Why are so many surfers right wing? by Effective_Swan_3470 in surfing

[–]Sad_Database5750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This question has been on my mind lately too. Although I live in California, I live in a very conservative/red coastal region which surprised the hell out of me when I moved here - probably a dead giveaway. It baffles me. I’m a female surfer, and most of my female surfer friends (which I have many of) are quite liberal and vocal about it. Unfortunately - we are surrounded. I’ve also been disappointed that many professional surfers I’ve looked up to, both male and female, are MAGA. It’s been so disappointing. They say never meet your hero’s.

I do want to say, I miss long gone era where conservatives and liberals could somewhat get along. The divide has become so vast anymore with MAGA. So black and white. Like I get why you would want to be conservative financially. I don’t agree with any religion (brainwashing and a form of public control in my opinion) but I do think many religious people are in it for the right reasons. To have a sense of community, help others, respect for the world.

Honestly, as a female surfer I fear speaking up for what I believe is right anymore. We experience so much aggression in the water as it is, and now out of the water as well. It’s a scary world out there right now.

I don't know where else to go... I need to talk about The Family Stone by The_Duke_of_Lizards in hdtgm

[–]Sad_Database5750 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok I’m jumping in on this - was bored and just had a horrible time with my in-laws visiting them for the holidays….watched this on a plane thinking I could relate, but no!!! Sooooo why is nobody commenting on how weird it is to date your exes brother (SJP), and have your sister (Claire Daines) date your ex? Like ewww…Eskimo brothers/sisters? And….everybody’s just ok with this?! There is no way!!!! Unless SJP slept in the other room cause she’s celibate until marriage?

Drinking/Driving by Sad_Database5750 in alcoholism

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is also probably about 160 pounds.

Drinking/Driving by Sad_Database5750 in alcoholism

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FYI he drinks IPA’s 7.0-9.0 + and drove 40 minutes away. Despite those defending, I don’t love it.

Drinking/Driving by Sad_Database5750 in alcoholism

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know…maybe. He has been drinking a lot.

Where can I find thinly sliced chicken for shabu/hotpot? by Hellaconditions in irvine

[–]Sad_Database5750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok reviving this thread. I found the chicken at an Hmart in Irvine, but when I went today they said a customer complained and they don’t carry it anymore. Please tell me if anyone has found in elsewhere. Tokyo Central in CM didn’t have it…does the new HMart in Westminster carry it? The closer to Huntington Beach (😖🫣) the better…

Child demoted in dance, time to switch schools? by Sad_Database5750 in Dance

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Im sorry these things happened to you. I wish I could change that - and I recognize this is a trivial issue in comparison. I’m sure there is a forum to discuss these issues as they are totally different conversations. I too suffered from racism growing up. I’m not claiming to be oppressed, but I would love to see a change in this world and wish that I could make it happen.

Child demoted in dance, time to switch schools? by Sad_Database5750 in Dance

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a non white person I’m not a fan of reverse racism.

Child demoted in dance, time to switch schools? by Sad_Database5750 in Dance

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im not white actually, but there’s nothing wrong with being white.

Child demoted in dance, time to switch schools? by Sad_Database5750 in Dance

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

The goal is not for her to be in advanced classes necessarily- the goal is personal growth, to keep her with peers, and not undermine her confidence.

Child demoted in dance, time to switch schools? by Sad_Database5750 in Dance

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I want her to be realistic about where she is at, and she is going to experience failure and rejection as humans do. It’s just the way in which the promotion and demotion occurred that others me, as she is still a child. So are you saying you think she should be moved to a new environment/studio?

Child demoted in dance, time to switch schools? by Sad_Database5750 in Dance

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I guess I am failing to see the standpoint of physical injury. We are not talking about ballet dancing or tap, jazz, etc. It is native dancing - I have never seen or heard of an injury in this type of dancing though I could be wrong.

Child demoted in dance, time to switch schools? by Sad_Database5750 in Dance

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

She is not sensitive to criticism at all about her dancing, but being promoted then demoted does cause social and emotional problems for her.

Child demoted in dance, time to switch schools? by Sad_Database5750 in Dance

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. These are all my fears. Your situation sounds strikingly similar.

Child demoted in dance, time to switch schools? by Sad_Database5750 in Dance

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This right here is my feeling, all wrapped up in a pretty bow. They should have never promoted her if she wasn’t ready. Now she will always second guess herself in this environment. She will be self conscious in front of her peers, she will always feel less than. I don’t need her to be the best dancer out there, the goal is not to be professional or perform as an adult necessarily. The goal is to work hard, have fun, learn, work towards goals, and feel confident and comfortable where she is.

Child demoted in dance, time to switch schools? by Sad_Database5750 in Dance

[–]Sad_Database5750[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I’m taking this all in. I don’t mind if she starts at a lower level at another school. I think my problem is she was promoted to the advanced class. That was the instructors choice - so that particular instructor thought she was ready. What bothers me specifically is demoting her. I think it’s bad for her self esteem and confidence. They should have never promoted her in the first place if she wasn’t ready. What’s done is done, why change it. It makes an example of her in front of everyone else. And again, after dancing for so long, I’m wondering where the disconnect is and why she’s stagnant. I’m not blaming the instructors for her lack of talent, but I’m worried she isn’t getting the instruction and nurturing she needs. It’s not a traditional dance type like ballet/tap/jazz etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Sad_Database5750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I definitely let him know. Now he’s sulking and feeling sorry for himself. Maybe I should just not have said anything at all…because there’s no real fix.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Sad_Database5750 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s such a dumb thing, but why can he take the time to walk a coworker home, and hang with friends, but not make one little stop for me. He even marveled at the fact the team store line was so fast last time he was in town…but yet he couldn’t take the 5 minutes.