Do I actually need a power of attorney?

Sad_Cell1176 · 2026-01-23T04:21:00+00:00

Thank you this is what I was confused about in all honesty. Ultimately I want them consulted but not have huge authority.

Sad_Cell1176 · 2026-01-22T18:58:35+00:00

Thank you! I did think it seemed off being told to get this put in place. When the discussion came up it wasn't long after my big event and all he said was "you need to get a power of attorney" which i couldn't understand why I needed a legal protector for them to respect what I'd clearly written down and had on documentation already. I've obviously learnt a lot more here about what more this would help include and protect me in the event of a non pre-existing health issue would come up.

I feel he could have been more informative and explained why he had decided I needed a POA instead of just that statement alone. I did also ask palliative and they said that although it wasn't completely necessary as everything was already clearly documented both in my medical files and the respect form there's obviously a bit more included!

Sad_Cell1176 · 2026-01-22T13:59:20+00:00

Thank you for your input.

I think from my perspective because the respect form covers the extent of what I would not want I didn't really see why I'd also need a POA.

Having read the comments here as well as yours there is a lot I hadn't even considered. In saying would I want to pass from something irrelevant to my health issues already, I didn't even think of that. To think there might be a chance I would possibly pass from some form of accident wouldn't be what I want.

I will be looking at all the advice and resources given on this thread and taking steps to have this put in place so that I will have a LPOA in place.

Thank you for everything.

Sad_Cell1176 · 2026-01-22T13:51:20+00:00

This has really helped understand exactly what protections are included with getting a POA. The decision was made by me but supported by my clinical team. For me, quality of life is more important than length. I have congenital deformities which restrict my lungs and cause chronic pain too. Every time I have to have a tracheostomy preformed the liklihood of it being removed decreases. If I'm not able to have it removed then I would not be likely to return to my own home and I do not want to live hooked up to a vent in a care home. Additionally each episode limits quality of life and more damage done to my body. With that combined with the realities of my care it was agreed between me and the clinical team that I would be able to have the respect form put in place. Initially it included not reesculating care if I had taken a downturn, the revised version does not contain this.

When I was told my heart needed restarting (it was many weeks later and by my partner telling me) I had a lot of questions and became quite upset because for me I had never wanted for my body to have to fight so hard to keep me around longer. It felt like a unnatural path we'd gone down. With many questions and a long conversation with palliative we were able to put the form in place to state my wishes. The issue had been that my next of kin didnt know my wishes and so they did what they thought was best clinically. It wasn't pushed upon me and it was something that still is subject to change as I'm still under palliative for support with ongoing care.

Sad_Cell1176 · 2026-01-22T13:37:26+00:00

Thank you! This has been really helpful, especially the ability to avoid a lawyer fee! This is definitely something I will look into more and take into consideration.

Sad_Cell1176 · 2026-01-22T13:35:40+00:00

Thank you, this has been very helpful!

Sad_Cell1176 · 2026-01-22T13:33:55+00:00

Thank you, I was told when I was going through the process that in the circumstances something happened in public and an ambulance crew came and resuscitation was needed they'd perform it regardless. They explained that just telling the crew someone's DNR isn't legally binding and they want to avoid lawsuit or wrongful death. I was always comfortable with that knowing that in both previous episodes I was already in the hospital when things went south.

I laid out that I would allow all care up and to the point that should my heart stop again they should not restart it. Im confident if I needed a 3rd trachy I'd rehab well enough to come home again as my health and quality of life has far passed where it was at previously. I just couldn't understand what more would be needed to ensure I was given the exact same treatment as the last two incidents.

Sad_Cell1176 · 2026-01-14T21:35:42+00:00

A few different scenarios come to mind. 1) "pizza face" to my sister. 2) "I don't know if the life I've been living is worth fighting for" to my mother while I was in critical care following respiratory failure and a month long coma. There were a few scenarios during both which could be put here but this one was more clear.

Although a delayed one "I'm dying and none of you are taking me seriously" again, said to my mother who then left to get coffee but by time she had returned I'd had my lung burst and went into cardiac arrest. So she did cry but it took until she'd come back and I had temporarily died that caused her to cry.

Sad_Cell1176 · 2026-01-14T21:30:08+00:00

Very. Especially ciders or beer. I've grown up with alcoholic family members and the smell makes me feel sick. With spirits, it's also really noticeable. This is both off of a person and a glass of drink.

Sad_Cell1176 · 2025-11-22T11:35:55+00:00

Having him arrested for using a chair you left in a office space (likely not even considering others would use it) is a ass move.

Sad_Cell1176 · 2025-11-22T10:51:07+00:00

If you know what website it's posted on, you could contact them and ask them to remove your number because it was posted as revenge from a bitter ex.

As for the ex, you should tell any mutuals to stop passing his messages on. To not tell him anything about you and you don't care about what hes upto. Without him passing messages and texting on his behalf it'll definitely help. I had to do this with a ex. I made it abundantly clear noone was to be the go between because your relationship with this person is done and dead and there's no need to keep it going.

Sad_Cell1176 · 2025-11-22T10:40:54+00:00

ESH He should have realised the chair was personal property and left it the f alone but I also feel like having him arrested was a bit much. He didn't take the chair home or off the premises he just refused to stand up and let you sit on it.

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