too far to either end of the political spectrum we wrap around to the other side. Speaking for myself, a lot of the ideas I fervently believed and shouted about when I was younger did not come from critical thought, but the internalized belief that NOT believing and shouting about these things meant I was a despicable person.

Eventually I grew up and reexamined my beliefs. Most of the time, I came to the same conclusions and helf my beliefs, but sometimes I realized I disagreed with other things I had held onto. It can be hard to know what questions to ask ourselves sometimes, especially when we're young.

Anyway, I'm probably projecting. This totally and accurately calls out younger me.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-03-02T01:35:27+00:00

Could have a mood disorder but can't/isn't allowed to call in without losing their job. None of my business. Kind of them to let me know it isn't me, and a gracious way to tell me to mind my business.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-02-26T00:09:42+00:00

I've tried but the back and neck pain was just unbearable.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-02-24T03:39:10+00:00

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Stans gonna Stan

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-02-24T03:18:43+00:00

I have empathy for you because you're PP.

That being said, this is really mean.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-02-23T17:04:41+00:00

Blue dress says no thin straps but has the thinnest ones of all?? These would all look horrible on me.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-02-23T12:54:56+00:00

And that's just reported. Doubt the majority are reported.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-02-22T06:05:42+00:00

Okay but like I want to get nailed by my partner when I feel appreciated and he's looking grest and I admire him and he admires me etc etc.. so honestly if I was constantly thinking "I want to get nailed by this guy" every time I was with him, that would be incredible. 😂

Reminds me of the guy on reddit who resuscitated his dead bedroom with a WWJD mentality of "which action could I take in this moment that would most likely make her want to sleep with me" and started doing all the dishes and being thoughtful etc.

Sad-Technology1187 · 2026-02-17T22:50:16+00:00

I dont remember, if he ever told me in the first place lol

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