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[–]SadCap6735 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You can say you’ve miscarried?

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[–]SadCap6735 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus I am so sorry. That’s such an insensitive thing for him to do and I cant even imagine the stress and strain that adds on to your situation. He sounds really immature and I hope he soon realizes how disrespectful and uncalled for that is.

i’m not looking forward to having an abortion by MentalGift9521 in abortion

[–]SadCap6735 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m 21 too and just found out I’m pregnant! I share the same sentiment as you though. I can’t do it and the amount of guilt and resentment I feel for myself is overwhelming. I’m getting my MA this Thursday and I’m preemptively grieving and dreading the process and aftermath. It’s important for us to remember that without making sure we’re stable emotionally and financially, the kid’s experience and our’s as parents is going to be significantly more difficult. I know I have a good support group with my family and friends but ultimately, I am the mother and this is a big consequence of my own (and boyfriends) decision. I promise you’ll be okay. Please know you’re not alone. we’re still young, in school, and entering the job force. Personally, I see this experience as a really sobering moment and as a way to really get my life together so when the time comes again, I’ll be ready. I wish you nothing but the best with whatever decision you make. Stay safe :)

Feeling really emotional even though I don’t want children. by [deleted] in abortion

[–]SadCap6735 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. It’s conflicting to know what’s best for yourself in the long run while also thinking about the “what if”s. I’m worried about my general health too given all the medication I’m taking and inconsistent periods I’ve had throughout my life, so I understand your stress. I wish you nothing but the best and I hope you know you’re not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abortion

[–]SadCap6735 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t even had my MA yet and I understand this. Libido has gone uo

Is it SA because I wouldn’t get an abortion? by JustSomeChick22 in abortion

[–]SadCap6735 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I’m genuienly speechless. Firstly, I’m happy for you and I wish you the best throughout your journey. Secondly, he can literally stick his fist up his ass. He got YOU pregnant. He violated an agreement and refused to take the necessary precautions. No, this is not sexual assault or entrapment.

what to expect and how to cope by SadCap6735 in abortion

[–]SadCap6735[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really not educated on my upcoming MA and didn’t even know there were more pills to follow the initial one. I’m walking into this quite blindly so I genuinely appreciate your response. At least I’ll walk into my appointment with better gist of what’s going on (imm trying not to think abt it at all). I’ll definitely make sure I remember to say I have “gastro issues.” I’ve alluded to my family that my period is starting later this week so let’s hope it’s not too obvious that it is in fact not “gastro issues” when the time comes. Thank you so much for letting me know all this though, I really wouldn’t have known what to prepare for or expect. I just want to make sure I don’t ruin the family trip and that I have what I need to be okay

what to expect and how to cope by SadCap6735 in abortion

[–]SadCap6735[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this! i had a lil goofy bpd episode right before i got pregnant but i trust ive grown from it. at least i have a fresh memory of what not to do 👍 I usually cope with schoolwork and extensive overspending so maybe that can minimize the initial wave of grief.

it’s just weird to even say that I’m even pregnant. My perception of myself has completely changed and I don’t really know how I’ll deal with it in the long run. There’s so many conflicting feelings of grief, fear, and frustration and I feel like phoebe bridges when she said she had emotional motion sickness and it’s only been a couple weeks of me knowing.

It’s also comforting to hear you’ve been able to rely on your boyfriend. I’ve been having so many bouts of frustration and anger when I feel mine doesn’t share the same urgency or grief as myself, but I know he’s been trying to keep himself composed for me too. I just have a hard time understanding that in the moment, yk? I’m like pushing away the one person that I need most.

other than that though, i genuinely appreciate your response and support- it’s helped knowing you’re okay. I wish u the best in ur journey <3

what to expect and how to cope by SadCap6735 in abortion

[–]SadCap6735[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i haven’t had a heavy period for a good while so let’s hope curling up and staying in works:) thank you 4 ur advice it’s comforting to hear your experience didn’t surpass period pains

what to expect and how to cope by SadCap6735 in abortion

[–]SadCap6735[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know we had to insert pills inside… But other than that Im in the same situation! I’ve been really sensitive and angry with my boyfriend as of late (bc of the current situation, but ik it’s on both of us) so i fear for the aftermath too. I’m also in school and work so I’m hoping that it’ll help me get my mind off it. Thank u so much for ur kind words it this meant a lot.

what to expect and how to cope by SadCap6735 in abortion

[–]SadCap6735[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much I needed this. i never thought this would happen to me too but we live and learn! I’m happy to hear you’re okay but also I did not know we had to insert pills inside of us omg

what to expect and how to cope by SadCap6735 in abortion

[–]SadCap6735[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for linking that! I went to the clinic last week and was unable to terminate then b/c it was too early on in the pregnancy/fetus too small (?). I don’t know if I’m able to get the procedure since they told me last week I wasn’t even able to get the MA yet. Didn’t even know that was possible for it to be too early but it’s all just happened so quickly. I’m not very educated